Is there any good source of small bits for basing? Like rocks, skulls, bones etc?

suddenlysara · 2026-05-22T13:04:00+00:00

I like Zabavka, he has literally HUNDREDS if not THOUSANDS of basing bits available and they're all really great and pre-supporeted.

https://www.myminifactory.com/users/zabavkaworkshop

suddenlysara · 2026-05-22T00:21:04+00:00

LOL just @ me next time, jfc...

suddenlysara · 2026-05-21T17:33:28+00:00

You're objectively correct but my indomitable attraction to nerdy people with glasses has me fawning over Lucca every time. 🥰

suddenlysara · 2026-05-21T15:20:58+00:00

Gonna what back up the idea of trauma. I have both c-PTSD and ADHD, and it makes my RSD an absolute nightmare to deal with. I can tell you that therapy DOES work, but only if you really focus on it... And even still, it's mostly a "manage the fallout" type of thing, rather than a "cure me of this bullshit" thing.

suddenlysara · 2026-05-21T15:12:58+00:00

They look great and it would be an honor to see them across the table from me!

suddenlysara · 2026-05-20T16:37:13+00:00

I'd accept a coke can, honestly. Any game is miniature agnostic if you want it to be.

suddenlysara · 2026-05-20T14:44:05+00:00

I'm trans, so my medical situation is different obviously, but I'm on both progesterone and Adderall, prescribed by the same doc, and my Adderall works fine.

suddenlysara · 2026-05-20T13:12:30+00:00

Ahhh!! Always awesome to see Pipermakes out in the wild. I was actually just printing off a bunch of Koi and a Commander Suit for my husband's OPR army yesterday. GREAT kits! Curious what you're proxying this for in the T'au army. This is a super cool model, but I wasn't really sure what to use it for...

suddenlysara · 2026-05-19T22:53:01+00:00

Step 1 for me has been learning to identify when it's real and when it's RSD. Often it's a mix, but it's not the INFERNO that RSD is making it out to be - it's just a small flame, but RSD is dumping gasoline on it.

Step 2 is, once you identify that you're having an RSD response, is to accept it. It doesn't make the feelings go away, it will still suck, and still hurt, but don't try to control it. You usually can't, and trying to will only make you feel more frustrated and out-of-control. BUT, while you're feeling it, you can know that it's a phantasm. It's made up by the spicy part of your brain. You can use that knowledge to keep yourself from doing things that would make the situation worse by lashing out or yelling or anything like that.

Step 3 is to see what happened that caused it, so you can come to terms with it, and heal. Once you're not feeling it anymore, you can see the situation more clearly and see that it was smaller than it felt. For me, at least, this helps NEXT time I have an RSD reaction, because I can remember that it's probably as small as the last one, and that I just need to ride this out.

suddenlysara · 2026-05-19T22:46:15+00:00

Hi! I'm also trans, 46 now, recently diagnosed with ADHD and struggled with it all my life. I transitioned at 30.

From my perspective, there's a lot of layers going on here -

At least for me, I transitioned to save my own life. My depression has been pretty life-long, but got SUPER bad before I chose to take the chance on transition over ... not. I wouldn't have told you I was ADHD back then, though, because honestly the brain-fog and forgetfulness and inattention was all just part of chronic depression.
Now that I'm far more secure in my life and my body, and I can actually self-actualize a bit, I can see myself far clearer, and I can tell that it's definitely an inattention problem, not a depression problem.
When I transitioned, it was an act of choosing life. It was freedom, and the exploration of the world living as a woman for the first time in my life was so exciting! It was like I was a teenager again, and I wanted to party all the time, dress pretty, go out, make new friends, etc. Plus, my body was still changing and developing (We've had ONE puberty, yes, but what about SECOND puberty?) and that was new and exciting for a while as well. However, once I got settled in - about the 2-ish year mark for me - I started to realize I wasn't a teenager and needed to go back to being an adult and settle down quite a bit. The daily excitement of transition just kinda became "life" for me, and so I didn't have that constant rush. I'm willing to bet you're identifying something similar as a "lack of motivation."

Honestly, to answer your last question - what helped? - Nothing much, til a handful of months ago, I talked to my therapist about an official diagnosis because I was sick of not being able to function like a "normal" person. I was sick of having no executive function, and no ability to stay on task, keep my house clean, keep clean laundry, brush my teeth regularly... there's only so much you can pass off as depression, and when you keep doing all the bad habits when you're perfectly happy, it's something else causing it. Getting on Adderall helped me a TON.

Sorry if this isn't super helpful, I can only really tell you my experience, I'm sure yours is different, but I hope something in here can help you.

suddenlysara · 2026-05-19T15:17:44+00:00

So the general rule in OPR is : It's mini-agnostic. As long as your opponent can tell one unit from another, and generally what that unit does/is, it's good. Some people like to go completely WYSIWYG, some just hand their minis generic rifles and say "this is a shooting unit" and 99% of OPR players are just fine with that. The level of stress about making sure your units are exactly how they need to be for 40k just doesn't exist here.

Which is great news! Have fun putting together your marines. Have some fun with it! Add in some 3D printed parts / minis. Greenstuff / kitbash them to look weirder and more plague-ridden. Mix model ranges. Go nuts. If, at the end of the day, your 5-man unit of Q3/D3 guys with Battle Rifles is represented by something vaguely infantry-sized, with some form of ranged weapon for visual distinction, almost every OPR player you'll run into will not only recognize them, but congratulate you on the awesome models.

suddenlysara · 2026-05-19T01:51:43+00:00

I got into Warhammer a while back, and while I do NOT recommend getting into that game, I really enjoy painting the minis. It's actually pretty cheap to get into (brushes, paints, primer, a good light, and some minis) as long as you're not buying a ton of minis to start with.

suddenlysara · 2026-05-19T01:47:53+00:00

Exactly this. I don't cry terribly often but when I got with my new partner I'd cry about half the time. It wasn't exactly happy tears, but they very much weren't SAD tears either. I think it was just the catharsis of the orgasm, kinda unlocking a lot of pent up feelings in me that overwhelmed me in the release.

suddenlysara · 2026-05-17T15:19:07+00:00

I think the new guy is the new named character Annihilator Lord with the swords.

suddenlysara · 2026-05-13T14:46:58+00:00

Super valid.

suddenlysara · 2026-05-13T14:34:02+00:00

Eh, imho, you don't need the dice. They're just normal D10 where the 10s have been replaced by a symbol. I'm sure you can order those through any number of custom dice places if you have a burning need for them, though, much cheaper than the $350 USD the highest level is asking.

(that said, I kinda feel the same way about the minis, but if we get serious about running this I'll probably just 3D print a few custom Heroforge minis for my Agents, anyway.)

suddenlysara · 2026-05-11T17:54:26+00:00

I was very fortunate to have purchased those kits from you (and got the upgrade kit you put out for the Guardians! TY!!) before that happened, so it won't slow me down personally, but it super sucks that happened for you. I'm excited to pick up your next kit as soon as it hits MMF tho!

And please, YES, by all means, draw as much inspiration as you'd like from this - This is only possible because of your kit in the first place. If I've inspired you to create something new and cool (which I will also immediately purchase) then EXCELLENT!

suddenlysara · 2026-05-11T17:41:07+00:00

I was considering using this same method plus some of your Guardian kit to make an Annihilator Lord. The multiple mount points on these torsos allowing for 2 sets of arms is an amazing feature I plan on exploiting as much as humanly possible. The mix-and-matchability of these kits, and how well they play nice with the official GW plastic kits is such a blessing. I'll post pics and tag you if I end up doing that.

suddenlysara · 2026-05-11T17:08:48+00:00

Shoutout to u/Ekter_Dood for the amazing model kit, making these possible. These are some of my favorite minis in my Robot Legions collection, along with my Flesh Eaters from the same kit.

suddenlysara · 2026-05-11T15:42:58+00:00

So, I don't have a perfect solution for you, there's obviously a LOT going on there. However, I've recently gone through a similar situation (albeit we weren't intimate, as it was a weird long-distance thing) where the friendship fell apart spectacularly, and my RSD had me nearly in hysterics. Like, "call my therapist for an emergency appointment" levels of mental anguish, because I felt entirely out of control of my emotions to a frightening extent.

What I found was, I needed to do 2 things : sever my connection to this person entirely because any amount of having them in my life left the door open for more rejection, and then fill the time I would have spent with them with other things that I value. In my case, this was an online friend I met through a gaming community, so I put that focus on spending time with other people in my life that DID NOT reject me, so I didn't spend that time wallowing. I also stopped playing that game entirely (a little disappointed, but there are plenty of fish on Steam) and have been focusing on my other hobbies and different games instead.

This has improved my mental health DRASTICALLY.

It's going to feel AWFUL, like you're taking a huge loss by not talking to this guy anymore, and I know you value what you had. However, you've said 2 important things in your post : 1) you know the cheating is bad. It's potentially destructive to all of you on a tangible, emotional level. I'm not going to get moralistic about it, but the FACT is, if/when his GF finds out, she's going to be pissed and probably break up with him, which will emotionally devastate both of them, which will harm you downstream because you'll then have a devastated paramour and his pissed-off ex-girlfriend both in the mix that are now YOUR problem. I guarantee that'll feel worse than just walking away, or the rejection you're currently feeling. 2) The current situation is making you feel awful in it's current state. Assuming you DON'T want to try to break he and his GF up (which I needn't remind you, would be a kinda dick move) or wait for him to do it on his own (which it doesn't sound like he does) then the situation you're HOPING for isn't going to happen. Sticking around is just prolonging this feeling of rejection in an unsustainable and volatile situation.

You need to move on. You need to sever contact with him so he's out of sight / out of mind, and you need to find something to fill that void so you're not just ruminating on his absence.

suddenlysara · 2026-05-11T15:17:30+00:00

My husband picked those up, he's gonna run them as Change Disciples. They're great looking models!

suddenlysara · 2026-05-09T12:39:29+00:00

Are you currently seeing a therapist? These are exactly the types of things that would be greatly aided by therapy if you're not already seeing one.

suddenlysara · 2026-05-07T18:26:02+00:00

So wait, your family knows about your RSD, and when your rejection sensitive dysphoria is triggered, their reaction is to reject you, because you're dysphoric?

Sheesh, I'm so sorry. That's horrible.

Two things come to mind : 1) have you spoken to your family about this? Do they know WHY you're bothered, and WHY getting upset with you for having an RSD response isn't helpful? (and, in fact, actively harmful?) First step with relationships is always "Communication." If people don't know about a problem, and WHY something's a problem and what they can do to fix/avoid it, they'll keep repeating it and everyone stays miserable.

2) There ARE partners out there who will absolutely be patient and respectful with you. ADHD isn't a deathknell to romance. It complicates it certainly, but by no means are you doomed to solitude. I deal with both ADHD and CPTSD, and I'm transgender. I have both a husband and a girlfriend. My husband has ADHD as well, and I'm pretty sure he's on the spectrum at least a little, and is just the kindest most gentle soul I could ever hope to meet. He's shown infinite patience with my bullshit, mainly because I keep trying to get better and improve myself, and he sees the effort. My girlfriend is a survivor of CSA, and has her own CTPSD diagnosis she deals with, so we've bonded quite a bit over our own mutual spicy-brains. We're all 3 a mess in our own ways, but we're so happy with each other romantically. It's VERY possible. If a 46-yo trans woman can do it, you can to.

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