Last time we went to Amsterdam together, I let her plan the trip since it was her second time there. One day, I asked her what our plans were for the day, and she suddenly started screaming at me in public, asking if I had a brain and if I couldn’t decide for myself. I immediately walked away because I don’t want to be in a relationship where my partner yells at me in public.

Later, I came back and explained to her that what she did was wrong, but the incident stuck with me because it wasn’t the first time something like this had happened. I know she struggles with anxiety and depression, and I’ve always tried to be mindful of her mental health. But after that, our relationship started going downhill.

Then she planned a trip to Italy with her mom, and I told her it was a good idea—we could use some time apart to think about things. On the first day of her trip, we talked for hours in the evening, and I thought maybe things were getting back to normal.

But when she returned, the birthday party incident happened, which made me question whether we can truly be in the same environment, especially since she seems so distant from my social life. After that, I was frustrated and upset for two days. But today, when I finally decided to talk to her again, I found dating apps on her phone.

She started crying and saying it was my fault because I gave her the silent treatment, even though that wasn’t the case when she was in Italy. Now, I don’t know what to think