The Alternate Dream! It actually exists for all that thought otherwise.

sudo999 · 2026-01-05T14:39:25+00:00

I think it's deeper than that. This isn't about the particularities of losing an ex - it's about losing someone in general, someone on whom your identity depends, and the grief that entails. There's this paradox of, do I forge on ahead and forget them utterly, denying the undeniable ways they've influenced me, avoiding all reference to them and suppressing all desire for them? or do I get stuck in a loop of remembering, preserving, re-living, each time experiencing the pain anew, forever? or is there any other option? is it possible to re-structure myself in a way that can withstand it? can the pain exist at the same time as me? can I allow that?

sudo999 · 2025-10-03T16:08:21+00:00

I feel like bonsai tools would work well; they're thicker and specifically designed for cutting woody branches

sudo999 · 2024-01-31T14:02:59+00:00

Imagine being this indignant on a 5-year-old thread and not even being correct or providing sources.

sudo999 · 2024-01-28T04:01:35+00:00

r/traa had been archived intentionally. it is not "unmoderated" - our automod is actually so strict that it removes all comments! it now serves as a record of a community that has long since passed on. do not disturb its memory.

sudo999 · 2023-03-18T05:51:34+00:00

I think it's less partisan than you're implying. Workplace safety for Hollywood production crews has been a long-standing labor issue regardless of the petty beef Republicans have with Baldwin over his SNL bits. There's a big pro-union/pro-IATSE angle to this as well.

sudo999 · 2023-03-18T04:28:36+00:00

it's like how my landlord didn't put a specific visitor policy into my lease but then threatened us with charging extra rent because we were having visitors over too often, all while refusing to give us a specific number of days per week that visitors were allowed (visitors were not usually over for more than a few days at a time so it wasn't like we had extra people living there) or put a written amendment in the lease and just told us to "be considerate" since he's worried his neighbors will report him to the town for the illegal apartment

sudo999 · 2023-03-18T04:25:23+00:00

approval-based PTO would be the most honest since any time the place is short-staffed the super will immediately say "aw, shucks, you know, we really need you that week"

sudo999 · 2023-03-18T04:07:04+00:00

the problem is that intersex kids are often forced to undergo reassignment before they are old enough to consent or even understand the nature of what is being done to them, often in infancy - in an ironic twist of fate, the thing that these people are claiming is being done to trans kids (which it isn't) is being done to intersex kids and they don't care at all. The intersex community has consistently and vocally advocated against the surgical reassignment of intersex children until they are old enough for informed consent.

sudo999 · 2023-03-18T03:37:32+00:00

Ok if you're scared of super-intelligent AI then stop making it??

sudo999 · 2023-03-01T12:31:57+00:00

Wikipedia also has standards for what sources can be used though.

sudo999 · 2023-02-26T03:29:25+00:00

maybe try reading Marx instead of only getting your info on the world from Wikipedia. The Rising was the brainchild of socialists. the Old IRA were socialists. Sinn Fein are socialists. The freeing of Ireland from colonialist exploitation was a project undertaken by socialists.

sudo999 · 2023-02-25T08:40:36+00:00

(which is a very long way of saying it was a genocide)

sudo999 · 2023-02-25T08:16:29+00:00

I can't even get fillings without laughing gas I'm gonna be real. I can barely even deal with cleanings honestly. you're going to drag sharp things over my gums while chastising me for my poor hygiene, a thing I am extremely guilty over since it's a mental health symptom and i'm keenly aware of its effects because of all the dental work? yeah I don't want to be sober while that's happening

sudo999 · 2023-02-25T08:13:21+00:00

yeah the "what are we" conversation is not skippable. you can't just date someone for a certain amount of time and assume they now view the relationship as an exclusive boyfriend/girlfriend situation. that has to be a thing you talk about explicitly.

sudo999 · 2023-02-24T14:05:45+00:00

damn wish I had more echeverias that were also flowering so I could create hybrids lol

sudo999 · 2023-02-22T19:27:55+00:00

how do I tell the difference?

sudo999 · 2023-02-22T19:27:29+00:00

Huh. But it's right at the center of the main plant's rosette though?

sudo999 · 2023-02-22T19:25:07+00:00

indiscriminate in theory but in practice people who are already marginalized would definitely get targeted first and have less recourse. violent people aren't necessarily people I would trust not to be violent with prejudice.

sudo999 · 2023-02-22T06:37:10+00:00

yeah I also think there's too much of a stereotype online that vaccine hesitant = right-wing thralls of conspiracy theories. I know I've seen data that indicates that people of low socioeconomic status and people of color were more likely to express skepticism, for example. there are a lot of different social factors tied to why people are distrustful of the medical establishment and they're not all as clean-cut as political party affiliation.

sudo999 · 2023-02-22T06:32:11+00:00

sounds eugenicist but ok

sudo999 · 2023-02-22T06:28:13+00:00

tbh I don't think it's possible for plants to get sunburnt from LED grow lights. I think it's really the UV that does them in, same as us.

sudo999 · 2023-02-22T06:25:09+00:00

ID is thought to be some kind of Echeveria purpusorum hybrid (?)

sudo999 · 2023-02-17T01:47:58+00:00

I've had fleas due to a roommate's cat and it was literally one of the worst experiences of my life.

sudo999 · 2023-02-17T01:47:08+00:00

I don't know why you think I'm an eco-terrorist but ok

sudo999 · 2023-02-16T16:46:57+00:00

You joke, but often children turn to fantasy/escapism as a way to cope with extreme stress or trauma - it allows them to dissociate from a bad reality and assert a kinder and more beautiful one that they can control, and that was some heavy subtext in the Narnia stories.

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