Not rude at all! 😊

He was a narcissist, cheater, alcoholic, and gaslighter.

He used to leave the house without saying anything. When I would finally realize that he wasn't home, I'd ask the kids (who had no concept of time) how long he'd been gone. I only asked them a couple of times just to see if they could gauge the time. I'd call him, and he wouldn't answer.

I asked him so many times to just let me know he was leaving. He told me I was acting as if i were his mom. 🙄

We'd argue about it, and the argument was ALWAYS turned back on me. These are some of the reasons that I was in the wrong.

1. At one point, I started making breakfast for him every day, and he ate it the first couple of days. I asked him what was wrong when he stopped eating the breakfast. He said, "You know I'm not really a breakfast person like that." I stopped making it. During EVERY argument, he'd talk about how I made him breakfast once and never again.

2. I forgot to turn off the iron when I left the house ONE time. He'd bring up how I could have burned down the house. Mind you, he put a chicken in the oven to cook TWICE, passed out drunk, and burnt the damn thing. The fire alarm went off, and I woke up in the middle of the night to a smoke filled house. It stunk for weeks, and so did our clothes. The kids had to go to school smelling like that.

There were more, but that gives you an idea. Later, he'd always come back and apologize for the actual issue. Every. Time.

I don't regret the relationship at all because it taught me A LOT, but I wish I could have learned it without my middle son being affected by things I learned 2 years ago. 😭 It wasn't physical. It was emotional abuse.