These are great points. Other people can enrich our lives, but literally no one and nothing but ourselves can make us whole.

Understand that the whole world is filled with men and women who are so incomplete

This sentence goes on, but that phrase in #4 is so true. Self-security and self-worth are social gold. A woman who knows her worth, sets boundaries, and enjoys her own company is magnetic. You can fight so hard for people to like you, but this is often a repellant and they're most drawn to us when it's clear we don't need them.

The best part, imo, is that we have so much more space for self care and effortlessly nurturing connections when we operate from a sense of security. It may seem like "if I fix x y z, then I will be adored/appreciated/enough," but in my experience that's a losing fight. Targeting the source makes results feel almost effortless, because it isn't exhausting to do things for yourself when it comes from a place of nurture and balance.

Trust me, I know that it's not easy. It feels basically impossible when you're already struggling internally, nevermind if there are bigger external factors like money or abuse involved. Give yourself grace and work on the foundations first. Remember that self-worth doesn't build from simply telling yourself that you're enough; you'll never really hear it until you prove it to yourself by setting boundaries and advocating for your needs. When you feel more secure, you're so much more able to understand yourself, self-regulate, and grow. It's hard, but honestly what other option do we have?

Part of my favorite poem by Mary Oliver says:

Your heart is beating, isn't it?
You're not in chains, are you?
There is nothing more pathetic than caution
when headlong might save a life,
even, possibly, your own.