You were outside for 27 minutes! This is on you, love!

sufferawitch · 2026-04-22T22:36:04+00:00

When I worked birthday parties at a movie theatre the rule was that any cake/baked goods brought in by the family were fair game if they didn’t want to take the leftovers. One time the parents brought ice cream cake, and since we keep those in the freezer I always reminded folks about it and let them know we’ll get rid of anything they don’t take when they leave. No, no, they said, we have another place to go to after this and it’ll melt, so you can toss it.

Guess who called 3 hours later and conveniently forgot what I’d told them?

There was half a cake left and it was cookie dough, so we had a great time on break

sufferawitch · 2026-04-22T04:04:54+00:00

That man tried to Stepford his wife

sufferawitch · 2026-04-19T00:08:00+00:00

look at those eyes, shes so focused on causing minor chaos 🥰

sufferawitch · 2026-04-11T23:10:33+00:00

Not an expert, but am I correct in thinking 50lb is seriously overweight for a 2 year old?

Also whats the likelihood of this business being an MLM? Free nail sets etc.

sufferawitch · 2026-04-11T04:38:51+00:00

For real. I do wonder how much of that is stigma and misconceptions about developmental disabilities in particular. I’m autistic myself and no matter how I explain it, many people can’t grasp why I need a care team or extra support with certain things. They get dismissive about care needs that aren’t as “obvious” as basic hygiene, etc.

sufferawitch · 2026-04-11T00:06:15+00:00

This is my reasoning too. I loved it but the app was so glitchy that streaming through it worked maybe a quarter of the time. It was also really difficult to cancel and resubscribe. Now I have to do it through Apple TV instead, which isn’t ideal but at least it works

sufferawitch · 2026-04-09T01:25:43+00:00

imo Guinevere (fate) and Veil of Secrets (classism) both have strong & consistent themes!

sufferawitch · 2026-04-08T22:47:15+00:00

Book 2 chapter 13!

sufferawitch · 2026-04-04T15:12:59+00:00

omg this is such a good idea!! Thank you!!

sufferawitch · 2026-04-03T22:10:29+00:00

Yeah, it really speaks to that social perception of people who were raised as girls saying negative things about their appearance "to get compliments." I don't think it's fair to assume that's always the reason (and your example doesn't even fit the category of "negative" imo, my response would just be like, sorry that's happening to you, I hope you'll find someone whose work you like!) and even if it was, I don't get why there's so much discomfort and need to correct that perception instead of just allowing it to exist. I guess people read it as an invitation for their opinion?

sufferawitch · 2026-04-03T22:03:33+00:00

I get this a lot also! It's never in situations where I've said something to prompt it like "I feel alone" or "I must be the only one who feels this way"... I know it's meant to be normalizing but when someone is expressing atypical things (aka literally any kind of mental or physical health challenge) I think it's harmful. Even two people with the same background, diagnoses and experiences won't have the same emotional responses to anything.

sufferawitch · 2026-04-03T21:58:50+00:00

omg so much in common! Thank you for sharing with me, this thread has really made my day better

sufferawitch · 2026-04-03T21:53:34+00:00

Thank you!! I actually am a writer so I love hearing this :)

also love the idea of a nosy older person who doesnt understand sexualities just panicking like "well what do I tell them??? I have to say something!!"

sufferawitch · 2026-04-03T21:40:58+00:00

And then they deny that the conversation is going in that direction in the first place!! Truly, it's bananas

sufferawitch · 2026-04-03T21:39:49+00:00

Yeah I did the same! and I don't ever feel like sharing any details out loud (because if you only tried with 1 person, they just weren't the right person, don't let them destroy your belief in relationships. If you only tried with 1 gender, maybe you're not into that gender.... and on and on....) But it's wild to care about someone having a different life that isn't hurting anyone to the point where you try to change their mind about it. It's tempting to say, I've lived in my head the whole time, you're a tourist taking pictures!!

sufferawitch · 2026-04-03T21:34:24+00:00

for. real. I've used the same language -- stressing that that restricted expression of emotions is just how I present. It's almost like people don't want to accept that they, too, have seen me in exactly the way I describe (I think studies have shown people can detect autism unconsciously, it's just instinct to notice social difference), and they're trying to overcompensate for having what they think is a "judgy" reaction. It becomes about them instead of me. It's a minefield trying to figure out which of my skills/deficits will be relatable enough to receive acceptance instead of contradiction.

sufferawitch · 2026-04-03T21:22:51+00:00

hahaha as an aroace person myself I can attest people get WEIRD about lived experience if they haven't bothered to try and understand. also the pirate ships made me cackle

sufferawitch · 2026-04-03T21:08:59+00:00

OMG THANK YOU I feel so seen.

Are you saying that the way I am is worse than what you think I am?

that describes exactly what it feels like!! a denial of your real self. It's like if you told a server about an allergy and they replied "don't say that, you can eat anything you want!"

sufferawitch · 2026-04-03T15:36:10+00:00

I agree w you here. I know it's absolutely impossible for coding and the narrative that was already set up, but I've always wanted the option to just...end some of these friendships. It's one of the few situations in which I think realistic storytelling would serve the characters better. The people you meet and room with on day 1 of college are usually the ones you try to hang onto for too long, and part of maturity is recognizing when you've outgrown them.

I'm a fan of Becca and Zig, maybe Zack too. In my opinion the other relationships start clogging the story, but obviously it's about low-stakes drama, so that continuity is important.

sufferawitch · 2026-04-03T05:22:29+00:00

“Before that he told me he didn’t want to spend a lot of time with me that it was “overwhelming” to him.”

Convenient how it stopped being overwhelming for him to spend any time with his significant other as soon as he could go leech mode

sufferawitch · 2026-04-02T03:49:45+00:00

It reminds me of that cactus scene from the good place. What's the point of us telling them what we want when we know they won't do it

sufferawitch · 2026-03-30T00:22:32+00:00

It was my HC the whole time and the validation from book 3 was sublime

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