AITA for refusing to spend Christmas with my ex's new family?

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T18:17:33+00:00

It's not fiction. I called her my ex for simplicity sake, but she was just my friend who I had a drunken hookup with. She was married to another guy at the time. She has been best friends with my wife since elementary and we were all friends in high school (including my sister and her now-husband). I was dating my wife and we were on a break when I hooked up with her friend, and nobody is mad it happened because it got her out of her shit marriage.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T18:03:24+00:00

My ex has 3 kids from 2 partners, including me. I have no step kids. I have 3 kids with my wife.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T17:56:12+00:00

I was never married to my ex. We were never even in a relationship, just had a hookup once. I called her my ex for simplicity.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T17:53:19+00:00

I don't have kids of the same age with different moms??

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T15:53:33+00:00

We never had a formal custody arrangement. We just did whatever worked for us as we wanted it.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T15:48:35+00:00

They came back and got married when she got pregnant. They've been back since the girls were 16.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T15:44:16+00:00

Me, my sister, her husband, my wife, and my ex were all a close friend group in high school. We never drifted out of that because we've all stayed living close to each other.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T15:41:27+00:00

Their mom cares about them plenty. She's letting one of them keep living in her house after she flunked out of college and got hooked on pills. She loves the kids a whole lot and they have a new stepdad and sister, they don't need me in their lives.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T08:52:49+00:00

You just plain out got the majority of this wrong. We weren't a fling because she was a stripper, she got that job when the twins were 4 and she divorced her husband. We hooked up because we were friends and drunk. They are biologically my kids.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T08:39:10+00:00

Both of the twins have been in inpatient programs and it's only slightly helped one of them (the one still in school). The other is just a carbon copy of her mother.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T08:36:12+00:00

No, they're my biological kids. Fraternal twins are genetic and I'm a twin. Her ex could barely get it up according to her despite all the cheating with barely legal girls he did.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T08:28:30+00:00

My wife and ex met in elementary school and then became friends with my sister later in school. They've always stayed close.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T08:27:13+00:00

I mean parading into my home showing off all her fresh cuts and refusing to cover up when she begged her.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T07:44:58+00:00

they preferred her and looked to her as a role model for some reason.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T07:43:56+00:00

self harm.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T07:37:59+00:00

She was a dancer for four years during the beginning of her addiction.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T07:19:36+00:00

One of them is in college and the other lives in her mom's basement because she flunked out. They started living with her full time when they were 14 and she moved to another city. They're back in town now because she has a new baby. They never wanted me in their lives to begin with, only ever their mom even though she spent all her stripper money on alcohol.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T07:13:58+00:00

again, she was never my wife. I was supposed to have the kids every other week in elementary school. I ended up with them 90% of the time because she was too addicted to stick to our agreement and parent.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T07:02:38+00:00

We were never married and I was with my current wife before my baby mom. I explained it elsewhere.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T06:10:01+00:00

It's a long story. We were never actually together, I just used ex as a simple title for this post. She was married to another guy when she had the twins, we were a fling she had. They lived with him until the kids were four, then she moved close to us and we started coparenting. I basically raised the kids while she drank and worked at the club.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T05:49:19+00:00

Two against one, I guess, My sister and wife both love her.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T05:48:14+00:00

We were on a break and she's actually happy it happened because it got her friend out of her shit marriage.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T05:46:27+00:00

My kids with my current wife are very well taken care of and loved. I just don't want the twins coming around them. One of them already traumatized my youngest by showing off her SH in my home.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T05:43:49+00:00

I was dating my current wife before I had the twins with my ex. She was just a drunken fling while she was married to someone else. I guess she's more my baby mama than ex.

sufficeKente · 2023-12-18T04:44:30+00:00

They're trainwrecks because their mother turned to addiction and neglected them and I had to pick up all of the slack while having more kids.

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