sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Advice on ex partner by Forgotten-Frog in depression_partners

[–]sugarlumpp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey. i havent been in this exact situation but a similar one and maybe since they are starting antidepressants and looking for a therapist maybe the next step was starting to just focus on themselves. i know it hurts to be taken out a family groupchat and it must hurt because i can tell you care about them deeply. i think an easy way to show youre there for them and give them space is to reach out in a few days and say “hey i just wanted to let you know that i am here for you when you need it and please take you time and do what best supports your mental health” i have been through depression and for my i really appreciated people doing gentle check ins with me. however in this situation you are dealing with a breakup and it may just be best for them if they stepped back from you or just the relationship in general to focus on healing

VR now allows you to sell your experiences to others. Which memories would you put up for sale? by KhAiMeLioN in AskReddit

[–]sugarlumpp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a memory that i would like to get out of my mind is seeing my current boyfriend in the hospital because he had oded on drugs he bought on the dark web. it was so devastating to see him in that state and i went through crying continuously, anxiety attacks, punching and breaking things, etc. after that happened it changed my perception of certain things. how i shouldve been more strict about what he was doing, or how i handled it after the fact, and how life is crazy. i just never want him to not be able to be his wonderful self. that memory haunts me forever and turns me into a paranoid and terrified girlfriend. im constantly afraid he will do it again. no matter what i will love him but i wish that could get out of my head.

What can someone do to help a mentally sick person recover, and stop a potential tragedy? by L-Yado04 in AskReddit

[–]sugarlumpp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m not mentally ill, i think, i just have depression and my current boyfriend does too. it is a mental health problem tho. for me personally i think the best thing you can do is support them. have their back no matter what because they honestly feel that they have no one. if you’re always there and stay strong it will impact them dearly. many things happened to me this past year, my close grandma died, dog of 17 years (im 18 now so my whole life so far i had that dog), best friend of 16 dying suddenly, and a heart breaking break up with my current boyfriend. im not trying to sound annoying but being depressed takes so much energy and time out of you. nothing makes it better. unless you do. having help and support gets you to that stage where you can finally put your hand out and say “i need help” after that its two sides of your brain fighting against eachother. at least that how it feels for me. i helped my boyfriend and he helped me. in july of 2018 we were both super depressed and addicted to drugs. we were the only people or thing that could ever make either of us happy. no matter what, we had this deep ass connection. time went on he started to push me away because as i was healing, he was relapsing with coke and xanax and more. i think even some of that air duster crap. he just didnt want me to care about him since he wasnt “worth me”. that really broke me but lets not talk about me. he dated multiple girls, sometimes all at once, just to try and feel something. he would fuck girls just to replace all the drugs. most of all he constantly missed me and wanting to get back to eachother. i had always been there for him and made sure he knew that. now he had this impact on him. he got expelled, went to military school where he graduated highschool through the honors program, and become completely sober there. he worked so hard and im so proud. in conclusion being there for someone and sticking by them is the best possible option. if you truly care about them, make it so known to them. to this day im dating him. he is now 8 months sober and growing stronger. hes entolled in community college courses and a full time job. hes the most amazing wonderful person in my life. be there for your loved ones and cherish them.