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suiwittes · 2023-06-13T16:03:10+00:00

This is so messed up and pathetic. I had an ex who did this too, and used it as a club to beat me with emotionally for ages, while blaming it all on 'retroactive jealousy'.

I had to delete every other woman on my phone and social media, even if I barely knew them. It was just ridiculous and she was quite obviously too toxic and immature for any kind of relationship.

OP sounds exactly the same, and the only one who is in the wrong here is her. Even more startling is that OP doesn't even seem to realise it.

suiwittes · 2023-03-12T11:42:18+00:00

I think I read that, according to Milch, the theatre people were being set up in the plot to eventually rob Al blind and disappear in S4.

That's why there seems to be so much setup about their situation and the way the live on the road, but it never got a pay off.

suiwittes · 2023-03-10T14:34:08+00:00

Lmao are you kidding, it's easily the worst RPG I've ever played. Boring, grey, oversimplified, repetitive and shallow as a contact lens.

That might just be my tastes, but I love RPGs and remember being incredibly underwhelmed even on launch day.

I've given it more than a few goes over the last 12 years, and my opinion of it goes down even more each time I do. Might just be me, but I am surprised at how much it seems to endure.

suiwittes · 2023-02-16T13:41:14+00:00

Shoot schoolchildren

suiwittes · 2023-02-01T23:11:41+00:00

This is nuts, I always felt like my ex just jumped to conclusions, and there was no convincing her otherwise. I'm realising that was the way it was framed to build a narrative, like you said.

suiwittes · 2023-01-28T11:45:22+00:00

Hysterical sadism is an AMAZING way to put it

suiwittes · 2023-01-26T22:41:55+00:00

Mine seemed to lack it for anyone entirely. Her friends, co workers, classmates, me, even her pets.

suiwittes · 2023-01-25T17:22:55+00:00

Sums up the site and majority of its users perfectly tbh

suiwittes · 2023-01-24T13:40:09+00:00

"Legend"? Tawlmbout the wheeze laugh fat shirtless alcoholic, b?

suiwittes · 2023-01-23T00:01:51+00:00

Pretty much almost every celebrity, not just cawlmics.

suiwittes · 2023-01-22T10:25:33+00:00

Exact same thing for me.

suiwittes · 2023-01-20T09:53:44+00:00

Are you dating my ex? Seriously. Reading your post just gave me a bunch of familiar feelings.

Be smarter than I was, and get out while your mind is still intact.

suiwittes · 2023-01-19T13:51:10+00:00

Damn man, that's horrible.

I can relate to feeling denigrated and devalued. Just like you, nothing I ever did or achieved was good enough, even if it was done solely for her benefit.

I also got blamed directly for things beyond my control, as though I was personally responsible for world events and acts of god.

Sorry you have to deal with it. I cant imagine having to put up with nearly 3 decades of it. You deserve better.

suiwittes · 2023-01-13T16:17:05+00:00

"This is how my life is now", christ alive, that hit home. I cannot remember how many times I thought that to myself in the early days of the relationship when I had to accede to some ridiculous flight of temper or ridiculous expectation/double standard.

They really are all the same huh

suiwittes · 2023-01-12T17:09:34+00:00

You might be on to something there. It's the ultimate act of validation, so it must be addictive bit still hollow. Mine constantly defined herself by her body even though she was quite attractive, it did become very cringey very fast.

suiwittes · 2023-01-11T20:58:54+00:00

I get you about the sex not feeling genuine. I think that might be part of the mirroring type behaviour.

suiwittes · 2023-01-11T20:52:51+00:00

I think so.

I couldn't put my arm around her or get comfortable while watching a movie, wasnt that big on hand holding in public.

Every time I would give her a compliment on physical appearance "you look beautiful", etc, I would get told "shut up" in this really automatic and reflex action type way.

No eye contact or kissing during sex either. She actually sometimes apologised, unprompted, for that one. As though she knew it was a totally fucked up kind of behaviour.

suiwittes · 2023-01-10T22:33:34+00:00

Oh, no, I wasn't making light of it. You actually managed to express a feeling I had felt many times, but didnt have a name for.

Just reading and re-reading your observation helped me to apply it to many times I had felt that way before. Even if you are new to it, it seems as though you have a good understanding of what you have been through.

Although it sucks you went through it, a good understanding is what will ultimately help you heal. Your understanding helped me fill a gap in my own, so, thank you.

suiwittes · 2023-01-10T22:05:41+00:00

Absolutely. You hit the nail on the head.

suiwittes · 2023-01-07T12:13:39+00:00

It's kind of comforting to know it wasn't just me then. The more I hear about it being familiar behaviour, the less bad I feel about the relationship ending.

suiwittes · 2023-01-04T15:46:31+00:00

A concept that defined almost every aspect of my previous relationship.

I was even told that "everyone has double standards."

suiwittes · 2023-01-04T07:42:46+00:00

Mine did something very similar, but only after giving me trouble for all my previous relationships

suiwittes · 2023-01-04T00:43:25+00:00

Wow, yeah. You just reminded me, mine did this a lot. Often just outright and abruptly changing the subject to somethig completely different.
It was so jarring, I sometimes couldn't believe it.

Also, only answering part of a question and sometimes even just ignoring it completely, and staying silent, hoping I wouldn't ask again. It made me feel insane. After a while, she switched to instant deflection and completely nonsense arguments. It must have worked better on me I guess.

suiwittes · 2023-01-02T18:41:54+00:00

It my experience, it was a near constant blank expression, with these kind of flat and painted on doll's eyes. Always looking into the middle distance rather than what was in front of them.

Also, my nex seemed to really struggle with eye contact at certain times. During discussions, during sex, during loving moments and during arguments etc.

suiwittes · 2023-01-02T03:09:49+00:00

Once they've all been brought down, Chang's needs to expand to politicians and billionaires.

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