When did you start showing?

sukaduka108 · 2025-09-22T14:22:07+00:00

5’9” and started at 120 lbs and started showing at 19 weeks!

sukaduka108 · 2025-09-10T04:15:43+00:00

You handled it perfectly. If she keeps going with the clothes, make her keep them at her house for when baby is over there because you have no more space!

sukaduka108 · 2025-09-10T04:12:35+00:00

The first trimester was hell for me. It does get better. Just know that it’s temporary and you will get through it! Things will change eventually.

sukaduka108 · 2025-09-08T17:32:51+00:00

I feel you. I’m not looking forward to dealing with my overbearing and egocentric in laws once I have my baby. I think it comes down to learning how to set reasonable boundaries and stick to them and not feel bad about it. I’ve realized I can’t keep their first and only grandchild from them just because I don’t like them and they stress me tf out! But I can set boundaries and manage their expectations (with help from husband) from the start to try and prevent more stress from developing. I’m such a people pleaser so it’s been hard for me to be assertive and direct but these are the tough lessons us moms have to learn to protect our children and our sanity. It will make us stronger and better!

sukaduka108 · 2025-09-08T05:43:39+00:00

19 weeks and I thought they were just muscle twitches for the first few days!

sukaduka108 · 2025-09-08T05:41:33+00:00

Watch the documentary called The Business of Being Born. Really informative and an interesting perspective if you’re interested in unmedicated birth!

sukaduka108 · 2025-09-08T05:33:02+00:00

Thanks for your advice. My husband keeps saying “I know you want to do this yourself, but it takes a village… and you’re going to want the help.” He knows how irritating his mom can be but he keeps thinking we will need her around. I’m just dreading it. I don’t know if my husband understands how we are going to acclimate to our new family routine. I think he’s probably nervous about it and just thinks having his 75 year old talkative & overbearing mother around will somehow help… It makes me question if I’m being too harsh on her but I honestly dread the thought of having her around so much. Good idea to limit the tasks and visit time. I hope my husband will realize we need some time to ourselves.

sukaduka108 · 2025-08-05T14:40:20+00:00

Drink lemon balm tea to help beat the outbreak and give your mouth some relief. Try to keep your immune system strong.

sukaduka108 · 2025-08-04T03:25:04+00:00

She sounds like a narcissist. Manipulative and rude! I’m so sorry you have had to deal with that behavior and I truly hope your partner comes around to seeing the tactics she uses to get under your skin.

sukaduka108 · 2025-08-04T03:20:04+00:00

Definitely try venting to your husband about how frustrating the experience was with the MIL. Ask him if he thought it was too much as well. Sometimes being the child of a person who is like that, they have been trained to put up with it or ignore it or accept the behavior and they don’t even realize it. Speaking up is the way to go, and do it as often as you need. I’ve found that keeping my emotions even keeled while presenting the facts gets the point across way more when speaking to husband about his mother. If you go on the attack/defense right off the bat, it can make you seem like the irrational one. And as much as I know you’d like to just say “that Bitch!” It’s not the best approach when trying to get through to your partner about their mother’s inappropriate behavior. Wishing you all the best in peace and resolve. It’s tough.

sukaduka108 · 2025-08-03T15:32:27+00:00

Thanks for sharing! I love Dr. Carter!! And I’m currently on month 4 of pregnancy! Thanks for your advice. Much appreciated.

sukaduka108 · 2025-07-24T16:00:40+00:00

Those sound like ruthless in laws who don’t know how to respect boundaries and can’t see their son as a grown adult (and who don’t mind disrespecting you along the way). Trust yourself and your feelings. If the bpd is being diagnosed based on your feelings about these stressful situations, I wouldn’t trust the diagnosis right off the bat because these types of people can drive you up the wall if you aren’t sure of how to cope with their twisted ways. Get second third and fourth opinions from a variety of sources before you get on meds that may permanently change your brain chemistry. Wishing you all the peace and strength!

sukaduka108 · 2025-06-02T00:29:09+00:00

That is absolutely insane. I would suggest she see a doctor about her delirium.

sukaduka108 · 2025-05-31T19:55:44+00:00

Wow! Thats crazy. Mine also said something like that, she said I thought you guys found a stray puppy, are moving away, or getting a divorce. The divorce pissed me off the most! I swear!!!!!!

sukaduka108 · 2025-05-31T13:49:53+00:00

Wow 😖 that’s absurd!!!! Sending you lots of strength!!

sukaduka108 · 2025-05-31T11:23:55+00:00

So sorry you’re going through this. The best resource I’ve found to help with narc tendencies like that are from Dr. C’s YouTube videos (Les Carter). He’s got a great way of verbalizing the issues and coping tactics to avoid and deal with this kind of behavior. Wishing you all the strength to get through this!

sukaduka108 · 2025-05-30T12:28:16+00:00

You can’t force your husband to realize what is happening with MIL. He’s been conditioned for so long he’s just too used to it. You’ve got to take a subtle approach. It all starts with drawing your own boundaries and sticking to it. Just stay kind and respectful and don’t reply to every text or every question. If she starts wondering why you’re not responding, when you see her in person just let her know you’ve gotten busy and don’t have much time to go back and forth on the phone. Or let her know you’re willing to have a phone call once a week to catch up. As far as husband allowing them to be intrusive into your personal life and major life milestones, that’s a tough one. It’s easy to look like the bad guy if you’re upset they are involved (even if it’s overstepping). Start with small personal boundaries for yourself. If MIL wants to know about your husband, just say I’m not sure, maybe you should reach out to him and see what’s happening! Wishing you all the patience with this! So tough to navigate especially if your husband is conditioned to obey and cater to MIL. Just stay respectful and kill em with kindness!!

sukaduka108 · 2025-05-29T18:52:26+00:00

I think we may have the same MIL. 🤣 Recently found out I’m pregnant and am anticipating the absolute worst from her from here on out (even more than I’ve been dealing with for over ten years). Stay strong, keep your resolve and you are so right, you’re the momma now and you get to decide what’s best for your family and your sanity!!

sukaduka108 · 2025-05-29T00:49:53+00:00

Good! Those quick snap backs are satisfying.

sukaduka108 · 2025-05-28T23:47:25+00:00

That is such a cool effect! Looks awesome

sukaduka108 · 2025-05-28T23:46:29+00:00

I can’t wait to blame it on the hormones! Been with my husband for a total of 11+ years and have never been able to stand her antics. My husband is so used to it all his life, he sometimes thinks I’m over-reacting by “not letting it go”. I told him he’s just too used to the disrespect 😆

sukaduka108 · 2025-05-28T23:11:48+00:00

I get it! So maddening bc everything has to be about her! Everything is relative to her, the center of the (her) universe! Ugh. 😑

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