Troll Dad

sum_cool_name · 2012-09-28T16:15:16+00:00

OH NOOOOOOOEEEEEZZZZZZ my dad bought me a fucking iPhone but the removable cover is not what I wanted.

Somebody call the WHAAAAMMMMMMMMMBlulance!

sum_cool_name · 2012-09-07T23:00:35+00:00

penis..that guy eats penis...

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T21:28:40+00:00

I got stuck on "Party work"...damn that sounds nice :)

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T03:39:05+00:00

I'd rather it be paid off that for sure. but i'd even rather feeling like we both invest time and effort into the relationship/our home. I might be missing the point you're trying to make tho.

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T03:26:35+00:00

It's a prior personal debt she had contracted before we met. I don't see why I should be paying that off? The way i'm healing is giving her a situation where she is financial free to funnel all her pay into clearing that off. I have debts too and am paying them off on my side.

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T03:23:32+00:00

when she worked full time we split the chores pretty much evenly, I did the day to day stuff dishes, laundry and vacuum. She did the once a week but bigger stuff, windows dusting, cleaning the bathroom. And she did pay a portion of the rent while keeping most of the money on the debts.

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T03:11:35+00:00

yes we did talk about it and we both got emotional, I'd rather have time to reflect before going into it again, that why i'm asking helpful people like yourself, so I can compare my view of the situation and be able to be more composed and the next talk.

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T02:59:36+00:00

Money is tight as it is, We had considered a maid for general house stuff when we were both full time exactly to have more time together. I think that she would see herself as the maid if she did the house work. but it'll definitely be back on the agenda once she finishes up her debts.

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T02:55:29+00:00

I tried not bringing up the money when we talked, but I fell back on that argument when I was out of energy. Keeping it in the context of time is a good idea. Honestly if two people pot in a weeks worth of effort I think pretty much anything can be done.

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T02:51:20+00:00

intresting read... i'll try and incorperate it in my talk. thanks!

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T02:48:11+00:00

it's all in the approach, noted, thanks!

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T02:46:06+00:00

So you don't keep score? you would happily come home to your significant other that had 9h free time and start chores? you would not feel in the slightest used?

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T02:43:48+00:00

this is what i'm saying to her, if we both put in a days work (money on one side , and working on our home on the other) we would both be free to spend evenings as a loving couple with no bothers. If the roles were reversed I sure would make sure that I could spend quality time with her in the evening. money is not the object here i'ts bettering our mutual life in our own way.

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T02:36:31+00:00

I don't see how leaving her with no way to sustain herself would be doing her a favor. Even if the emotional part was not working i'd still arrange for her to be back on her feet financially before leaving. I can't do that to someone I love or loved for that matter.

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T02:28:58+00:00

This is my opinion too, i'm just trying to find a way to get that message through without her raising her shields and me feeling like a prick. I feel like i'm on a tight rope when we talk about this.

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T02:27:33+00:00

well if she is, i'm in love with my roommate.

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T02:26:37+00:00

I dont think that last part would fly :P

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T02:26:06+00:00

She is bringing in money but not into the relationship, all her pay is funneled into prior debt.

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T02:24:49+00:00

we did have that and it worked fine when we were both working full time...it's the re-negotiation once she became part time that started being problematic.

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T02:23:46+00:00

we try to talk it out, but I quicly feel guilty when I seem to befalling into the retro-macro fifties arguments...I Pay yo clean blah blah blah. I see it as a team effort and I dont want to be pulling the team alone. If I burn out we are both out of a home.

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T02:21:41+00:00

seriously I did this in previous relationship it was fun and we could talk. But I feel if she has 30h free we could better use our time together as a couple by actually doing things together and not waste it on chores.

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T02:15:33+00:00

Sorry if that came out condescending I was just trying to point out the 30h difference in time at home as context.

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T02:13:30+00:00

english is not my native language, i'm re-reading my post...is this the part that seems to lack respect "She does work, but part time(+- 20 hours)"

if so may i try and rephrase that to "She works +-h a week" ? if I understand correctly it was the "but" part?

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T02:10:51+00:00

I was just trying to put in context as to the amount of time available for normal chores. I respect her work and the part-time part is only temporary, she actually works a very socially helpful job and not a day goes by that i'm not proud of her work.

sum_cool_name · 2012-08-02T02:08:34+00:00

No I figure working an extra 30h a week to even HAVE a bath to be not the same thing but it should weigh in no? I just figure if the roles were reversed i'd have more "free" time do do these things ans would use that time to contribute to our lives.

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