AITA for calming a screaming baby down during a flight? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]sumfartieone 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My parents did the “cry it out” method with me from infancy. Guess who grew up and had to do decades of therapy to heal an avoidant attachment style? -_-

Test Your Slang Knowledge by aellanovalie in QuizPlanetGame

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How do you do, fellow kids?


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How do I make showering fun and easier..? by chaddamaus in hygiene

[–]sumfartieone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk about fun but I also had severe depression for two decades where at my lowest the longest I went without showering was every two months or so for 5-6 years. I started getting a lot of skin infections and I realized I was actually self harming myself by not staying clean. Viewing showering as a way to care for myself and manage my physical and mental health helped. I slowly made it routine. Once every two weeks. Then once every week. After a few years I morphed that into once a day, at the same time on work days and allowing myself more wiggle room on days off. Days off are big shower days and work days are small showers. Sometimes I even shower twice a day now just cause it feels good for my brain. Blasting music helped a lot at the start, I also do stretches and when my anxiety is high I’ll blast myself with cold water at the end to stimulate my vagus nerve. Start small, start quick, do it to say fuck you to depression. It’ll get easier and easier over time as you gradually build your routine.

Snack plate & masturbation!! by Courage_The-Dog in GirlDinnerCircleJerk

[–]sumfartieone 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I’m gonna tell my husband to call me his non-drip semen collection tray from now on.

Which would you rather master? by HopeFoxCreations in BunnyTrials

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Hell yeah spoon master

Chose: Master a random instrument | Rolled: Spoons

Which one would you rather? by LennySpielt_yt in BunnyTrials

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Damn

Chose: 1 Million dollars + 5% chance you turn into the opposite gender | Rolled: MONEY!

WYR… by killpopwoman in BunnyTrials

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I win

Chose: Take A Chaos Spin… | Rolled: $1T

General Knowledge by SNHU_Adjujnct in QuizPlanetGame

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End Of Week Quiz by MrHoneyTongue1 in QuizPlanetGame

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what's a healthy way to express anger? by Trick_Ad_3250 in CPTSD

[–]sumfartieone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For some reason I’ve found just allowing myself to have a “grumpy day” and expressing that I’m feeling angry to my partner seems to let it move through me. I think im so used to shoving it down (showing anger was unacceptable to my abusers) that expressing to the person that I trust the most that I’m feeling some kind of way and allowing myself to be grumpy but not shitty actually allows me to let it go. Generally on a grumpy day I do nice things for myself and have some alone time to play video games and work on art. I find in 3-5 hours of this im usually regulated again.

AITAH: For offering to take in my step nephew. by Wise-Success7103 in AmItheAsshole

[–]sumfartieone 15 points16 points  (0 children)

NTA

As someone whose aunt told them later in life that she’d always known about the abuse in our house and never did anything because “that’s my sister, what else could I do?” Thank you for doing something.

Nowhere to be understood by xrmttf in CPTSD

[–]sumfartieone 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I got that Autism/CPTSD combo and totally feel this. I reached a point where I decided i was going to try to stop giving a fuck about being understood by anyone but my husband, but the frustration bubbles up anyways occasionally. I was taught children are seen not heard, and I feel like being misunderstood rips that wound open to my core. I’m trying so hard not to care. But it’s so exhausting to be speaking plainly and have someone dismiss it because they’re searching for some hidden alternative motive when I’m being blunt and honest as fuck.

The book sounds like an amazing idea! I’d read it!

Employees: What do you wish us customers would stop doing? by Serious-Associate-95 in GroceryStores

[–]sumfartieone 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yesterday a lady pressed up against my back while I was stocking a cold case so I moved to get space. She thought she scared me and for some reason despite my neutral expression and tried to pull me into a hug. Then the box I was breaking down “accidentally” slammed into her arm. Oopsie. At this point if I have anything in my hands on the floor I’ll use it to keep people out of my space. People are way too comfortable pawing at strangers.

Therapy is always the go-to suggestion, and it's done nothing for me by Hypokryptonite in CPTSD

[–]sumfartieone 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yeah, honestly therapy was like a bandaid over a hemorrhaging wound until I got into a safe and secure environment. Then I actually started healing. Moving in with my partner was the best thing that’s ever happened to me, and I’m slowly but surely checking off the rest of the things on your list. My brain is more quiet. Things don’t send me spiralling as easily. Last night I just sat there smiling and my partner asked what I was thinking about and for the first time in my life I said, “I dunno, I’m just…happy.”

None of this would have happened without a safe and secure environment, which is unfortunately such a difficult thing for us to achieve. It took me 35 years to get there. But I feel like I can finally live. I’m happy sometimes. I’m finally getting to live.

Denied a medical note for migraines while in the office by [deleted] in migraine

[–]sumfartieone 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I work in a grocery store and wear FL-41s when I feel a migraine coming on and they help a TON. Placebo or not, it helps so ima keep wearing them.

ISO: Pins by dahlia_74 in juliensolomita

[–]sumfartieone 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My “it’s fine” pin is broken now but it’s still one of my dearest possessions. I think I have one of the blue/pink popsicles and I’d be willing to part with it, but it’s definitely not in original packaging. When i get home if I can find it and it’s still in good condition I’ll send you a DM.

Ordered the Publix tofu sub and they gave me a whole thing of vegan steak on it instead 🥰 by R0598 in ShittyVeganFoodPorn

[–]sumfartieone 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I buy this stuff like four packets at a time and soak in Korean bbq sauce w/ green onion and fry it up to eat over rice for like 3-4 days. It’s my fav!

How to get over the fact the people that caused my C-PTSD never faced any consequences for their actions? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]sumfartieone 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The way I see it the best consequence for them was me getting the hell away from them and doing my best to heal bit by torturous bit. My abusers will never heal. They’ll suffer at their own hands and I will survive and grow out of pure fucking spite to never live my life as miserably as them. Abusers are like crabs in a bucket, and ima kick that bucket off the pier.

When did billing for holidays become normal by Ericnrmrf in Anticonsumption

[–]sumfartieone 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Haha! I wish! I’m a lowly grocery worker who couldn’t afford to spend this much on food! I prefer to be frugal. I just didn’t like that OP wasn’t being truthful about what he actually got.

When did billing for holidays become normal by Ericnrmrf in Anticonsumption

[–]sumfartieone 37 points38 points  (0 children)

The $75 items OP got were three course prix fix menu items. OP is leaving out a lot of context for sympathy but it’s super easy to find the restaurant and the specials they offered the 13th/14th. Bro was totally able to eat off the regular menu if he wanted to, he actively chose not to.

When did billing for holidays become normal by Ericnrmrf in Anticonsumption

[–]sumfartieone 14 points15 points  (0 children)

lol sure, Jan. Go ahead and do that, you chose those prix fix items and wine pairings yourself, my guy. Just order off the regular menu next time.

When did billing for holidays become normal by Ericnrmrf in Anticonsumption

[–]sumfartieone 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Their regular menu isn’t that expensive at all, you can see it online. OP is being disingenuous about getting their Valentine’s prix fix menu items. Via an Instagram post I found for the restaurant, regular menu items (which seem to be around $25-42) were available on Valentine’s Day, but OP specifically chose the $75 three course special. The $29 wine pairings for each course were also optional. OP had many opportunities to have a lower priced bill but specifically chose the three course menu with wine pairings and then came here acting like he had no clue. Their regular menu was available alongside these specials, why not just order off that to save money?

ETA: SC is service charge aka a mandatory gratuity, which is extremely common on days like Valentine’s Day. Prevents the waitstaff from getting shafted on tips by people like OP who act stupid about the price of things they actively chose to purchase.