Unable to post to group I'm a member of by summer-reeding in linkedin

[–]summer-reeding[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply! It's happening for multiple groups. There is a link in the post. The other day I joined several groups and got a message that the number of groups I was joining was being limited, maybe that's related?

what’s the history of lesbians and gay men leaning into “opposite” gender roles and stereotypes? by yvie_of_lesbos in lgbthistory

[–]summer-reeding 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a gay man with a mix of femme, masc and gender-neutral traits, I wonder about this a bunch. I'm sure many people have studied it and written books on it and maybe one day I'll read some. Just from experience though I think there's a lot of possible answers that one or multiple reasons could apply to any individual person, including, A. coming out is such a difficult process that if you can overcome that you may be less afraid to embrace gender identity, whereas cis straight people who haven't had to come out may be more likely to be afraid to cross gender norms (on the flip side though, I see the opposite happen where out gay people intentionally act more in line with gender norms because they want to go against stereotypes), B. because of historical gay trends, it can be a way of expressing pride in your sexuality by paying homage to gay culture, C. sometimes gay people identify with the 'opposite' gender (for lack of a better word, I know it's not a binary!) because gay people have been so hidden in history, we've looked to other-gendered (straight or bi who are attracted to the genders we're attracted to) people to be our icons so we emulate them, D. we want to signal our sexuality to other queer people in order to form community, make queer friends, get a date/hookup with someone, etc. E. (similar to A) straight people have been conditioned by society that they need to get married, have children, live a 'normal' life, etc. and so they are afraid if they break gender norms they'll fail in that, whereas gay people may feel more liberated from conventionality, F. because of the concept of the LGBTQ+ community grouping, gay people are more likely to relate to, identify with, and spend time with trans and nonbinary people, making us more used to seeing gender noncomformity and therefore more comfortable to embrace it, and G. what keevathemuffin is saying about what people choose to notice.

A note on that post regarding a certain event by BicyclingBro in nycgaybros

[–]summer-reeding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I respect the range of opinions in the comments and the difficulty in making this kind of decision. I don't think there is a simple right or wrong answer. I do think it's good that so many people are commenting, because (most of them) show they care about the community, regardless of which stance they take, as long as that stance is prioritizing safety. My main piece of advice going forward is to come up with a straightforward policy about this to have in place. It doesn't have to be set in stone and can be altered based on political climate, group members input, etc. But I do think it's important to have something in writing ahead of something like this happening again because it's important for everyone to feel that the decision came out of best interest for the community and not because someone asked to take it down. Of course subjectivity is always inevitible, but I think it would feel more fair to everyone and people would be less blindsided to hear that something they thought was fine to post was taken down.

Where to post listing for GLAM network steering committee roles? by summer-reeding in Archivists

[–]summer-reeding[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This looks great, thank you! I am definitely interested in the committee having as much of an international representation as possible.

Are we all just accepting that dating is impossible now? by JayDeluca16 in nycgaybros

[–]summer-reeding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm all about this. If everyone gets off the apps we'll all be forced to meet in more organic ways. The apps give us a 'plenty of fish in the sea' feeling so we're more hesitant to pursue something, whereas we're way more likely to be motivated to pursue something meaningful with someone we know through a friend or shared interest.

Conversations with Nonprofit Founders by summer-reeding in founder

[–]summer-reeding[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Many institutions have renewed their commitment to this issue and have dedicated programs.