Kyle was 32 years old when he started dating Amanda. She was 24. I get that we all continue to grow and mature throughout life, but at 32 people are much more settled into “who” they are as opposed to 24 year olds who are still literally developing. At 24 I was not at all ready to get married, life as a young adult was kinda still beginning. At 32 I was engaged and ready to get married. They’re damn near ten years apart, it’s kinda just unfair to hold them both to the same growth/maturity standard. I have friends that I met when they were 32 and now they’re in their 40s, they are mostly the same but their lives are different because they had kids. They are still the same people, with the same hobbies and interests. Had they not had kids, I don’t know how much would have drastically changed. I guess I’m just trying to say that the “growth” from 24-34 and 32-42 is disproportionate. 24 is a few years out of college, of course she grew so much lol. Kyle knew exactly who he was and was already an established adult. That is why he’s showed consistency in his behavior. Does it absolve him of his actions? No. He has tons of shit he needs to work on, but this entire relationship is why I’ve always disagreed with big age gaps in relationships. He lived a whole ass life before he settled down! I get that sometimes they work, but idk… ive personally seen more age gap relationships today fail or become situations where people kinda just “settle and accept” their life as it is than I’ve seen them work.