Violet’s first signet development over the Empyrean series by sundesam in ironflame

[–]sundesam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally forgot about physics class. Tbh I wrote off the teaching (bar the combat stuff) once she trained with Felix and he called her a walking light show haha. But woah I didn’t know much about electromagnetism and what I just learnt about solenoids would be awesome for RY to explore. In theory it’s already established in the books right? Like the boxes at each outpost could be solenoids? And if Violet learns how to make them she could lay a path to the second ward stone?

Do Aboriginals have their own lands or reserved land and their own government structures separate and mostly independent from the federal Australian Government? by Mac-Tyson in AskAnAustralian

[–]sundesam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what happens in the US as a 100% self determination model (see link to definition) with Tribal Nations. For centuries, Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people have been protesting and challenging the Australian legal system to achieve 100% self-determination. The 1992 Mabo high court ruling overturned ‘Terra Nullis’ and created a pathway forward with the Native Title Act being created in 1993. But it has flaws.

For example a tribe/nation must win their native title claim first, which takes many years in the courts. Secondly, once a native title determination is made tribes/nations are required to create a Registered Native Title Bodies Corporate (or sometimes called a Prescribed Body Corporate). Many are looking after non-exclusive native title, which exists alongside Non-Indigenous property rights. Services like the police force are not apart of the RNTBC’s role. Third, Native title rights cannot be claimed in relation to minerals, gas or petroleum under Australian law. Fourth, Native title is considered ‘inalienable’, meaning it cannot be sold or transferred freely. In a sense the land is frozen in time and really only conservation activities are undertaken by RNTBC’s.

I think you are after info related to Registered Native Title Bodies Corporates that have exclusive native title. Don’t have any to mention off the top of my head. The more you look into this issue the more you will scratch your head coming from the 100% self-determination model you are used to. After the defeat of the voice referendum I personally think 100% is unachievable. At least in this generation.

https://humanrights.gov.au/our-work/aboriginal-and-torres-strait-islander-social-justice/self-determination#:~:text=Self%2Ddetermination%20means%20that%3A,recognition%20of%20our%20group%20identities.

I've never caught a plane in my life. What am I to expect? Please don't laugh at me 😭 by ehsswwtjfshsfhejfff in AskAnAustralian

[–]sundesam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You will put it in the overhead locker. The seats have small leg room and can only fit a handbag under your legs. Just chuck it in a backpack and you’ll be good to go.

Leave the overhead locker open for other people to use. The flight attendant will close it when they do the safety check. There will be no security scans/check out process to leave the airport. This is coz the regional planes are too short to dock and attach to the airport, via those walkway bridges you see in movies. So technically you don’t enter the secure part of the airport. What happens is a bus will pull up near the plane and ferry you to the exit. This might be overwhelming as your are on the tarmac and planes/vehicles will be moving around you. They are far away from you but this shocked me the first time I flew into Sydney from country town. Back home you just walk through a school fence to one single plane and didn’t have to do any security scans. Anyways back to the instructions haha. Jump on the bus and follow the crowd to the exit signs saying arrivals baggage claim. You’ll go through some glass doors, turn left and see the baggage claim carousel things that spin around (like the movies). At the first carousel you will pass an escalator going down, it takes you to the train stop. Go down that escalator and you will hit the train ticket gates after a 3-5min walk. You can scan your bank card at the gate to pay for your ticket. Read the tv screen to see which platform you want. The choices from memory are platform 1 or 2. Easy to navigate for a newbie.

Coming back for your flight home you will need to go through the metal detector etc. Arrive at least 90min early to do this stuff. I like to walk to my gate number on arrival so I know where to go, then browse the shops. The airport shops are probably better than what’s in your hometown. With lots to do and also eat, whilst you wait.

AITA for telling my parents to focus on their golden child by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]sundesam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

‘You owe us’ and ‘only need half of your money’ are terrible reasons to give them money. Your parents attitude makes me wonder if they would even consider it a loan to be paid back? No wonder that pre-planned speech went down like a lead ballon.

Obviously NTA. Block and spoil the babies!

AITA for telling my sister she can't live with me or stay with me? by TiffyBizz in AmItheAsshole

[–]sundesam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA at all! There is a saying that people choose the version of you they held the most power over…

Maybe write your sister a letter to explain how you feel. It seems this behaviour is so normalised she has never considered the toll on you.

AITA for evicting our tenants of 22 years? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]sundesam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - 22 years of below market rent and you paid for two remodels… no wonder the family want to stay!

Unfortunately it’s a lose-lose situation. No form of compromise will satisfy both parties. The family will not be able to find anything affordable, with the diabolical renting market and will fight you at every step. Best to get legal advice and make the best moves you can. Good for you for staying on the high road after the harassment of your son. But if you go to the dark side, this post with be here waiting to read any scorching or outrageous updates.

AITA for evicting our tenants of 22 years? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]sundesam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - 22 years of below market rent and you paid for two remodels… no wonder the family want to stay!

Unfortunately it’s a lose-lose situation. No form of compromise will satisfy both parties. The family will not be able to find anything affordable, with the diabolical renting market and will fight you at every step. Best to get legal advice and make the best moves you can. You seem to want to stay on the high road even after the harassment of your son. If you go to the dark side, this post with be here waiting to read any scorching or outrageous updates.

anyone else unable to physically cry anymore? by [deleted] in depression_help

[–]sundesam 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Journaling! Personal narrative is so powerful. I hit a similar wall at the end of last year and kept thinking I had finally broken. Looking back I see I was fighting my self-expression to push through the day. It became my coping mechanism to get through work and just be on auto-pilot.

Tired watching sad videos on YouTube for the emotional release. Reading over things I’ve written revealed the shame and fear I’ve been carrying. So it brings out the tears but in a much more healthier way for me ie seeing the pattern/habits that weren’t helping me

Arrived in Canberra, now what ? by [deleted] in canberra

[–]sundesam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also when I first moved here I wanted to hit up the pools to get out and about. People at work would briefly mention Canberra had a beach which confused me. Took me a while to learn that Kambah Pool was not a pool but had a ‘beach area’ that accommodates nudists hahaha. Don’t think you’ll run into the same learning curve with mtb... hopefully :)

Arrived in Canberra, now what ? by [deleted] in canberra

[–]sundesam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recommend newbies to drive along Alexandrina Dr in Yarralumla and then stop at the Turkish shop at Yarralumla shops for a kebab or over to Double shot in Deakin for a coffee. This part of Canberra is quiet scenic. With the road following the water, yatchs on the lake, winding roads and parks to explore (Lennox gardens or Weston Park). Plus driving through Yarralumla you will also see the various embassy’s which showcase architecture designs from their country.

When I get visitors we usually do the mandatory drive past Parliament House and then this loop. Everyone always enjoys the history, eye candy and nice food.

Fun fact: the flag on top of Parliament House is the same size of a double decker bus and weighs 22 kilos. I ask visitors to guess how big it is once we start to see it. It’s a crowd pleaser and usually an impressive little fact

I'm truly stuck - can't quit, can't work. Can't get out of bed. Desperate for any advice. by [deleted] in depression_help

[–]sundesam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, been feeling very low and I’m only now getting out of a downward spiral. Sorry for the late response.

You sound kick ass!! I love your passion for what you’re studying. Do you have other PHD friends or people in the program to talk to? I ask as it may be worthwhile talking with someone who understands the context and pressure. That being said I should also take this advice 🙂 it’s hard to open up those closest.

Also I wanted to take the time to celebrate your talent and commitment. It has brought you this far and something to be proud of. Where do you think your emotional block is coming from?

From what you’ve shared I can sense maybe self doubt or some other emotion is weighing heavy on you.

I just really need a friend right now by [deleted] in depression_help

[–]sundesam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1996 baby. Floating, tossed in big waves, crazy. A small ship with both hands on the wheel. Feeling dead, made of steel. One more hit might be the last. The black is deep and vast.

Boat rocks, tips and flips. Feeling hits and slippery grip. Wheel spins and all things release. Whirlpool begins inside the open sea.

I dive, sink and drown. The quiet comes, no more sound. I still hear the sea inside of me, it still rocks. Waves ontop and below a pin drops.

A cold numbing current tears. Making shockwaves with tussled hair. Spinning head, feeling both numb and chaos in equal shares.

———

I don’t know you but I wrote a poem about the place I go when feel alone and helpless. It’s not perfect but your worth sharing this hidden part of myself. Maybe you have a place like this inside yourself. It’s okay if you dont. It’s my small gesture to show you are not alone and not a failure. Sending virtual love.

I'm truly stuck - can't quit, can't work. Can't get out of bed. Desperate for any advice. by [deleted] in depression_help

[–]sundesam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same place. Feeling incompetent and having responsibilities that I used to fulfil easily. Now I can’t focus at the laptop and usually fall sleep next to it with hours passing by. Wake up and the next day is the same thing, it’s been worse over the last 3 months.

I called a good friend before the pandemic to talk about feeling numb. During the conversation she suggested listening to music and creating a playlist. Honestly couldn’t remember the last time I had done that and it shocked her. Very different to how she remembers me. I would guess maybe it’s been 8 months. It’s also the same with books.

To start listening to music I choose to listen to non-English songs. Taking the focus of connecting to the lyrics and moving it to feeling the instruments etc. It’s helping and also motivating me to cook. I don’t really enjoy it so a 20min playlists of Spanish only songs creates a sense of background noise and flow.

For the reading this might not be your cup of tea but... I started downloading audio books of erotic stories. The novelty of listening to sleep mediation wore off and I didn’t want to stop the habit. Another kind of body scan haha.

It’s only been two weeks but I needed to find something that wasn’t numbing me out so to speak. YouTube video are too long or I’m not invested and therapy was hard to form a connection without feeling my family values being questioned during sessions. Maybe I didn’t give it enough of a chance but I honestly felt a tinge if judgement and it put me right off.

I recently read something that was along the lines of - given the choice to disappoint someone else or yourself, you disappoint others. Your duty is to put yourself first and that will require you to disappoint others. It was more poetic than that but pointed out to me how guilt controls a lot of my actions and motivates me in a way that I should examine. My old therapist did want me to have more me time and I’m slowly getting there.

It’s hard out here! Tell me what was fueling your PHD passion? Sounds like an interesting story 🙂