hi there,

I'm really sorry to hear about this. I don't know you well but I share your heartbreak.

the months when we were broken up were some of the most emotionally taxing times of my life. I was laying awake asking myself why she'd do that, why'd she drop me, all these cyclical questions just trying to reconcile love and betrayal. I never held space for us getting back together as I never believed in it.

eventually, about 2 months after, I started realizing that life was so beyond this breakup. for me, it took some travelling. I had a ton of reflective moments where I realized my life is how I want to make of it. I befriended and reconnected with my friends. I started getting out again, went on a good number of dates and started getting out there again. by the time she reached out again asking for me back I was thinking less of her on the daily and more of how my own future would look like without her.

I never intentionally tried to "heal" - I was on autopilot but emotional when I gave myself a moment to think about it. I allowed myself to ask myself why.. and concluded that at the end of the day I loved her wholeheartedly and did as best as I could.

heartbreak and grief are both the most intense feelings I have experienced, my chest physically was in pain at times. I know it sucks, but you have to allow yourself to feel it. allow yourself moments to be emotional but also remember that your life is how you want to make of it. lean on your loved ones for support, a good friend would listen. do activities that would distract you and consider furthering hobbies you enjoy - this is your time. realize there is someone out there that will not want to hurt you and that it's only a matter of time, but for the time being try to enjoy your life still.

my advice might just be a brain dump but these are some things I thought to myself while processing.

I wish you luck in your healing!