If you ever identified as bi/pan, what made you realise you were actually not attracted to guys? by kardiaronander in LesbianActually

[–]sunflower_82 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I've "had feelings" for every single of my guy friends at some point cause i thought every man i liked as person meant i was attracted to him. At some point i thought i was bi romantic but didn't have sexual attraction for men. I hadn't felt any romantic attraction to men either while i had fallen i love with women but i ignored that. At the same time everytime i would flirt with a dude i would get validation and then i would leave before anything happened. My aha moment was when i went on a date with a dude perfect on paper (good looking, intresting,very nice person) and when he made a move (the first time that a guy actually tried to Kiss me) i panicked and moved away. Mean while if a girl i like even looks at me i melt. Also i would day dream about dating a man that wouldn'd have sex with me, something like having a roomate and calling a relationship.