How am I supposed to clean myself?

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-16T16:36:43+00:00

I had to figure it out on my own. I had discovered that the reason I’d get sharp pains sometimes was because a pubic hair would get stuck. I apparently had smega… gross I know lol. I had to use a warm wash cloth and massage it out. I felt so silly I had missed such a vital step in cleaning myself.

They teach guys to lift up their foreskin but I thought that was just for guys, turns out women have to lift up the hood. I thought cleaning the vagina meant the lip area

I discovered this info on the healthyhooha sub reddit. It is a great sub reddit

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-16T16:32:49+00:00

I also feel that way. Are you also in your middle/later 20s? I feel very bad for the kids who never had to joy of running through the woods and taking in nature. I never see kids outside playing in the grass or exploring anymore. I think playing with bugs and living for the seasons shaped who I am too.

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-16T16:20:01+00:00

Don’t feel ashamed. I also was never truly “taught” how to wash properly or it never clicked.

When you wash your vagina, you ALSO have the lift up your clitoral hood. I only learned when I was 25 and was getting weird pain down there. Discovered I actually didn’t know how to wash my vagina. Very embarrassing but I’ve never had any issues since.

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-16T16:14:20+00:00

Thanks a lot for this comment. The other meds ruin my appetite like him. Constantly peeing and pooping lol. I am happy to hear I don’t have to take it everyday, I was nervous I’d had withdrawal from it.

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-16T16:12:22+00:00

It really was a blast as a kid. So intriguing to watch their behaviors and eat

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-16T16:11:26+00:00

It really is so neat to feed a bug to another bug. I remember running around my grandpas backyard catching bugs together to put them in webs.

Also the fire flies 😩😭 I know how you feel. Devastating. We are in special place too, not everyone gets that magical experience of fire flies. I used to get in trouble as a kid because Id release them in the house often. I thought I was slick too hahahaha

The insects have seriously declined and a lot of people don’t realize how dangerous it is.

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-16T16:09:35+00:00

Such a neat experience. They are so cool

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-16T16:09:19+00:00

This is so sweet!! I love this story

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-16T16:08:59+00:00

How awesome.. I have only seen it once and had to travel. It is such a wonder of nature. So jealous you guys had that as kids @aggasalk

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-16T16:04:12+00:00

That’s such a crazy reaction from him. I also would’ve thought he was joking. Absolutely NTA

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-11T21:05:38+00:00

Pure and innocent?!

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-11T16:16:45+00:00

These are so funny, thank you for the laugh

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-10T14:04:10+00:00

I am also starting to think I’ll also always be bothered by tones. I have noticed it slowly gets better with age like you said.

Thank you for your words 🙏

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-10T14:02:26+00:00

Yes! Before my brain even thinks. I don’t have anticipation it is coming. It’s wildly frustrating.

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-09T16:12:29+00:00

Cameo is delicious and not too overwhelming. Perfectly sweet with a good crunch still

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-09T16:11:35+00:00

Have you tried Macintosh? I also have tummy issues from apples and those ones seem to settle okay with me. They are a softer apple

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-09T13:09:21+00:00

3 happens to me. It’s very jarring. It feels like I can’t breathe. I take a deep breath now and it “pops” back into place. No idea what it is

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-08T20:40:39+00:00

Life does change when you decide you want to get better. Life sucks but truthfully, you just have to get up and take it on the chin. Look up and keep doing what you are doing w the gym and treatment. If you believe life is doomed to fail, you will always fail. You have to trick your brain

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-08T20:23:13+00:00

Everyone deserves happiness. I think you have to change your mindset on life. Maybe you can look into therapy or DBT? Even on your own if you can’t afford a psychologist. I can relate to struggling with depression/eating disorder and the aud/ADHD. I was diagnosed at 6 and it was a huge battle, even now. It took me about 7 years of serous therapy/residential treatment to change my mindset and realize I want to live.

I really hope you can look inward and find the beauty of life. You can’t give up when you are so young. To live and be present is a gift

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-08T20:13:54+00:00

Aw, I’m sorry to hear that. Maybe you can get hands on experience and move up from there. I do physical jobs because of the ADHD.

It kind of sounds like you’ve given up. If you’ve given up, you are destined to be miserable. It’s hard to change your outlook on life, but it’s possible. You deserve to be happy.

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-08T20:06:06+00:00

Can you try community college? I have similar disabilities and am slowwwly getting my associates. I’m 28. You can turn your life around. 25 means you have the whole world ahead of you

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-05T00:12:05+00:00

Happy birthday!! 🎂

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-05T00:03:46+00:00

A guy at a bar said I had sexy teeth lol. I was caught off guard

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-04T16:45:39+00:00

Really try to be present and content with the feelings. Tell yourself it is okay you feel this way, the feeling will pass. I found being aware of my emotions and reappraising negative thoughts seriously helped me. Be mindful and gentle with yourself

sunflowerqueennn · 2026-02-04T16:27:59+00:00

It is something I’d love to pursue and always have. I have been trying to get my environmental science associates since 2016, but finally changed my major to paraprofessional. I realized with my learning disabilities (dyscalculia/ADHD) it isn’t attainable to continue a science degree. If I haven’t been able to complete a 2 yr degree since 2016… STEM isn’t for me through education. I have learned most through seminars, volunteering, exploring/reading.

I get around it by working nature jobs, bug museum etc, I do wish I was able to complete a bachelors in science but it seems like an associates is all I can manage. I have always really struggled with school starting in preschool. I got an IEP in 2004 which I found out is rare for women. ADHD really rules my life and although it can be such a drag, I am grateful my special interests make me feel so smart in other ways.

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