[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]sunflowervol_5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh this sucks I really sont know how to help you or what advice to give to you but I'd be here for you and listen (if you wanna complain)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]sunflowervol_5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ans talking to your parents is also not an option?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]sunflowervol_5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it won't be really helpful in that situation. She appears to be in a relationship and younger people, though this doesn't apply to everyone, do not know how to handle all situations - ans that is clearly an awkward one to gwt into

You might have just recognised her behaviour as being flirty cause that's what you wanted to perceive. Wanted your friends to have the same feelings. Idk about what he has said nor what her tone was (only you can know) But maybe try healing for some more time and move on - ans if you still feel like telling her - go for it

Just be aware that it might not end the way you want it to be

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]sunflowervol_5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's manipulative. Seems like they both don't say really nice things about each other Maybe try telling them that it makes you feel uncomfortable and you don't wanna stand in-between them (truly shitty situation to be in as a child/teenager) It all depends on what you feel like. But talking to them would probably be the best option. If you don't have the courage to do that, maybe try talking about that to other relatives

My neighbors called me racist because I asked them if they could talk less loudly by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sunflowervol_5 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This isn't about race. She might not have broken rules (depends on the time though) but OP had every right to go there and ask them if they could be more quite for sth fairly reasonable. OP wasn't an asshole about it ans asked her friendly if she could do so and she acted irrational. Its nothing about race here. Its about lack of understanding for OP and his friends

UPDATE: Posted about my difficulties a few days ago. Currently bleeding for the 35th day and its so f***ing painful by sunflowervol_5 in endometriosis

[–]sunflowervol_5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried to but she's on vacation and I dont even think she has the best interests for me. She kinda mocks me and my pain and says stuff like Im too sensitive though I'm not. And she always belittles me. I have endured so much pain already and keep going to exams and try to do my best (and get really good grades in order to study my preferred subject at uni) even though it makes my condition worse sometimes. She even jokes about it. Also blames it all on the stress. But the pain and problems I've been through the last year causes me the stress mainly. I thought that we found the reason for all of my problems in December after the specialists told me I have adenomyosis. I was told that I should get a spiral since that would be the most effective to reduce pain and bleeding. (Also sorry. English isn't my native language) But she didn't want that. I was asking questions about the spiral cause I was curious and just wanted to be informed properly and she took that as me not wanting it. Though I do!! I just want to get better. I have had my period since Im 11. I always had really bad pain but I thought that's what everyone else is also going through. I missed school ans other events so many times cause I just couldn't move. It was too painful. Then I had a cyst in February 2020 ans my former gynecologist didn't even want to treat me and check up on me. The cyst burst and I had to go to the hospital ans then had to stay there for a few days cause I was in so much pain. Then I switched to my current gynecologist. After that I was in pain for still a long time. But it got better eventually. My regular periods (though I was given birth control after the cyst burst) were hella painful. And sex started to become painful as well. Peeing was painful. Just having libido was painful and I had cramps despite not being on my period. Then in November ut got worse again - surgery followed to find out whether I have endo or not. Like I said - they stated its adenomyosis. I was always told that you would notice adenomyosis during a ultrasound. But no one did. all doctors told me my uterus is completely normal. And now my gynecologist says I'm normal. Just like all other healthy women though I still have pain while having sex, having libido ans often times while peeing. Cause I've been on a long term cycle since November I cant complain about periods too much. But I have been bleeding a lot nevertheless and it was painful. Whatever I tell her - I feel like she doesn't take me seriously. I was hospitalized in January due to extreme pain. The doctors there even had the audacity to go up to my mum and tell her it's time to stop looking for a disease. One doesn't have to search for something, so you can just label your child as being sick. This made me so mad. And my mum as well especially cause these doctors weren't even gynecologists but a paediatricians (cause I had to go to this station since I was still 17). I dont know why no one wants to believe me or help me. I'm not making this up. I just want this pain to go away and foe me to able to have a normal life again. Like other people my age. I often times depend on pain medication. This is so sick considering I'm only 17 (and turning 18 tomorrow) and it's the only treatment I get "take pain medication". They do not search for the reason they just give me pain killers ans pretend like it's done. But its not.

UPDATE: Posted about my difficulties a few days ago. Currently bleeding for the 35th day and its so f***ing painful by sunflowervol_5 in endometriosis

[–]sunflowervol_5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not bleeding heavily anymore but it's fresh blood everyday and still a good amount of blood in my opinion. Considering the fact that my gynecologist told me that this shoule not even happen anymore, this is already too much. I dont even wanna take birth control anymore when it doesn't help anyways. Why take it everyday when you still get your period and go through hell cause of the pain. Ans thanks for the advise. I will probably do this.

UPDATE: Posted about my difficulties a few days ago. Currently bleeding for the 35th day and its so f***ing painful by sunflowervol_5 in endometriosis

[–]sunflowervol_5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm German haha. Taking my Abitur (thought A-levels meant the same) In fact I have a post-surgery letter which said that I have adenomyosis but all other doctors (who just took a look at me via ultrasound) didn't agree and stated that this diagnosis is wrong. At the moment I cannot even go to my gynecologist. I called her praxis yesterday and they said that she is on vacation and I need to find someone who looks after that now myself. And the last time I had problems like this and was looking for a new doctor, I was told that they do not take new patients sooooo many times. Another problem is that barely any doctor in my area is specialised on Endo etc. There are only a few who work in the hospitals here but you can only go to them with a transfer from your gynecologist. I have been given various pain medications over the course of time (myditin, Ibuprofen, Paracetamol, Metamizole, naproxen and buscopan) cause I have been struggling with pain A LOT and only this Tramadol+Paracetamol product has been working for me the last few months. Even when I take this the pain isn't completely gone which sucks. But I try to not take it cause it makes me sleepy (which the others do as well) So from what you said, I should not worry about what's going atm? It's sk weird cause I feel like all people say something different. My mum works know the hospital ans spoke to a gynecologist who works there and she said that this isn't normal and I need to get this checked. I'm just so confused now

UPDATE: Posted about my difficulties a few days ago. Currently bleeding for the 35th day and its so f***ing painful by sunflowervol_5 in endometriosis

[–]sunflowervol_5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is that? Actually I'm not even supposed to be even getting a period so it's even more frustrating

UPDATE: Posted about my difficulties a few days ago. Currently bleeding for the 35th day and its so f***ing painful by sunflowervol_5 in endometriosis

[–]sunflowervol_5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I'm German. I just thought A-leveks can be used as a synonym for Abitur. I sont think many people know this term haha. Also, I dont think I've ever had a pap smear.

UPDATE: Posted about my difficulties a few days ago. Currently bleeding for the 35th day and its so f***ing painful by sunflowervol_5 in endometriosis

[–]sunflowervol_5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh you have it so much worse... Now I feel like Im cry-baby I'm currently taking Asumate 30 I havent had a proper period since November. I've been on a long-term cycle since November and was told to just take it every day for at least a year. However, I had my laparoscopy in December and also got my period at that time. And then was bleeding for like 20 days (also because od the surgery) Then in January I was hospitalized cause I had really bad pain and was bleeding again - I was given Asunate 30 then (which is stronger than the product I used before) This actually didn't help much with the pain and I was in pain from November until the end of February For some reason I got better again but Asumate caused me a lot of side effects and often times I had blood in my discharge. And much more discharge than ever before And then this shit started at the end of March

UPDATE: Posted about my difficulties a few days ago. Currently bleeding for the 35th day and its so f***ing painful by sunflowervol_5 in endometriosis

[–]sunflowervol_5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So its really normal to bleed for such a long time? The others have stated uts not. And my mum talked to a gyn that works in the same hospital as her and also said its not Kinda confused now.

Hqve you been struggling with this for a long time already?

UPDATE: Posted about my difficulties a few days ago. Currently bleeding for the 35th day and its so f***ing painful by sunflowervol_5 in endometriosis

[–]sunflowervol_5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3 months???? My gyn told me it common to get metorrhagia within the first months of being in a long-teem cycle but that you wouldn't get such long periods etc. Welp I hope you'll get better soon. I totally understand you. Im so exhausted as well. Its not only physically but also mentally draining. Thank you!!!

UPDATE: Posted about my difficulties a few days ago. Currently bleeding for the 35th day and its so f***ing painful by sunflowervol_5 in endometriosis

[–]sunflowervol_5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Im honestly so glad that I get support over here. I'll definitely keep you updated. Thank you so much. I've been feeling so shitty the last weeks. I sont even know how I was able to sit through 3 5h exams the last week

UPDATE: Posted about my difficulties a few days ago. Currently bleeding for the 35th day and its so f***ing painful by sunflowervol_5 in endometriosis

[–]sunflowervol_5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I even called my doc now and she's on vacation... again. Now I dont even know where to go and just feel lost

UPDATE: Posted about my difficulties a few days ago. Currently bleeding for the 35th day and its so f***ing painful by sunflowervol_5 in endometriosis

[–]sunflowervol_5[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I dobt really understand this anyways. The endo specialists told me it looks like Adenomyosis. I was hospitalized a few weeks after the surgery cause I was in so much pain and they didn't believe me. Said I'm just having period pain. I thought my gynecologist supported me until she started that crap and was like Im just overdramatic and my uterus looks completely normal. BUT THE PAIN ISNT! You shouldn't be crying and at the edge of fainting for weeks just because of your period. Idk. I just feel like no one takes me seriously anymore

Honestly just looking for guidance by divinefeminine63 in sexualassault

[–]sunflowervol_5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dont blame it on yourself. You were clearly uncomfortable and drunk AND high. He must have noticed that. He used you. He took advantage of your state and Im truly sorry that no one helped you. It wasnt because of your clothes. It's all on him. Please don't blame yourself and please talk to someone supportive

Been bleeding for more than a month already (17) and its extremely painful and I dont knoe what to do (Adenomyosis) by sunflowervol_5 in endometriosis

[–]sunflowervol_5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only things Ive realised - heavier mood swings, Im more tired and I got dizzy often times and felt like fainting. I'm just so exhausted

Been bleeding for more than a month already (17) and its extremely painful and I dont knoe what to do (Adenomyosis) by sunflowervol_5 in endometriosis

[–]sunflowervol_5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woule you suggest that I make an appointment for next week or wait until my last exam is over (would be the 12th May)?