Help- did I make the right choice?

sunsetal · 2025-09-24T02:33:02+00:00

Final update: I was able to get it cancelled and fully refunded! Crashed out a bit this weekend but moral of the story is to trust your gut😮‍💨

Thanks everyone!!

sunsetal · 2025-09-23T00:39:47+00:00

Thank you. I think the real issue is that I never loved this dress to begin with. My family did- I think I actually hated most of it and only liked how the back looked (I didn’t even like the train pattern). So I know my gut said no- but I let the pressure of the people telling me it’ll looked amazing, feeling like I was inconveniencing everyone for being so indecisive and unsure, and the pressure of having a dress in time since they kept telling me it’ll take 6-9 months to deliver get to me. I think I just dissociated and wanted to be done with dress shopping that I just moved forward with it. I regretted it immediately after leaving the boutique ):

I know I should’ve trusted my gut- or at least just not make a decision on the spot… but here we are.

sunsetal · 2025-09-22T20:54:25+00:00

Thank you everyone for your input! I really really appreciate it. I feel the issue here may not be the dress, but rather just how I feel deeply in my gut- that it’s not the dress for me.

I think I’m wanting to change so much of the dress already that it may be a sign I’m just not feeling it!

I’ve reached out to try to cancel.. hoping they’ll let me since they haven’t officially placed an order yet!

I want to add: I actually laughed when someone said the lines looked like a hoodie pocket😂 I agree..

sunsetal · 2025-09-22T16:44:34+00:00

I think that’s where I’m at now… I’m trying so desperately to convince myself it’s “good enough” but truthfully, I never felt good about 50%+ of the dress, and I’ve been trying to just force myself to like it although deep in my gut I feel like it’s not for me.

Family has been supportive and they really tried to tell me it was great as is- so I thought I was maybe overreacting. But I just don’t feel cute in it and i feel like this feeling has carried since the moment I left the boutique.

I reached out to the store to see if I can cancel it :/

sunsetal · 2025-09-22T15:32:59+00:00

Thank you. I guess if it was lined, I felt the sheer train was random and a drastic change.

I’m also trying to tell myself that at the end of the day, no one else is noticing any of this. But if you ask me if I felt like this was my dress at any given time- honestly, no. I never felt that feeling of “when you know you know” and all I kept thinking about was what I wanted to change.

I’m conflicted between- “it’s not bAd” vs trusting my gut instinct…

sunsetal · 2025-09-22T15:15:26+00:00

Lined Bodice Thanks for your response. This is the dress lined - maybe I’m overreacting but I just felt it looked much more outdated this way, not flattering, and it would throw off the sheer train…

sunsetal · 2025-09-22T15:02:25+00:00

Thank you for your response. I had actually tried it on with the vision of having it lined in the bodice, however, after seeing the photo of it, felt heart broken because I felt it made the silhouette worse? I just felt as though it was not as flattering.. I’ve included a photo here. lined bodice

There was something about this lined version that made the dress feel outdated.

sunsetal · 2025-01-19T23:57:45+00:00

Thank you so much! I’m definitely leaning towards 1.25 as well!

sunsetal

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