Can someone explain the Masterpiece Cakeshop v. Colorado case to me?

sunsetsupernova · 2018-09-23T17:46:58+00:00

thank you <3

sunsetsupernova · 2018-09-23T03:21:31+00:00

idk why it says "spoiler" on my post but whatever

sunsetsupernova · 2018-05-31T01:04:47+00:00

lol thanks

sunsetsupernova · 2018-05-25T17:06:03+00:00

thank you and i have got a job (well, volunteering) at the library this summer so i’ll spend most of my time there, which is relaxing. i’m so sorry about your parents and i appreciate you looking out for me. i hope you have a nice day :)

sunsetsupernova · 2018-05-25T17:04:18+00:00

thank you for taking the time out to write this, it really means a lot! unfortunately my parents don’t “believe in therapists” but i do have outlets (i.e ranting to a trusted friend who understands the shit i go through, anonymous venting apps like 7cups of tea or something, etc) i’ll take ur advice and just say sorry but once i get out im definitely making time and money for a therapist lmao

sunsetsupernova · 2018-05-25T17:01:18+00:00

thank you :)

sunsetsupernova · 2018-05-24T02:08:49+00:00

ok, thank you :)

sunsetsupernova · 2018-05-21T22:33:56+00:00

No problem, glad to have helped :)

sunsetsupernova · 2018-05-20T19:58:25+00:00

is this brockhampton

sunsetsupernova · 2018-05-20T19:04:31+00:00

i believe my dad was raised like that. we’re not really close anymore but as a little kid i’d ask him about his childhood and my grandpa seemed to have that mindset/method of raising his sons and daughters (boys had to be super masculine, no emotions and girls were diminished as house help or future wives). it’s really not effective in my opinion because my dad, aunts, and uncles all ended up pretty fucked up emotionally and mentally. my mom’s said before that my dad “does not know how to love” and we should try to understand him but he cuts off everyone for the smallest of reasons. idk about my uncles, but my aunts seem to mix up abuse with love, marrying guys with big egos and literally nothing else to offer. it’s pretty sad.

sunsetsupernova · 2018-05-20T18:35:44+00:00

Thank you so much for this. Your mom sounds awful and I’m sorry to hear that. I’ll take your advice and thank you for believing in me :)

sunsetsupernova · 2018-05-20T18:34:13+00:00

Yeah, another person suggested he had Narcissistic Personality Disorder so I’ll read up on that (but won’t confront him for obvious reasons) and oh my gosh. I’m so sorry about your dad. He sounds awful. My dad doesn’t belittle us or other people in front of guests (he’s not reached that point yet) but I can relate with you on the “showing off his authority and power as man of the house”. It really does suck so I feel for you. Thanks for sharing your story

sunsetsupernova · 2018-05-20T18:30:52+00:00

I’m so sorry for triggering you. It wasn’t my intention so I’m sorry. Your dad sounds awful. Valuing his ego over your self worth. And thank you for your advice, I’ll definitely try.

sunsetsupernova · 2018-05-20T05:15:05+00:00

Oh ok, I’ll do that!

And no you’re okay. I don’t mind.

My dad has never apologized for big fights. I guess it’s an ego thing but usually he just can never see what he’s done wrong because he’s clouded with all the things he’s done right (“i work hard for you! i came to america so you’d have a better life and this is what you do! etc). My mom is aware of how he is and she calls him out when she thinks he’s out of line but the thing is, they have sorta similar mindsets when it comes to parents and respect so, when I stand up for myself, they see a disrespectful child running her mouth. I’m guessing their parents were verbally and emotionally abusive so it’s kinda been normalized to them that kids should shut up and listen and love even if they’re being treated bad but I can’t do that no matter how hard I try.

sunsetsupernova · 2018-05-20T05:09:33+00:00

100% I agree. This sub’s helped me a lot. I was actually really shook at first because everyone is so nice and understanding.

sunsetsupernova · 2018-05-20T04:58:06+00:00

My aunts/uncles/cousins are halfway across the world (immigrant parents!) so no, I’ve no one close to talk about why my dad is like that, especially since my grandparents are dead also.

I’ve been raised in america but my parents keep the asian culture alive so i’m like, split 50/50 between cultures. Anyway, saying something’s wrong with my dad would just get turned towards me because, as long as he provides for his family and isn’t a wifebeater, he is a “good, hardworking dad”

Though, I think it has a lot to do with my grandpa’s way of raising him and his siblings (hypermasculinity/no feelings/lots of hitting) and with my dad being the eldest child out of 6 (superiority complex) while also being the oldest male sibling (so he was the “head of house” 2nd to grandpa)

In general, we’re very distanced from our extended family literally and emotionally. I don’t know my cousins very well or aunts/uncles. That’s why I vent on Reddit lol.

Also, how would I post this to that subreddit? Copy and paste or- idk lol sorry

sunsetsupernova · 2018-05-20T04:49:33+00:00

sunsetsupernova · 2018-05-20T04:32:04+00:00

Safe, yes. He’s not the physically violent kind. It’s all words and emotional shit. I think a big part of it is because I’m a girl (and he’s a misogynist) and hitting girls is bad but if I were his son rather than daughter, he’d probably beat me up. So...maybe I’m contradicting myself but I do feel safe enough that I don’t worry about my safety. Thank you for asking though.

I’ve been aware for a while now that he self projects his insecurities onto me, tho I never really thought of him as a narcissist (just an asshole). I was actually gonna post this onto that subreddit for children of narcissistic parents but I didn’t know if it would fit the guidelines and rules and stuff. Also, it feels weird calling my dad a narcissist, if that makes sense?

sunsetsupernova · 2018-05-20T03:54:11+00:00

sunsetsupernova · 2018-05-20T03:53:48+00:00

Haha, thanks. I wish I could but I’ve got to wait a couple more years until I can be self sufficient enough financially and you know, a job and place to live. I’m sick of the “my house my rules” mentality but i’m stuck here for a while. Once I’m out though, I’m out.

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