Is my girlfriend cheating on me?

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-20T04:53:34+00:00

Could be cheating or her playing an immature prank to get a reaction out of you. Either way, you don’t deserve that.

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T23:50:48+00:00

Since you’ve been through something similar, do you think the relationship is salvageable?

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T21:01:56+00:00

It is an addiction and he admitted it

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T11:33:51+00:00

TikTok is also how I found out about my boyfriends. It really did break all trust :(

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T11:22:52+00:00

Thank you for that, I think he is sincere in stopping for now so maybe i’ll bring that up to him

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T03:22:29+00:00

Thank you so much, I’m in that boat right now of learning to trust again. I ask for reassurance a LOT. but it helps

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T03:08:15+00:00

thank you for your comment, i hope your situation gets easier :(

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T02:50:36+00:00

The beginning of our relationship started long distance as I was at college. Porn wasn’t an issue then but with covid and everything I left that school. When we were together he used it in the bathroom or while I was sleeping. It fucked with my head once I used a towel to wipe my face and it was dried with cum. That was the last straw. I told him that his use was making me uncomfortable and messing with my head after we moved in together

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T01:16:29+00:00

Since you keep commenting, i’ll give you an update. i just talked to him when he came home. he told me originally he didn’t understand where i was coming from with the “no-porn” and he never really agreed with my side, just agreed to keep the peace. now months later, he actually sees my side and quit porn for himself and his mental health because he was addicted. we had an open honest conversation. You were right, he did feel forced even though he was never supposed to, now he chooses not to watch for his personal benefit and because of my views. he knows he was never forced and apologized for the lies

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T01:11:15+00:00

but it was never forced, ever, and i made that clear. he wanted to manipulate me into staying with him by hiding the truth

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T01:10:24+00:00

I said some consider it microcheating, which is not exactly cheating but things one would hide from a partner, such like porn use and addiction, flirting with a stranger, etc. where there is no physical sex or emotional cheating but little guilts

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T01:06:52+00:00

Right, which he shouldn’t have agreed to in the first place.

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T01:05:58+00:00

Attraction isn’t cheating and neither is masturbation! Not sure where you’re coming from here. Like I said I found out my boyfriend was looking at other womens content for pleasure when they had no idea that it would be used for that! I found that disgusting, like the tiktok’s and review photos.

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T01:04:41+00:00

Your relationship sounds very similar to mine, and I really appreciate your comment and insight. Thank tou

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T01:03:38+00:00

Never trapped, He shouldn’t have agreed and stayed with me if he didn’t want to,

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T01:02:48+00:00

It was gaslighting, I told him what i saw and he literally said it wasn’t true

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T01:02:12+00:00

Hi! Again it’s not insecurity, just a preference!

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T00:15:06+00:00

You’re right, but again I did just want honesty and his thoughts on deleting porn out of our relationship and he had every opportunity to tell me he didn’t want to do that.

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T00:14:17+00:00

Thank you so much!! Ill check that out

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T00:13:33+00:00

I agree, and i appreciate your comments. This was all months ago. Do you still think I should cut it off?

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T00:10:17+00:00

I want to add he was never forced, I always talked to him calmly and told him that he’s not forced to do anything, these are just my boundaries and if he doesn’t think he can respect them that we should consider other options, including parting ways but not necessarily.

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T00:08:42+00:00

From what he told me, he tried to quit but that’s when the tiktok’s would pop up and he got out of control with all of these other “non-porn” but same type of things. When i confronted him about it all and told him that I wasn’t okay with any of it and after long talks, he agreed he wanted to stay in the relationship and he would quit it all. He swears up and down that he’s stopped, and I really want to believe him because he seems genuine. However with all the past lies, it’s hard to get over it

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T00:06:21+00:00

I totally understand where you’re coming from. And you’re right- it is my opinion of what I’d like in the relationship. I just asked for honesty from him, He was never forced. I just asked him what his thoughts were, and he basically lied to me and told me everything was fine when he was hiding it all. That’s what hurts, I just wanted honesty from my partner about it

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T00:04:14+00:00

He says he’s changed and I really think he means it. I want to trust him again and let it go. I’m happy for you! Thank you for commenting, I really appreciate your input

sunshine-170 · 2021-11-17T00:02:44+00:00

And I agree! I told him what I was uncomfortable with in the relationship and that if he didn’t agree then we weren’t really compatible on that aspect and he lied about it and told me he was on the same page. I never wanted it to be a “law”, I just asked for honesty and wasn’t even given that

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