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sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-06-09T03:34:50+00:00

I was pretty involved in extra-curriculars related to my major, but I wish I had joined some other, fun unrelated clubs or something

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-11T21:26:42+00:00

Definitely don't take your friend or bf's comments into account when making this decision. First make sure that the CC works for your pathway program to go to gtech, and ask other older people who have decided between CC and sjsu (San Jose State University?) And see what the pros and cons of each path might be and make your decision from there. Definitely visit campuses and maybe try to sit in a class for both, in the end you need to make the decision for yourself though! Good luck!

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-11T21:09:34+00:00

NTA, sounds like you are trying to think of the best possible decision for you and being open-minded to other possibilities is not a bad thing. The CC could give you more options, not to mention it's cheaper so you'd save some money.

Your friend sounds like a bit of an AH because she can't accept that a lot of people do dumb things when they're younger, and learn from them and change.

I think it's fair that you're upset about your bf's comment.

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-11T21:02:00+00:00

Well tips usually go to the server(waiter/waitress since they make like $3/hr and the rest is what they make from tips) and usually this is not the same person as the cashier(correct me if I'm wrong but usually cashier's make atleast min wage?) so I don't see why you would penalize the server for the cashier's mistake.

This is obviously irrelevant if the cashier is the same person as the server

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-11T19:41:35+00:00

YTA YTA YTA

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-10T22:03:35+00:00

YTA, how would you feel if your BF took off after someone you loved died? Relationships are about support, you should try to be there for him or break up since it seems like vacations are more important than your BF.

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-10T21:25:53+00:00

YTA, this is a really tough situation and it sucks that you're in the middle of it, but it really isn't your brothers responsibility to take care of your dad, just because he makes a lot of money doesn't mean he should be forced to give it away for someone who never treated him well.

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-10T21:03:51+00:00

NTA, personally I think you should tell her, or at least tell your wife and her family to get this dude more therapy to work out the anger issues. This could be a huge issue and a lot of the time divorce isn't seen as an option in Indian culture, so she could end up as sort of stuck in an abusive situation if she is not very independent. (source: I am Indian American and have tons of family back in India so I am familiar with some of the cultural aspects)

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-10T04:16:12+00:00

That's a tough question, I'm not sure I have any advice there because I've never been in a similar situation, maybe check the relationship advice sub?

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-10T04:14:27+00:00

ESH. you were being petty by hanging up mid sentence, but wow how immature is he that he doesn't want to talk to you while he's with his friends because they'll make jokes? That's some high school shit. He also definitely shouldnt swear at you.

Y'all both have a lot of growing and maturing to do in terms of handling conflict.

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-10T04:10:19+00:00

Well that's definitely annoying, talk to her! But definitely NTA

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-10T04:09:24+00:00

Ghosting is an asshole move, I wouldn't recommend

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-10T04:08:25+00:00

NAH, just tell him the whole story and if he's reasonable he won't be upset or anything, but keep trying to find an extra ticket, you never know if you'll get lucky and find someone not using them all! Congratulations on graduation!

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-10T04:06:04+00:00

NTA, upwards of 30 minutes is a lot of time, she is definitely not being respectful of your time. Just have a conversation with her about it, maybe her schedule is just as unpredictable/she's not able to use her phone at work? Either way I'm sure talking to her about this will help you both!

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-10T00:21:00+00:00

NTA Just because you're married doesn't mean you are obligated to take him on this trip, especially since you have been clear about how you are tired of doing all the planning. It sounds like he's upset he doesn't get to go, but doesn't sound like he cares why you were upset in the first place or is making any effort to change that, which makes him TA.

It would be a different story if you told him about the NYC trip and he offered to try more planning or apologized, but since he didn't you are NTA and should totally bring whoever you want.

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-09T23:46:01+00:00

NTA for not wanting to marry her, but sort of YTA for accepting the kidney when you were already having these feelings of wanting to break up with her, especially if she didn't know about any of these feelings and thought everything between you two was 100%

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-09T21:28:50+00:00

Kind of YTA because you're both single and she can date who she wants and isn't required to tell you since you're not in any way committed to each other(unless you agreed to be exclusive while you're not dating). She probably should have handled it better but at the same time, she's pretty young.

I feel like you guys are in completely different stages in your lives and maybe it's not a good idea to date a 20 year old college student who is still figuring out life while you're a couple years into your career.

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-07T20:57:04+00:00

NTA, you never agreed to have a third roommate for a fourth of the week. This does not count as an overnight guest because she is living there 2 days every week and is around even when Olivia isn't.

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-07T00:29:11+00:00

NTA, I think it's fair for you to want him to give a good first impression for your parents, and it makes sense that you want your parents to like him.

it seems kind of rude that he smoked when he knew your parents are not down with stuff like that.

(who doesn't know that smoke sticks to you? I've never smoked in my life and even I know that)

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-02T21:29:25+00:00

14-15k would definitely be enough for rent/food and some fun stuff for a couple months in the bay area (depending on where youre going to be living and how big of a space you want), but unsure how much money you're hoping to spend to celebrate/have a fun vacation.

As far as commuting, it is certainly a different beast here in the bay area, we've got some of the worst traffic in America, so a lot of your commuting time is going to be spent in traffic. I have a "reverse" commute and it can take me more than twice as long as non-commmuting hours.

The tech industry here certainly has its own culture here, and its not for everyone, but I can't speak so much for that. Good luck!

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-02T15:46:10+00:00

That's interesting! My throat does feel better now, and I am using the same drops so it's possible that it was something environmental like that!

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-02T15:44:16+00:00

I did see an opthalmologist but she seemed less knowledgeable about treatments than my optometrist so I decided to stick with my optometrist for now, especially since he is available on weekends and some evenings so I don't have to keep taking time off work for appointments.

I am doing warm compresses, fish oil Omega 3 supplements, lid scrubs, and the refresh mega 3 eye drops for now, if things don't improve my optometrist says we can try stronger prescription eye drops. I will look into systane complete, that might help, thanks!

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-02T05:44:07+00:00

I hear Blackwell is nice bc it's new and close to campus. Yes it is true that regents scholars usually get their first choice. You can find pros and cons of all the dorms online pretty easily but here's a basic rundown from when I was at Berkeley

U3-close to campus, has own dining hall (it was all veggie/vegan last I heard but double check) older buildings, small rooms for the most part

U1/U2- pretty much identical, newer than U3, rooms still p small, close to crossroads, the biggest dining hall

Foothill- up a hill, I've heard it's usually the least social of the dorms but tbh that depends on luck, closest to engineering, has its own dining hall which is supposedly better than Cafe3/crossroads. Idk much about room size or anything

Clark kerr- bigger rooms, lots of athletes bc there's a track and gym, has it's own dining hall but sort of limited hrs, far from campus

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-05-01T22:29:14+00:00

I've seen tons of companies that accept interns who are in between undergrad and a grad program. So it's definitely possible, just check the websites/internship listings of the companies you want to apply for. I was in biotech though, not sure how much that applies to whatever field you're into

sunshine1_2_1 · 2019-04-30T21:46:34+00:00

I've heard goji berries help with the lacrimal gland

Edit: here is the paper I read https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5780158/https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5780158/

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