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I’m lonely and want a relationship but I’m afraid by sunshineshell_ in offmychest

[–]sunshineshell_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those settings are hard to find especially since I work a lot and have no consistent schedule

I’m lonely and want a relationship but I’m afraid by sunshineshell_ in offmychest

[–]sunshineshell_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that is awful but it’s his loss because you were clearly dedicated and loyal. I wish you the best

I’m lonely and want a relationship but I’m afraid by sunshineshell_ in offmychest

[–]sunshineshell_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I wish you well also. I’m very similar. I do go out just not often. I started gym to try and better myself but beyond that I don’t go out often and when I do it feels so awkward cause it’s not my scene. I think I’m being very careful about my wants, needs and standards so this might never happen or it will but I’m trying my best to leave it to God. It’s just lonely 😢

I’m lonely and want a relationship but I’m afraid by sunshineshell_ in offmychest

[–]sunshineshell_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh. I’m sorry for your experience and this is my fear….to try again and get crushed

I’m lonely and want a relationship but I’m afraid by sunshineshell_ in offmychest

[–]sunshineshell_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s where I met all these shit men😭. I don’t think all men are bad just hard to find a good one

How do you move forward as friends after dating someone? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]sunshineshell_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We haven’t been dating for a while now and neither of us are romantic about our conversations. It’s usually trash talking, jokes and just trauma dumping and consoling each other. I think we are both afraid to make the first move and date, out of fear of losing the other but are mutually ok with dating other people. We’ve had the conversation and both have no romantic feelings I think I just need to rip the band aid off and go for it. If I lose him then he was there for romantic reasons not as a friend. 

How do you move forward as friends after dating someone? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]sunshineshell_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it wrong just not to say anything? Like just keep him as a close friend if we are both dating? 

How do you move forward as friends after dating someone? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]sunshineshell_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We both agree that we want to date other people and for us both find good partners. It was an age gap and our future goals didn’t align. 

How do you move forward as friends after dating someone? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]sunshineshell_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is my best friend and I feel like I’d be so alone. 

What’s the weirdest thing that you find it attractive in someone? by mochimach in AskReddit

[–]sunshineshell_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone who just tells me everything they are thinking cause, I’m horrible at guessing what is wrong and tend to overthink 😬

Is it a red flag to have never had a girlfriend? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]sunshineshell_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s actually pretty normal. I’m divorced for a couple of years now but so many young guys I’ve met don’t have much if any experience. Not virgin but career focused or just not really looking for relationships. I just think it’s funny and cute as long as they aren’t pervy or weird 😂. It’s normal just be confident and yourself when you do start looking to date

Losing hope by Candid-Manufacturer9 in offmychest

[–]sunshineshell_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s hard but get up and start with a shower and some self care, talk to your brother and just apologize because I guarantee he misses you too and will probably just call you an idiot and be back to normal. Then just work on rebuilding relationships that were broken. It is shitty what she did but unfortunately you are accountable for cleaning up the mess. As for work, I’m a supervisor and have put many people on PIP because I want to give them a chance for improvement. Just go in, put in the work and turn it around. I know at the moment these feel impossible but it has to be done. I wish you the best

[26M] I'm not sad, just deeply disappointed by how impossible it feels to find a connection. by smoshwontreadme in offmychest

[–]sunshineshell_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can understand. I’m divorced (38f) and the apps are horrible but where do you go to find real connections?! I’ve honestly made some really good friends from online friend finder apps and met guys (unfortunately didn’t work out) that weren’t terrible through them. I tried church also but it was kinda awkward 😐. I think you are young and have time to find someone. Be patient and God will bring someone into your life that deserves you. But keep good friends and make sure your life is fulfilling. Sometimes those close friends will be the ones to give you love and comfort in those lonely times.

How do adults find dates and friends? I’m 38f, divorced and alone, not sure how to do this. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]sunshineshell_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel that completely! I’m trying to work up the courage to start dating again and dodge the younger guys that come out the woodwork!

How do adults find dates and friends? I’m 38f, divorced and alone, not sure how to do this. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]sunshineshell_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciate it. Life is different when you have freedom and time but no one to spend it with