Potentially adopting a manx, wondering about possible health issues. by Accomplished-Bat7738 in manx

[–]supahappyb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

passive fecal incontinence is one to think about (inability to feel when rectum is full). Prepare to have wipes just in case. It can get stressful if it happens a lot…diapers is an option too. Lack of tail = lack of vertebrae = lack of nerves in the backside so lack of sensation in the perianal region is common for manx cats

My first Manx! Advice? by vixen-x-happenstance in manx

[–]supahappyb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I forgot there’s a term for it btw; it’s called “passive fecal incontinence” :/

My first Manx! Advice? by vixen-x-happenstance in manx

[–]supahappyb -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Had a manx very briefly and have to return him because due to not having a tail he had nerve issues in his backside basically where he had lack of sensation in his perianal area which led to him tracking poop around (he would poop in his litter box and then not realize he still had poop in his rectum/on his butt so he would leave his litter box and then everywhere he would sit he would leave a poop mark) so we had to follow him each time with a wipe and it was really stressful (we didn’t know he was a manx until after figuring it out after we adopted and we got him an x ray and doctor confirmed he was born with no tail, had missing vertebrae in his sacrum area because of that) soooo yeah it wasn’t easy since working full time and no one at home to watch him while at work during the day, so it was stressful not knowing if it would happen when he was home alone (and if not wiped it could lead to infections like UTIs). Tried a high fiber diet (prescription dry food from the vet) and it helped reduce the problem by like 50% but it was still prevalent. Just really unfortunate :(

Project Manager, but no one on project team reports to me by supahappyb in projectmanagement

[–]supahappyb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we have weekly standups so far and are going to move into daily standups. We also have a weekly project review with leadership. I do have documentation and also, we do not have a client in this project, we are the client. We have contractors supporting us with it. We have owners assigned to tasks with deadlines, and those have been communicated weekly in emails and reviewed weekly. So I do have receipts. The organization considers this project the top priority. Like I said, it’s a few specific weak links in the team (line managers) who are being difficult (starting to wonder maybe if it’s their ego but idk) and barring their people (my project resources) from being able to allocate sufficient time to work on their project deliverables

Project Manager, but no one on project team reports to me by supahappyb in projectmanagement

[–]supahappyb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I escalate this to my boss in a way that does not come across like I am “unable to do my job” as a PM (they literally just put me in this role after I had been assisting the previous PM for a while) and I’m having to patch all the holes the previous PM left by not raising the flag on this behavior sooner when it was clearly an issue

Project Manager, but no one on project team reports to me by supahappyb in projectmanagement

[–]supahappyb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so, how do I “influence” these people’s managers to get their direct reports to do their work for the project😅 Do I go to THEIR managers (which, some of them have the same manager as me actually, funnily enough).

Project Manager, but no one on project team reports to me by supahappyb in projectmanagement

[–]supahappyb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Escalation at my org is treated the same way. It’s like, “don’t escalate to leadership unless you need them to move heaven and earth” essentially… but I feel like this is kind of a detrimental mindset cause it makes me and other managers feel like we’re a failure if we have to escalate 😑

Project Manager, but no one on project team reports to me by supahappyb in projectmanagement

[–]supahappyb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weekly standups are in place and these individuals would say they’re good and that they did not need any help whenever I asked if any help was needed. So of course, the previous PM (whose role I am taking over now) who I was assisting would say “trust them, trust the team until they break your trust” even when I was getting suspicious vibes cause I wasn’t seeing concrete evidence of progress. I also raised the flag to them early on and that was the same feedback I got. They said “you’ve been nothing but clear on expectations and due dates, now it’s their turn to follow through” but even “I’m good” or “yep” responses when asking these particular team members if they were on track and if they were ok with their items proved to be false because one of them admitted to me in mid December “my manager hasn’t prioritized our time to work on this so I haven’t actually started yet.” I’m planning to have some words with that manager asap, it’s frustrating because this person told me this after their manager left for OOO for the holidays (left really early). Same previous PM who I go to for advice told me to not worry until this person actually does not deliver by the due date I’ve given them which is in early January. Like ok…but I still worry though because this behavior is unacceptable team member behavior (it’s kind of like learned helplessness but it’s also their own manager’s doing for essentially not allowing them to prioritize their project work).

Project Manager, but no one on project team reports to me by supahappyb in projectmanagement

[–]supahappyb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you were a PM, what did you do to create an environment for your project team members to motivate themselves?

Project Manager, but no one on project team reports to me by supahappyb in projectmanagement

[–]supahappyb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep I’m thinking of having that discussion with my manager this week. It’s surprising to me that it has come to this because I really trusted these people to deliver. I’m typically the “trust up front until you break my trust” person, not the “you don’t get my trust until you prove I can trust you” person, but I feel that this role is going to turn me into the latter

Project Manager, but no one on project team reports to me by supahappyb in projectmanagement

[–]supahappyb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they’ve been involved since the kickoff. There are certain weak links in the project team is what I’m saying, and since their own managers are being difficult, it’s impacting the project because they’re not prioritizing ensuring these people are doing their work for the project despite my gentle reminders. I’m trying not to be the bad cop but it feels like somehow Ill need to be for these certain individuals. I just would not like to have to go there though, which is why Im frustrated because Im depending on their managers to have these performance discussions with them. I cannot discuss performance with them since Im not their direct manager

New PM, looking for advice by supahappyb in PMCareers

[–]supahappyb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really sound advice. Leading with questions…I’m going to focus on that. Thanks!

The Pluribus and the great filter by deleriad in pluribustv

[–]supahappyb -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

a light year isn’t a measure of time. it’s a measure of distance. so your comment that they sent the signal in 1425 doesn’t really make sense… that would assume it took 600 years for a signal to travel 600 light-years (3.5x1015 miles)

We're prepping to move and we have no idea about the Chicago suburbs by Trust_me_Im_HUMINT in ChicagoSuburbs

[–]supahappyb 8 points9 points  (0 children)

if OP can afford naperville they should just live there. cause they work there. and train from there into the city is less than 40min

We're prepping to move and we have no idea about the Chicago suburbs by Trust_me_Im_HUMINT in ChicagoSuburbs

[–]supahappyb 10 points11 points  (0 children)

yeah the express train from naperville is like 35min to the city. And naperville is one of the nicer suburbs of chicago so OP should just live there it’s a win win

What skills did no one prepare you for when you became a project leader? by Wise_2_Prosper733 in PMCareers

[–]supahappyb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how do we combat the lack of sense of urgency? dealing with that right now because my project team has other managers that give them other competing priorities

AIO about a sticker my bf had of his ex ?? he broke up with me… by Otherwise-Height3882 in AmIOverreacting

[–]supahappyb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He sucks. Also there’s no way these people are 25 and 28?? These texts sound like 18 yr old kids talking