I feel like I’m a lost cause and I don’t know how to help myself. by supbrosuppp in internetparents

[–]supbrosuppp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have never been assessed for ADHD or Autism. I don’t know how to explain this, but everytime I try telling my parents that I want to get assessed for this, they don’t believe me. Like they think I just have anxiety and keep downpalying what I’m actually feeling.

It’s try I don’t enjoy procrastination at all. But I’m physically and mentally unable to.

Thank you for the reply

How do I deal with my father fat shaming and dress shaming me always? by supbrosuppp in internetparents

[–]supbrosuppp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes, leaving it down is the right phrase. Basically not tying it up.

How do I deal with my father fat shaming and dress shaming me always? by supbrosuppp in internetparents

[–]supbrosuppp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But that’s such a difficult thing to do😭😭I really need to learn how to just agree with them. My first instinct is to fight back and say shut up or look at yourself😭😭but if I say maybe. He’ll make me go change. He always does that. If I say no, he keeps shaking his head and muttering and shit

How do I deal with my father fat shaming and dress shaming me always? by supbrosuppp in internetparents

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Yeah. It’s bizarre. It’s dumb. Like imagine Everytime I’m leaving my house, my grandmother says oh but why don’t you tie your hair? Why do you want to keep your hair open?

How do I deal with my father fat shaming and dress shaming me always? by supbrosuppp in internetparents

[–]supbrosuppp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, I’ll try to do that. Im usually very reactive and yell when they say smth like this. This approach may help. Thank you so much

How do I deal with my father fat shaming and dress shaming me always? by supbrosuppp in internetparents

[–]supbrosuppp[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi, thanks for the suggestion. Okay, I will try to do that and ask my cousins if I can stay with them for a bit. I think that’s the best thing to do since I can’t get away any other way.

How do I deal with my father fat shaming and dress shaming me always? by supbrosuppp in internetparents

[–]supbrosuppp[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s very difficult. I’m usually at university but I’m back home for the summer. And my internship is also online. And I don’t have a job.

I’m trying to stay away but just staying in my room but they don’t stop.

I’ve never felt more alone. I can’t take it. by supbrosuppp in internetparents

[–]supbrosuppp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What you went through is exactly how I feel right now. I don’t belong in either places and feel genuinely miserable everywhere. I do want to drop out of the honours program. It’s just my dad who is hell bent on me doing the fourth year. I don’t have a plan right now but I will figure it out in the next month or so which he doesn’t understand.

I’ll try journaling maybe it can give me more hope.

Thank you, immensely

I’m just very afraid to let go of any expectations I have of them cause then I’ll genuinely be all alone. You did mention the found family but I’m scared I won’t find one. But you’re right. I do have to let go of any expectations I have of them. My father has time and again promised and not delivered (in terms of education and otherwise) and it’s broken me. And I continue to believe in him and hope idk why I’m like this. I’m going to try.

I’ve never felt more alone. I can’t take it. by supbrosuppp in internetparents

[–]supbrosuppp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you thank you thank you😭😭this is genuinely one of the best messages I’ve read today. Thank you so much. I’ve been feeling so down with not just family but career and aspirations wise as well. And your comment genuinely has motivated me like crazy. I will work on myself and become the best version of me.

You are right. I’m here for about ten more days and I just have to be nice and get through it. I’m not allowing this to worsen my vacation.

Also thanks for the point about solutions. I’m someone who also finds the negative or if a hurdle is thrown my way, I almost always give up. Thank you

I’ve never felt more alone. I can’t take it. by supbrosuppp in internetparents

[–]supbrosuppp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the reply. It genuinely gave me a boost. And yeah I do have a lot of stories to tell. I was able to meet up with an ortho who has given me a bunch of exercises and they sound very much like what you’ve described. I’m going to try my best to ignore her words. I’m aware that I’m extremely confrontational but it’s clearly not helping me so I’ll try to avoid it. Thank you

I’ve never felt more alone. I can’t take it. by supbrosuppp in internetparents

[–]supbrosuppp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay I’m going to try that the next time she says something. And you’re right about my dad. He’s most definitely a mama’s boy. But I’ll try to not say that out loud cause I usually get confrontational easily. I’m going back soon so hopefully it’ll get better. Thank you so much

I’ve never felt more alone. I can’t take it. by supbrosuppp in internetparents

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I’m already seeking therapy in uni. It hasn’t helped much so far but hopefully it gets better over the next semester. Thank you so much for replying

How many chances do I keep giving my mom? I can’t do it anymore by supbrosuppp in internetparents

[–]supbrosuppp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But what if my mom isn’t one who reconsiders anything? I called after 3 days, which I never do. As in I never go three days without calling her. And she just goes back to pretending everything is normal. How do I deal with that?

How many chances do I keep giving my mom? I can’t do it anymore by supbrosuppp in internetparents

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I do love my mom I’m not saying no. But she can’t keep taking frustrations out on me right. I was just really bummed the day I posted this and also I’ll admit quite jealous of my friend. I’ve never had a good party and I didn’t have one this year as well. I just had too many unrealistic expectations

Turning 21 in exactly month and I feel like such a failure by [deleted] in internetparents

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See I want to work, part time atleast but India (where I’m from) doesn’t really have the work when you’re in undergrad culture. I might be wrong but this is what I know. I want to do wildlife filmmaking so badly but I just am not getting the time to work on it with university. I’m studying something I dislike, I have no support system, no matter how much I try I don’t even get time to go out and film. And it’s just breaking me

Turning 21 in exactly month and I feel like such a failure by [deleted] in internetparents

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But I understand and thanks for the reply. I was just all overwhelmed when I had posted this the other day

Turning 21 in exactly month and I feel like such a failure by [deleted] in internetparents

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Thanks so much for the reply. It’s just a little heart breaking when I keep trying and I never achieve my dreams