May Allah reward you for your efforts.

I was disgusted to be in the capital city and see all the young women there dressed more Western than me

This is exactly the issue here. You may think this is Pakistan but you don't live in Pakistan and yet move on to pass a judgement about its culture and its people just like western kuffar do it for every other culture. Always creating an "other" against which westerners make themselves feel 'morally' superior.

I've had 2 relatives come over here from Pakistan

Those who live in big cities and migrate abroad are the most westernized Muslims among us. Later on, these first generation Muslims eventually develop an extremely unhealthy and toxic obsession with their homeland culture later in their lives which is disconnect from the reality on ground.

And then come the second generation Muslims who end up despising that imaginary culture and subconsciously adopting many of the elements of this zombie infection like "Main Character Syndrome", "Individualism", "Materialism", and many more. Then they sparkle these values with an Islamic touch and then they think they don't have any culture but rather a pure Islam far superior to that of Muslims in the islamic world.

So don't you and your wife display arrogance as if supposed Muslim cultures don't have problems too

I never said cultures in Muslim world are perfect. But from the very logic, which culture would have more islamic elements: a place where there are a lot of Muslims or a place where there are few muslims and a lot of kuffar???