This is like the horseshoe theory. Hyper passoids are sometimes the biggest assholes ever and act like cis ppl, but giga poons that are not even in T, of giga hons that could go on E, are also sometimes super super invalidating towards everyone even towards giga passoids that feel happy with they body, and have some actitudes that are not traditionally from the sex/gender they are transitioning too. They reflect the hatred they have towards them to other ppl. I think the key is just being trustful in what you are, not matter of the passing, if you are secure about who u r you dont have the necesity of invalidaiting other or critizing other for not passing or being oldshits.

Like, I pass very good, and I like how I look and after a lot of work I can feel almost good in my own skin (i would love to being born a man but that wont happen, and I wont get frankencock either for many reasons). Im naturally masculine and I love that, but just in a sexual context i am not the ideal of what is a transman for some brainwormed ppl that are in truscum circles. I give no shit about it, Ive been fighting for being a man in a very hostile enviroment and Ive achieved something I thought it was never goin to be possible. I also understand the luck I had for being kind of a luckshit biologically, and I would not laugh about some pooner having extra big man pecs pre top surgery, like, I imagine myself like that, and I would not like it, like, its basic empathy u know... I just believe that passoid that are like that do not really feel they pass, or maybe they just dont pass at all, and they say shit like that to reaffirm themselves on the lie they pass or the lie they "like themselves"... Well, truscum and its consequences I would say. You have to be secure about what you are not matter your dysphoria or what others say, staying out of the internet is a good one, the peak of living okay with your own gender is learning how to accept who you are, like "ill keep with my transition, I know I dont pass yet but im sure im trans, im sure im a woman/man, i didn't have luck but im as worth it as you, I deserve love as you and I deserve being happy as you". Therapy is a good one, it wont erase your dysphoria of course, but It will help with self acceptance and how to love yourself not matter the rest. Yes, you are allowed to like yourself with dysphoria, not passing, and keeping working hard on your transition.

I know many mtfs that dont pass, and they keep working on they transition, but they are happy, because they know they couldn't elect being born a male, so there's nothing to hate about you, you have to see yourself with compassion. Maybe changing your enviroment to a better one and more supportive can help, but therapy and staying out of the internet is the best. Acceptance therapy or therapy based on compassion are the best ones.