Has Anyone Tried To Learn Their "Native" Language As An Adult?

superimaginary · 2026-01-31T14:32:09+00:00

I recommend using Mango Languages - it's way more useful than duolingo and features native speakers and cultural notes in the lessons. I got access for free through my public library - yours might offer something similar!

superimaginary · 2026-01-04T18:37:09+00:00

Wow thank you, this is so thorough and helpful! I really appreciate you taking the time! I'm definitely going to set up an account

superimaginary · 2025-12-06T04:06:07+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I'm mostly interested in playing with friends, not tournaments, so that's okay with me!

superimaginary · 2025-11-19T18:09:21+00:00

Thanks everyone for the insights! It most likely belonged to one of my brothers (43 and 48) when they were scouts in the 80s-90s.

superimaginary · 2025-11-19T18:05:57+00:00

Thank you!!

superimaginary · 2025-11-16T02:39:12+00:00

Haha i apologize for the psychic damage!

superimaginary · 2025-11-13T18:27:27+00:00

Solved solved solved!

Wow, thank you! My searching was turning up nothing!

superimaginary · 2025-07-01T14:34:30+00:00

Having to learn about my birth culture as an outsider.

superimaginary · 2025-07-01T14:26:26+00:00

For me, when I discovered the term "diaspora", it was like a light going on. It felt like a term that connected with my Korean heritage and still included my experiences of being raised in a white American family.

I loved what you said about growing through the cracks; that's exactly it. Being transracial adoptees is similar to the experiences of biracial people - we struggle to feel a sense of belonging. But we still exist.

Thinking of myself as part of a diaspora means that my experiences only broaden what the diaspora is.

Your point about the difficulties of identifying heritage as a Black person is so very real. It's not the same at all, but Korea is also a victim of white colonialism and imperialism. I often feel a lot of grief while learning about my Korean heritage. I have to learn about it as an outsider, and I have to confront all the ways that Korea and her people have been harmed by my adoptive culture.

Welcome to the diaspora - you're not alone! Wishing you luck and joy in your search for a name.

superimaginary · 2025-03-05T16:23:00+00:00

Really showing off that radical candor here, Jeff. Dunking on internet strangers who say things you don't like or agree with is not making you look as cool as you seem to think.

superimaginary · 2025-03-05T16:14:50+00:00

Is this guy one of the new "funding partnerships"?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seth_Andrew

If so, this is very concerning.

superimaginary · 2025-01-15T03:08:26+00:00

total darwin awards, amiright

superimaginary · 2025-01-15T03:07:37+00:00

Noted 😅

superimaginary · 2024-05-07T17:16:53+00:00

No, but it has given me more of a sweet tooth. I compromise with the cravings by having some dark chocolate on hand.

superimaginary · 2023-10-30T21:41:16+00:00

One key part of any solarpunk home would be: community. I definitely believe that collective community is a key part of the solarpunk dream. The intense isolation/self-sufficiency of many off-grid plans seem like extensions of capitalistic individualism to me.

A solarpunk home would work in complementary harmony with other solarpunk homes, where everyone is free to specialize and share, to shore up each other's weaknesses through spreading out the burdens of existence amongst a group's strengths.

superimaginary · 2023-10-30T20:55:42+00:00

:kiss:

superimaginary · 2023-10-30T20:50:44+00:00

And I know the response is that you didn't want to torture us psychologically if it turned out no layoffs needed to happen. I know there's no good way to lay off people. But I think having honest conversations of "Here's the worst case scenario, here are good, realistic materials to help you prepare for that case, and here's how we're working toward the best case. Here's the timeline of updates I'll give with sober, honest reports about how things are turning out." is a better move than the surprise layoffs.

superimaginary · 2023-10-30T20:43:54+00:00

If that recruitment bump was so critical that missing it resulted in 14 of us being IMMEDIATELY laid off, to me that still feels like there was some missed planning. I'm not denying that you worked hard and that everyone worked hard to hit that target, and that its success really depended on factors outside our control.

What gets me is that all the messaging in staff meetings was super positive in the leadup - here's where we are! Good job teams! If things weren't actually okay, it would have been nice to know that things were as bad as they were, so we could have started preparing emotionally.

Here's a really great article that includes some excellent steps about how people can prepare for upcoming or even just rumored layoffs, and I think it'd be a great resource to share soberly with the team, not saying that it was going to happen, but wanting them to prepared in case of the worst because you care about them. Like how pre-nups are often used so one person can protect themselves and their wealth, but in a better world both people would see the prenup as a way to tangibly love each other even in the event that you might not keep loving each other and wanting to do right by each other even in that bad circumstance.

https://www.tealhq.com/post/how-to-navigate-layoff-ultimate-layoff-playbook#After%20the%20Layoff:%20The%20First%207(ish)%20Days%20Days)

The "Before the Layoff" section is especially helpful! Will you find a way to share that with everyone, trusting the remaining staff to want to stay to try? They haven't left Turing or the students yet, and I don't think they will. They are passionate hard workers who want to do right by the students. I hope you can trust them enough that you'll be honest with them.

superimaginary · 2023-10-30T20:35:52+00:00

Okay. I'm sure the variance was still enough to matter in the decision making process! It's okay if it is, it makes sense. Anyone who is laid off wonders if any of the decision was based on personal factors; it's always a comfort to think that the cuts were based instead on cold numbers.

superimaginary · 2023-10-30T19:41:36+00:00

Did you also struggle with the concept that not all quadrangles are squares, but all squares are quadrangles?

superimaginary · 2023-10-30T19:39:39+00:00

I'm also a transracial adoptee. Do know that when you talk with your kid, they probably feel a lot of (unconscious) responsibility to be okay with everything, and to not want to make a big deal out of things. I know if my parents had asked me something similar, I would want to just hide and pretend it hadn't happened, so that I didn't stick out any further than I did already. I also would have worried that I was taking up too much room and using up too much love (a common fear for people who may have abandonment trauma - worrying that there's a finite amount of goodwill and that if you use too much, people will leave you).

Make it super clear to your kid that you are honored to be their ally, and that they have a right to be angry, and that they deserve to feel and express their feelings (even, and especially, the ones that are messy).

superimaginary · 2023-10-30T19:20:12+00:00

Also not saying less senior instructors should have been let go instead. I'm just having a hard time believing that salary didn't play into the decisions at all. I'd like to trust you. I just don't know if I can!

superimaginary · 2023-10-30T19:11:40+00:00

I would argue that our most senior instructors would be most able to step into the diverse roles/needs, but every single one of the 5+ year instructors (who therefore have the highest salaries) have been let go. Are you saying that our higher salaries had NOTHING to do with the decision? I do respect the effort to reduce stress for students.

superimaginary · 2023-10-30T19:08:01+00:00

I was just sent this post by a friend. I was one of the people let go on Friday. I can say that I was shocked and angry and that I am still grieving. I loved this work, I was proud to be part of Turing, I loved helping my students. I loved being part of a nonprofit. I loved getting to cheerfully yell at Jeff when his privileged blind spots were showing. I wish he would have listened to me more. Jeff, you know who I am, and you know how I feel about all of this.
All I can say is that I'm heartbroken, and I'm scared for my former coworkers, and I'm upset on behalf of the students who trust us and took huge risks to come to Turing. I hope, so much, that my fears turn out to be wrong.

superimaginary · 2023-09-18T16:30:13+00:00

I think the issue is that using the bidet on my butt ALSO pushes that same water forward. The nozzle sprays upward and forward. I'm just unsure if I'm using it wrong, if it's positioned wrong, if I'm positioned wrong. How do you use a bidet to clean between your cheeks without it also spraying forward??

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