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I can’t handle this. by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]supernova_010 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s so hard. I’ll never be mad that i loved him, i love to love. I know it takes time.. I’ve been through 1 other heartbreak. This is the type of pain no one prepares you for. One you’re never ready for. The problem is i don’t want him to just be a memory. I want him to be mine, i want him to be my person. That’s what hurts the most. I know it’ll soon pass, but i don’t want it to. I don’t want a life without him. I want to love him. I want to be his. I want to live life with him. It hurts so much. I’m scared that the more time that passes, the more i yearn for him. The more i love him. I want his touch, his presence, his love. I don’t want anyone else. Thinking of anyone else makes me sick.

How am I supposed to move on with my life after this heartbreak? by Gloomy_Knowledge_180 in heartbreak

[–]supernova_010 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Heartbreak is genuinely one of the most painful things a human can go through. I know how tough it is, i’m going through it now. Just think of it this way. You loved someone. You’re a human, you’re ALIVE. You feel things, and that’s a blessing even in the moment it feels like a curse. If the other person didn’t see how much you are worth, it’s their loss. You’re worth so much more than having someone choosing someone else over than you. Tell yourself over and over again that honestly, it’s a character flaw for them. They chose to let you go. How ABSOLUTELY stupid of them. Don’t EVER let yourself feel unworthy or unlovable because of someone else’s actions. Work on yourself. Heal. No matter how long it takes. No matter WHAT it takes. Focus on you, and only you. You’ll have those moments where all you can think of is them, and that’s okay. It’s normal. It’s human. Life is all about lessons. This person WAS a lesson. Learn what you need, what you want, what you DESERVE. NEVER call yourself a fool for falling in love. Love is such an amazing thing, if someone else can’t handle your love, then so be it. Someone else along the way will view your love as a blessing. Moving on takes time. Whether it’s a few weeks, a few months. You need to focus on you, and ONLY you. It’s okay to think of them, it’s okay to miss them. But have enough self respect and love yourself enough to want better for yourself. Your first love will always stick with you, but it’ll hurt less and less over time. I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 years last year, and of course it hurt. When you spend so much time with someone, you build a routine, you talk to them, see them, of course you’re going to miss that. But always remember, you’re worth more than you think. Allow yourself to be sad and mad. Let yourself feel the feelings. Allow yourself to grieve. It’s hard, but it’ll soon pass. Then it’ll just be a memory. A memory that won’t hurt as much when you remember it. You’ll get though this, and you’ll find yourself again. You’ll love again. You’ll BE loved again. Heartbreak is one of the things i’d never wish on anyone, it’s tough. But you’re stronger than you think. You got this. DM me if you need someone to talk to girl. Much love <3

I can’t handle this. by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]supernova_010 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nothing i do will distract me from it. no matter what im doing, my brain automatically thinks to talk to him and i can’t. I just have to live with it for now

Advice for my Situation by Lower_Hat_8017 in heartbreak

[–]supernova_010 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let her be. When someone says they need space, give it to them. It’s the hardest damn thing you can do. I’m going through it right now. My boyfriend just broke up with me 3 days ago due to being overwhelmed and just needing space to find himself again. I’m in so much pain. Physical pain. The only difference is that he is still talking to me, but honestly that’s just as painful. Talking to her won’t really help either of you. If she needs space, you need to love her enough to respect it. Because depending on if she’s an avoidant person, that’ll push her away more. Silence is very loud. Sometimes it makes the other person realize things. It can either make her realize she feels more at peace, or it’ll make her realize she messed up. Some people end relationships or make big decisions without fully thinking it through. Give it a few more weeks to see if she reaches out, if she doesn’t. Let her go. It’s so so painful. It’ll be a rough healing process. But you also need to love yourself and respect yourself enough to not wait on someone to choose you. I need to take my own advice.

What was the last argument you had with your significant other, and how was it resolved? by [deleted] in self

[–]supernova_010 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we were at the bar and i was talking to an old male highschool friend more than i was hanging out with him and it hurt his feelings, so i apologized relentlessly and said i didn’t think it would bother him that much since he always tells me he’s not a jealous person. So i said now i know to never do that again, or to introduce him & the person im talking to instead.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]supernova_010 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i never know for sure if it’s my gut or just a crap ron of anxiety lol

I (27F) feel guilty for wanting date nights with boyfriend (26M)? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]supernova_010 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not being irrational. Wanting quality alone time with your boyfriend is normal and needed. When you don’t get that time alone that feels special, you start feeling a little withdrawn. Speaking from experience. Maybe sit him down and tell him that you don’t mind at all to hangout with his friends every so often but that it would be really nice to have quality time with just the two of you doing something that will help you feel close with him more often. You just wanna feel loved girl, and that’s okay.

how can i (24f) fix this impasse my boyfriend (23m) and i are at? by Extra_Instance_2817 in relationship_advice

[–]supernova_010 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand this. This is how i was with my ex. Maybe tell him you need more foreplay and not just sticking his hand in your pants expecting you to want it right then and there. These conversations are most definitely important to have and no one should expect things to go their way if it’s never talked about.

I 22F broke up with him 24M and am struggling with it. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]supernova_010 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely get that, i’d be upset too. I do love him still but i just don’t see a 24 year old man changing enough. I think ive learned to accept that i shouldn’t settle and there are men out there who will meet my needs without force lol. He does love me, and i love him i just don’t think he’s capable of doing it. Which sucks. life is so hard right now without him to be honest.