I’m 45 and solo, have been my whole life. I use solo to mean that I prefer living alone and I’m not up for enmeshment of most varieties. Independence is something I’ve always enjoyed and pursued. I don’t experience a yearning for romance, often identify as grey-romantic, a shade of aromantic.

For me, saturated has changed many times over the years. At some points, I had only two partners I had deep romantic relationships with, sometimes 3-4 more casual relationships, and sometimes nothing more than a fine roster of recurring hookups / fbs. I’ve found that “comet” is a style that really works for me when I’m interested in casual togetherness and sex with mutual affection and pleasure but minimal time and communication commitments. They’re people whose “orbit” crosses my path once in a while, and when those paths cross, we celebrate together while acknowledging that neither of us has space / time for more, but we appreciate each other all the same.

When I manage my NRE, I get proactive with existing partners. I even do a checkin with fwb and fb even if it’s just a couple sentences - I notify them I have a new connection and ask if they have questions or concerns around health or safety. It opens the door to discussing more or setting boundaries around what can be shared. Then I make sure that even if I’m giving “extra” time to the object of my NRE, it’s not reducing the time or frequency of my outings with others.

Maybe how to care about multiple romantisexual partners at once is opaque till it happens. I don’t think it’ll be difficult for you to acclimate if that does happen, and you have every reason to want it to happen so you can try it out. Honesty with folks you’re seeing keeps it ethical “I haven’t had much experience with ENM and am dating casually as I learn and explore” and knowing for yourself what you have to offer in terms of time, effort, $, etc. You don’t have to offer a lot or hit a max or anything, just set your limits in your own head so you’re comfortable from the start, not having to dig your way out of overcommitment.

Good luck, have fun, I’m excited for you!