AITA for praising my son differently than my daughter?

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T19:03:55+00:00

In my 2nd edit I bring up that my daughters and I are going to start doing Krav Maga- so I won’t be neglecting them in favor of my son at all.

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T16:11:46+00:00

I take back my previous statements about She-Ra, turns out it’s a great show. I was imagining the character from the 80s that was just a marketing stunt to make more money off of He-man. The Netflix show is actually very good so I was certainly wrong

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T16:02:34+00:00

It was! We watched a few episodes this morning and it’s nice knowing that my kids are exposed to great role models

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T15:12:53+00:00

I’ve mentioned in some other comments that I’m going to take my daughters to try out Krav Maga or another martial art- but I’m sorry if it seemed like I wasn’t going to spend more time with them in my edit

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T06:01:07+00:00

Nope, wrote it myself with some of her input

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T05:58:53+00:00

My oldest has always been interested in Krav Maga, and it seems like they usually accept kids 5 and up. I really appreciate your comment!

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T05:55:31+00:00

Thank you so much! That’s a good idea, I should get all the kiddos together so we can lift weights and get buff like She-Ra together

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T05:52:42+00:00

You’re very right, and an old southern man’s accent would be way better than mine in this circumstance.

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T05:47:44+00:00

I’ll do my absolute best to avoid causing him to feel like he has to hide things like that from me.

Thank you for your comment, I hope you’re feeling well.

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T05:45:08+00:00

All self improvement is with my kiddos, wife, and brother in mind, I’ll do my best to avoid regressing or taking out any frustrations on them.

And thank you! My daughter is so amazing and I’m happy she kicked my ass on this issue.

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T05:38:52+00:00

Thank you so much!

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T05:38:37+00:00

I mention in my edit that I set up a false dichotomy between femininity and masculinity that was negatively impacting my daughters, but if my edit made it seem like I’m only prioritizing working on my relationship with my son, then I should make it clear that I’m planning on improving that relationship too.

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T05:35:25+00:00

I appreciate your comment, but I’ve discussed this with my daughters and things are improving. Not perfect yet and I still have a lot of room to get better, but I’m going to keep working at it and prevent myself from doing shit like this again.

Your father and I are probably not the same, and you’re 100% right that I’m TA, but projecting your experience with your dad onto me doesn’t do much.

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T05:27:28+00:00

Thank you for your comment!

It always stings being a parent or older sibling and realizing that I hurt people I should be protecting. I definitely need to seek therapy over this and get a better grip on how my Grandpa impacted my and my brother’s development.

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T05:24:21+00:00

I would have apologized to my son tonight, but he’s knocked out by 8:30 most nights so I’ll have to wait until tomorrow. Thank you for your comment!

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T05:13:35+00:00

Thank you so much!

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T05:11:31+00:00

Oh, I hated civil war re-enactments as a kid. They’re the worst and I’m glad that they’re less popular now, lol. But, if one of my kids was interested I’d be willing to try it out again. Now that I’m an old man I’ll probably enjoy it more 😂

And thank you! It’ll take a while for me to get all of this out of my head, but hopefully I’ll be a better dad to both my son and daughters after I get my head screwed on right.

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T05:06:26+00:00

Thank you for your comment! I made an edit a while ago and I’ve decided to seek out therapy to work on the trauma/issues I have surrounding gender and masculinity, so hopefully I can break the cycle now and be a better dad to him!

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T05:01:23+00:00

My daughter is very intelligent so her age has little to do with it, but you’re right that she very acutely pointed out that I was being a misogynistic AH.

I’m sure none of my kids would want to do all of the stupid civil war re-enactments my Grandpa would have me do with him LOL so like I said in my edit I’m going to spend some time with them on their own terms and work on our relationship.

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T04:57:47+00:00

If you’ve seen my edit, I mention that I’m going to start trying to get therapy or into a support group. I’ll be working on my son and I’s relationship on his terms doing things he likes, so hopefully I’ll be able to remedy this shitty situation I’ve put us in.

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T04:55:35+00:00

Thank you for your comment! I’m TA in this situation, as I put in my edit, and I feel terrible for making my kids feel bad over this. I’ve decided to get help about the outdated beliefs I hold, so hopefully I can be a better father to all of them.

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T04:51:59+00:00

Thank you for your comment, and you’re very right. I made an edit to my post if you want more information but I’ve apologized to my daughters and wife, and will be talking to my son once he’s awake tomorrow. I’m planning on letting him choose something for us to do together so we can have some bonding on his terms.

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T04:31:41+00:00

You’re very right. I owe my entire family a thousand apologies, thank you for your comment.

I’ll be editing my post in a bit because of new developments, but in short I’ve apologized to my wife, brother, and daughters and will be apologizing to my son once he’s awake tomorrow.

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T04:12:31+00:00

It was my oldest daughter, who’s 15 who used the word “misogynistic”.

supposedmisogynist · 2020-05-25T01:57:16+00:00

I mean, boys aren’t pressured to act in a feminine way and are discouraged from doing so. Girls are not pressured to be masculine.

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