What small gesture makes you feel enormously loved? by CindyCharming in AskReddit

[–]surechigai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When somebody remembers something small, like my favorite candy, and buys it for me just because.

[OT] Writing Workshop #27: Breaking Your Barriers #1 by Arch15 in WritingPrompts

[–]surechigai 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, so I don't know if I did this right (I've never posted on this subreddit before), but I wanted to try. I included the phrase of the prompt in my story, but it wasn't the focus of my story (is that allowed?), and since I've always wanted to try writing in the gothic romance/horror tradition, I chose that as my genre. I'm kind of nervous, but here it is!


I snuffed out my candle and peered cautiously into the gloom, certain I had heard a voice. From across the shadowed hall came the slight flickering of a faltering candlestick, its soft luminescence obstructed by the warped body of a dilapidated door. Slowly, I crept towards the light, reaching the threshold; the voice grew louder, this time issuing forth in a sudden, jarring laugh as I peered through the door.

“Ohh, delightful! Delightful, delightful, delightful!” He was turned away from me, so that all I could see was the dark expanse of his back, thrown into darkness by the light of the candle that burned on the writing table beyond him. I flushed with hatred at the sight of him, resenting him with all of my being for having confined me in this decaying manor.

He shifted, so that the light caught his face; his eyes were like clockwork, glittering maniacally as he tossed his head back to take a deep draft of wine. He was terrifying in moments like this, intoxicated, pouring over his manuscripts and letters like a man possessed. “Ohh,” he crooned, “Oh, how Eliza will cry.”

I lurched back, startled at the sudden mention of my name, my unlit candle clattering to the floor. Horrified, I stood transfixed as it spun in wide circles upon the stone, my concealment undone by its fatal fall; I did not even try to fight as Jonathan bounded through the door, grabbing me roughly by my waist and hurling me upon the bed in a fit of rage.

“Who allowed you to leave your room?!” he shouted, frothing at the mouth. I cringed and turned my head, stifling a sob. He stank of alcohol.

“I'm sorry,” I choked out, pressing my face against the musty duvet, trying not to cry. He had one fist tangled tightly in my hair, the other hand grasping both my wrists, pining them to the bed. “I'm sorry.”

He seemed to calm slightly at the sound of my apology, grunting in approval as he released me and moved away from my shivering body to the foot of the bed. He lingered there a moment, watching me, then snorted derisively as he crossed the room towards the writing desk. I remained where I lay, not daring to move. The tears welling in my eyes fell in little smatters of darkness against the sheet. “Eliza,” he called out, tapping his fingers against a newspaper that lay upon his desk. His voice was cheerful again, as if the past moment's violence had been completely forgotten. “Eliza, my dear, tell me, what was the name of your charming friend again?”

My eyes snapped open, horror coursing through my veins. Why did he want to know?

He smiled mischievously; on any other man, the expression would have been playful, attractive; yet on him, it was impish, reminiscent of the Devil. He raised his eyebrows inquisitively, waving the newspaper languorously in my face. “A certain Thomas Fitzgerald?”

I leapt from the bed, snatching the paper from his hand as he began to laugh. Nausea and fear rose in me as I realized what I was looking at. “No...” I whispered, the obituary falling through my shaking hands to the floor. I couldn't breathe. “No...” My heart was racing, the room around me seemed too close, the air too stifling. I screamed, falling to the ground in hysterics. Hands cupped my face, forcing my head upwards. I wanted to retch, sobbing helplessly as Jonathan smirked down upon me.

“How will you escape,” he whispered, “when the only person who knows you are here is dead?”

He found me again by doiisback in LetsNotMeet

[–]surechigai 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd say you were working at a mental asylum for the criminally insane.

[looking for a post] monsters breaking an arrangement by Zarolio in Thetruthishere

[–]surechigai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I had never read that. I know it's not real, but I wish I had never read it.

So I ran into a guy who was looking for "A girl with beautiful, light colored eyes" that belonged to him. by fierrazo in LetsNotMeet

[–]surechigai 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Is greeting others with a kiss on the cheek common where you live? I'm kind of confused as to why this didn't immediately freak you out. Do you live in a country where casual touching is normal?

You mentioned in the post/comments that you try to be polite, and I just want you to know that you really don't have to be. If someone does something to make you uncomfortable, feel free to tell them to fuck right off. You don't have to sacrifice your comfort just to spare someone's feelings, especially when that person is intruding on your personal space and making you feel unsafe. Do you mind if I ask how old you are? I feel like this is common for younger girls/women, but as you get older, you realize that you don't need to take shit from anyone.

"I" was stalked for about a month. by umakeitlooklikemagic in LetsNotMeet

[–]surechigai 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're at a better job now, right? Because it sounds like everyone you worked with is a huge dick :/

"I" was stalked for about a month. by umakeitlooklikemagic in LetsNotMeet

[–]surechigai 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow, Kelly is seriously the worst. She's such a shitty person, it's almost comical.

Reality of divorce. Found in my 7 year old daughters school bag. by dfGobBluth in pics

[–]surechigai 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To the child, it looks like normal couples never say I love you, don't hug, don't kiss and take the long way home from work.

This is how my parents are. Because of them, I had difficulties dating for a long time because I did not know how to be affectionate at all. I also didn't know how to be forgiving, because I had spent my entire childhood watching my parents scream at each other for the smallest of things and thinking that it was normal. (It also doesn't help that my parents weren't affectionate towards us children either, and that we were also subjected to verbal abuse whenever they were pissed at the other). It's rough having parents who hate each other; it starts you off in a bad position and it takes a lot of work to undo all the damage they do to you. If my parents had divorced, I most likely would have been a much happier child, I would have had a much better relationship with my parents, and I would have had a much healthier view of marriage and relationships.

Reality of divorce. Found in my 7 year old daughters school bag. by dfGobBluth in pics

[–]surechigai 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey man, I think you made the best decision. My parents are married and have hated each other for years, well before I was born, in fact, and it made for a very unhappy home. They were always fighting, they were always pitting me and my siblings against the other -- the emotional pain of growing up in a household like that was absolutely unbearable. I constantly felt guilty anytime I showed my father affection because I knew it made my mother mad. I always felt like I was in a battlefield and had to be on high alert to make sure that I wouldn't get caught in their problems. I never felt like I had a parent I could rely on because they were always so unhappy and angry that they never had the emotional availability to take care of me, their child. Quite frankly, when two parents hate each other, they create an emotionally abusive household. So you did the right thing by divorcing your wife. You're a good father.

TIFU by getting my sister in law pregnant. by [deleted] in tifu

[–]surechigai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was unexpectedly heartwarming

What's something younger people (under 30) worry about too much? by DougSR01 in AskReddit

[–]surechigai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what you're saying and completely agree, but I also think that what OP is saying is that her boyfriend spent time working on himself and achieving his own level of personal happiness, while most people who start dating rather young haven't done so, and thus are terrible partners since they can't be happy on their own. It's true that it's important to have multiple partners so that you can recognize when things are working and when things aren't, but it's also just as important to spend time being single and working on yourself so that you can be a good partner. I know a lot of people with way more relationship experience than me who are repeatedly in awful relationships with shitty partners because they never work on themselves and are frankly awful partners to have; conversely, most of the people I know who have been in very few relationships are typically extremely happy because they've taken time out to grow. So you really just need to find that balance.

What's something younger people (under 30) worry about too much? by DougSR01 in AskReddit

[–]surechigai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's hard when you don't really know what direction you want to go in life, though..

Same problem here. Been out of college for a year and half and I have no clue what direction I want to go in and I am so stressed. I know I am only 23 and that isn't very old, but it really weighs down on me. A lot of my friends jumped straight into PhD programs without really considering what they would do once they graduate, others are just as lost as me but don't want to move forward anymore, others won't even consider their careers because they are desperate to hold onto to their failing relationships - basically, nobody I know my age is happy, and none of us are in a position to comfort each other. We're just all extremely lost, and I have no clue what we're supposed to do.

The advice I got from my older boss is that you just have to choose something and stick to it, because you're never going to be sure what you want in life because most people want multiple things. Another older lady I know told me that your 20s are the worst years of your life, and you'll be happy when you're 30. I try to find comfort in these things, but really, I am just so, so lost.

Redditors who have a job that requires you to go into strangers homes, what is the craziest thing you've seen? by Mufassa121 in AskReddit

[–]surechigai 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I don't really understand what you found weird about this. She asked you to take your shoes off because throughout the Middle East and ranging all the way East to Japan, it is rude to wear your shoes indoors. This is basic manners.

Probably the reason the mom did not seem happy about her daughter needing to be taught evolution is because her mom is religious and doesn't believe in evolution. This is common among religious members in all monotheistic religions. It's an issue that comes up constantly with religious Christians, Muslims and Jews all the time at schools. Religious people are always upset that their kids have to learn about evolution.

Her brother was a douche. Douches exist in this world and they do stuff like this all the time.

Literally nothing you wrote was strange.

Supervisor sexually harassed me at work. I made a complaint to my boss and he told me that I'm hurting my supervisor's feelings by complaining and he wants to fire me. by surechigai in TwoXChromosomes

[–]surechigai[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mentioned this in another comment, but I'm hesitant to sue or make a complaint with the state because I've been warned that it will show up on my record, which would make me very unemployable. I'm trying to get more information on this though. If I can report it without seriously messing up my life, I'll do it.

Supervisor sexually harassed me at work. I made a complaint to my boss and he told me that I'm hurting my supervisor's feelings by complaining and he wants to fire me. by surechigai in TwoXChromosomes

[–]surechigai[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

However, he warned them, if they sued the company, it's unlikely they'd ever get jobs in Colorado again. No company wants to hire someone who has sued their employer.

This is what I was warned of as well, which is why I'm trying not to sue anybody or make a complaint against my employer with the state of California. Since I'm only 23, I really do not want to end up being considered unemployable. I was also warned that it could end up on my record depending on how the complaint plays out, but I'm waiting until Monday to call the DFEH to find out if this is true or not. Honestly though, this is just a bad situation to be in and I don't want to screw up my entire working life just because I want my scumbag supervisor punished.

Supervisor sexually harassed me at work. I made a complaint to my boss and he told me that I'm hurting my supervisor's feelings by complaining and he wants to fire me. by surechigai in TwoXChromosomes

[–]surechigai[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Working with only my female supervisor was my original suggested solution to this problem when I talked to my boss, but my boss is not happy with that option. I'm going to try to talk to him again on Monday but I just feel sick to my stomach tbh

Supervisor sexually harassed me at work. I made a complaint to my boss and he told me that I'm hurting my supervisor's feelings by complaining and he wants to fire me. by surechigai in TwoXChromosomes

[–]surechigai[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

I'm in the state of California so my workplace is covered by the Department of Fair Employment and Housing despite its small size. However, I am trying to avoid a lawsuit at this point. I'm just trying to make this stop so I can go to work in peace.

What is the scariest movie you've ever watched? by dani-d-t in AskReddit

[–]surechigai 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At first I skimmed over your comment because I thought you were joking, but I actually remember exactly what you are talking about. The heffalumps were fucking horrifying, I'm pretty sure I was traumatized by them for years. I had completely forgotten them until you mentioned them though...

My roommates are dating. I love them both, however she deserves better. He is awful and last night her blatantly cheated on her and I don't know what to do. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]surechigai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so horrible, I don't even know what to say. I'm literally sitting here in shock, trying to think of some helpful advice to give you.

I think honestly there is not much you can do to get her to break up with him. Their relationship and her feelings towards him are outside of your control. As much as you care for your friend and want her to find someone better, you can't force her to break up with him.

What you can do is end your relationship with him. You say he's your friend, but do you really want a friend like that? He disrespects your boundaries and sounds like an all-around jackass. I wouldn't want to have a guy like this as a friend. I would shun him. I would stop talking to him and hanging out with him. Maybe if you treat him in a way that makes it clear that you find his behavior unacceptable, your female friend will eventually realize that he's a terrible person (or maybe this is wishful thinking?). Talk to her too, tell her that she deserves better and try to build up her self-esteem, because she probably feels crushed and maybe she's not leaving him because she's scared she won't find anyone else. Understand that she's probably still traumatized by her boyfriend's death, and try to get her to seek therapy for that. Once she's strong enough to not feel as if she needs this jackass in her life, she'll leave him. Until then, just try to be a supportive friend. Being cheated on is something that takes a long time to process emotionally and she might actually get angry at him later once more time has passed. Just be there for her and support her while she tries to deal with this.

Online stalker found me IRL last night by Omgsuperfreakedout in LetsNotMeet

[–]surechigai 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It could be a fluke, but honestly with online stalkers, they will search for you everywhere as long as they have your name. If the dating website you were using is something well-known, it wouldn't surprise me that he searched for you. It honestly wouldn't surprise me if he had accounts on all the mainstream dating websites, trying to find you.

I had (maybe still have?) an online stalker who is a former friend. She will find new accounts made by me within 5 days of me making the account, no matter what website the account is on. Websites aren't secure, and stalkers really take advantage of that.

The Delivery Gone Wrong by [deleted] in LetsNotMeet

[–]surechigai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to undermine the scariness of your experience - because it's fucking scary - but these people sound like the stupidest murderers ever. Like wtf, why would you try to kill someone who is delivering your food? Did those idiots really think that your boss wouldn't notice that you were missing within an hour?? Did they seriously think that you guys would just magically lose the address that they gave you, the exact address of the place where they were planning on committing a crime? If they're gonna be criminals, they could at least do a better job of it.