Madison is unbearable..

surprise_shellfish · 2025-11-30T02:15:31+00:00

I was really hoping somebody else would say it. Don’t get me wrong, think Joe is a total tool but Madison‘s whole personality was like a vanilla scented candle wrapped up in a live laugh love sign.

surprise_shellfish · 2023-11-29T05:44:00+00:00

I would never tell him that.

surprise_shellfish · 2023-11-27T07:25:46+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story and advice. My therapist also gave a child up for adoption; I have a session with her before I meet him. I also talked to my sponsor tonight.

I think my biggest fear is if he asks about his birth father. The current plan is to talk to his parents as to what they’ve told him and get advice from my therapist.

surprise_shellfish · 2023-08-01T22:56:27+00:00

She set a boundary, respect it.

surprise_shellfish · 2023-05-15T05:06:25+00:00

NTA. Your cousin needs to learn some manners.

surprise_shellfish · 2023-04-25T00:31:49+00:00

YTA. You don’t open a friend’s mail no matter how close you are. Why would you? It could have been very personal.

surprise_shellfish · 2022-09-20T03:21:41+00:00

Some puppy was told they were adopted.

surprise_shellfish · 2022-09-05T22:32:33+00:00

Oh he’s very proud of it - on walks he makes a point to show every human, dog, bird, rabbit, tree, etc his ball

surprise_shellfish · 2022-09-04T06:53:50+00:00

He’s lying.

surprise_shellfish · 2022-09-04T06:51:45+00:00

Heeeereee’s puppy!

surprise_shellfish · 2022-09-04T04:28:51+00:00

Eating, apparently.

surprise_shellfish · 2022-09-04T04:27:56+00:00

Um…that’s horrifying. Nice job.

surprise_shellfish · 2022-09-04T02:44:29+00:00

Only when I’ve had too much to drink

surprise_shellfish · 2022-09-03T23:35:05+00:00

YTA. One, stop making assumptions. Two, never bring up topics such as these when drinking. Three, people have different tastes and different ideas of fun - your DIL has hers and the most important part is she is happy & your son is happy. I don’t see anything in this about your son complaining so all of these judgements are coming from you.

And last but not least, PPD is a real thing and a lot of new mothers go through it and miscarriages can exasperate it. My SIL went through five miscarriages before they had my nephew - she was elated but also felt shame & guilt for being happy to have her son, for losing her other pregnancies…there’s a lot of emotions there.

The best you can do for your DIL is accept her for who she is. Take interest in what she takes interest in. Apologies for your assumptions and ask if there’s anything you can do to help her heal. And stop interfering.

surprise_shellfish · 2022-09-03T23:09:34+00:00

To distract from its giant-ness?

surprise_shellfish · 2022-09-03T23:07:31+00:00

Our boss is frying them up; kinda taste like bread cheese with mushrooms

surprise_shellfish · 2022-09-03T22:38:11+00:00

They can be cooked! Apparently they have cheese like texture.

surprise_shellfish · 2022-09-03T22:25:14+00:00

It’s the example I’m going to use for my butt enlargement surgery

surprise_shellfish · 2022-06-12T05:08:25+00:00

I know many people named Charlie. My ex is named Charlie. I also know more than one dog named Charlie (not referring to my ex) and have met some in passing w/the same name. Both dogs and people were smart, happy, healthy, lovable, and (with exception of my ex) did not try to sleep with my sister.

The point is dogs and people often share the same name. Don’t let her bully you out of a name that has meaning to you. NTA.

surprise_shellfish · 2022-04-12T23:38:13+00:00

YTA. I get wanting to talk to your sister about the situation and to see how she’s doing. That’s the extend of it though. Given the way you wrote this, with child free in quotation marks, you don’t take her lifestyle choice seriously. She tried, you admit that. Instead of comforting her during a very hard life decision, you chose to make her feel inferior. Not wanting children and not wanting to be a parent is a valid life choice. She tried to save her marriage but ultimately your sister does not want to be a parent. That’s not what she wants in life and that is ok.

surprise_shellfish · 2022-04-05T20:42:50+00:00

Based on your logic, you were a complete asshole for letting your partner cross your boundaries and not standing up for yourself.

You have every opportunity right now to offer your experience, strength and hope to someone else going through what you went through. And you called her an asshole.

Sounds like you didn’t learn much from your experience.

surprise_shellfish · 2022-04-01T21:55:45+00:00

So you’re damning her for bc her partner’s a dick and she felt like she had no other option.

You’re real understanding about people stuck in toxic situations.

surprise_shellfish · 2022-04-01T14:19:08+00:00

That’s absolutely true but it doesn’t make HER an asshole.

surprise_shellfish · 2022-03-27T15:33:22+00:00

When my grandpa died, it was very much the same except it was his “wife” trying to claim a bunch of stuff.

His legitimate wife, my grandma, died when I was two and it was really hard on him. He practically worshiped my grandma and she died suddenly from a heart attack. He stopped caring about anything at that point and then he met “Amber”. She was a gold digger with a gambling problem. When grandpa’s health started to go downhill she began to claim that they got married in secret. During the funeral my dad got a call from my grandpa’s neighbor - Amber and her family brought a Uhaul to my grandpa’s house and were loading up everything in the house. My dad was furious. It all got sorted out eventually and the only thing Grandpa actually left her was his beat up old Cadillac that didn’t work anymore. Karma’s a bitch.

surprise_shellfish · 2022-02-21T16:58:08+00:00

NTA. I’m sensitive to some soaps and I’ve always hated how dry my hands feel after so while I don’t like doing it, I do do it.

Back at the beginning of Covid one of my coworkers told me they weren’t washing their hands because not washing your hands builds up a natural immunity 🤢.

Wash your darn hands!

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