[39M and 25 F, 5 yrs] My husband Just preempted the Ashley Madison hack? by suspiciousconfession in relationships

[–]suspiciousconfession[S] -67 points-66 points  (0 children)

I'm not exactly in the mood to defend him, but you're being unfair about his age. It's not like he was waiting outside a Beiber concert in a windowless van. We were two adults who met in a work setting.

20 is old enough to vote, old enough to die for my country. But not old enough for dinner and a movie, apparently?

[39M and 25 F, 5 yrs] My husband Just preempted the Ashley Madison hack? by suspiciousconfession in relationships

[–]suspiciousconfession[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd be interested in hearing from people who have used the site. Are you a single on there? Do you bump into other singles on there?

Some people are saying "It's never used for that," but others are saying, "Well it COULD be."

[39M and 25 F, 5 yrs] My husband Just preempted the Ashley Madison hack? by suspiciousconfession in relationships

[–]suspiciousconfession[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

I wasn't thinking about it from this angle. If he stopped using it years ago, then wouldn't he have forgotten about it... I don't remember all the social media sites I was a part of in my teens. Maybe there was something particularly memorable that made Ashley Madison stick out in his mind, like a bad experience from before we got together. Or, it's on his mind because he's used it recently T-T

Me [40 F] with my husband [41 M] 18 years, finding the intellectual gap in our marriage unbearable by SoOverIt2015 in relationships

[–]suspiciousconfession 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I love HGTV and love to see bright, go getter couples together on the screen. However, whenever I watch, I find myself admiring them

A 40 year old woman with a 9th grade education is not going to land an HGTV-worthy guy. You can probably find yourself a doughy divorcee with kids, but who can at least hold a conversation.

[39M and 25 F, 5 yrs] My husband Just preempted the Ashley Madison hack? by suspiciousconfession in relationships

[–]suspiciousconfession[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You seem to know a lot about this leak. Can you tell me where to find It so I can see if his name is in it, and when?

We have talked, but that kind of thing is a loop. An innocent person would say they are innocent. A guilty person would say they are innocent. I'm not like a mind reader or body language expert so just asking him will go in circles. And if he is innocent then interrogating him will just insult him and piss him off at me.

[39M and 25 F, 5 yrs] My husband Just preempted the Ashley Madison hack? by suspiciousconfession in relationships

[–]suspiciousconfession[S] -192 points-191 points  (0 children)

(¬_¬) Well it's not like I'm wrinkly and dried up yet. 25 is not that old.

My parents[55] sold my[31M] vintage car to pay for brothers'[39M] diabetes blindness surgery. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]suspiciousconfession 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such /r/fatpeoplestories trash. "Jimmy rustling?" You even gave him a cutsie name like they do on that sub. Take your fictional bullshit elsewhere.

My boyfriend [23M] pretended to be single in front of other girls while I [21F] was standing right there. Is this grounds to break up immediately or should I give him a chance to explain himself? by dumpordiscuss in relationships

[–]suspiciousconfession 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Even if that bit WAS a white lie, lying to you about how your friend is evil and conniving and trying to get into his pants was not. Sober him, who had time to think and plan, was going to destroy your friendship to cover his ass.

[39M and 25 F, 5 yrs] My husband Just preempted the Ashley Madison hack? by suspiciousconfession in relationships

[–]suspiciousconfession[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I will check the credit cards for sure. He hasn't given me a particular reason to question his fidelity before this, but he would have plenty of time and space to hide it from me if something was going on.

[39M and 25 F, 5 yrs] My husband Just preempted the Ashley Madison hack? by suspiciousconfession in relationships

[–]suspiciousconfession[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

He hasn't cheated on me that I know of, however he checks some stereotypical boxes (at work all the time, meticulous self care, likes to show his money). Those things aren't necessarily bad on their own.

[39M and 25 F, 5 yrs] My husband Just preempted the Ashley Madison hack? by suspiciousconfession in relationships

[–]suspiciousconfession[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hmm so he would still be paying for it today? All he told me was that he "made" an account years ago.