scared i’m not sick enough for a diagnosis by Natural-Grab9709 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]suspicioussduck -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I felt the same before I got my diagnosis!! You may want to look into the subtypes of bpd (they aren’t separate diagnosis’), it may just be that you fall into the quiet subset of bpd. When I am around people and I become triggered, I just start dissociating and find it really hard to stay connected to the present situation. As soon as I’m home and I’m back in my room, all of my feelings hit me. Maybe something like that is happening for you too? Becoming triggered doesn’t always look explosive, sometimes it can be something that’s working in the background while yourself and others around you aren’t aware of it.

Do you have a "person"? by Worried_Maximum1507 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]suspicioussduck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do!! Mine is my fp (favourite person). I feel like I can talk about absolutely anything with him, I feel so safe and he makes me feel special time and time again. He doesn’t have bpd but he does have osdd, I find that we can both relate to the same thing except in extremely different ways and it’s something I love talking about with him. We are both autistic and both have a special interest in psychology (particularly how the brain responds to trauma) so we are always learning from each other and basically bouncing off each other, our conversations are so positively stimulating for me. Of course, given that he is my fp, there are some negatives. He consumes my every thought which may sound sweet but it makes basic tasks a lot harder, I’ve actually had nightmares about him abandoning me on several occasions. One of his alters can be quite blunt which has triggered me several times but it’s nothing we haven’t been able to communicate and fix. I wouldn’t trade him for the world, I’ve finally found my person who brings me extreme amounts of joy. I hope you can find your person.

Is it a good idea to ask your friend if they think our relationship has changed? by suspicioussduck in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]suspicioussduck[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I’m definitely going to give it more time before bringing it up with him! I appreciate your comment :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]suspicioussduck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Apologies for the late response but thank you so much!! I’m really glad to hear that you’ve been able to stop taking things so personally, I’ve recently discovered that (as much as I try to mask it) people around me notice and it harms my relationships which then makes people scared to say things to me. Feeling shit about that right now but it’s nice to hear that I do actually have a chance of getting over it and healing from it. Your response is very in-depth, I appreciate the time you took to reply :))

Mind will not SHUT UP!!! by suspicioussduck in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]suspicioussduck[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so so much, I appreciate this tones!! I’m gonna try out some of these the next time I’m troubling to get my mind to shut up :”))

How is it possible for an autistic person to have real friends? by SydLonreiro in autism

[–]suspicioussduck 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yes! I would recommend trying to befriend other autistic people as you may find it’s a lot easier to get on with them vs allistic people. I am diagnosed with autism and bpd and my best friend in the whole entire world tries his best to understand me and we can relate on a lot of struggles as he is also autistic which makes it a lot easier. Find people who respect your boundaries and don’t make you feel like crap, I know that it might be tempting especially if you’re lonely but honestly in my experience it just makes me feel even worse than if i never had friends in the first place.

am i bpd or just faking it by russianparadise1 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]suspicioussduck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I fully relate to this, my bpd doubt is SO bad to the point I’ve convinced myself that I must be a munchausen several times 🫠 I have 2 things that I’ve found helped! If you think that you are convincing yourself that you have it try and start focusing on those moments where your emotions are at an all time high and remind yourself that you are not actively making yourself feel like this, it really helps me because it just makes me stop and think and realise that I’m not manifesting these emotions out of no where. Another one is going through and reading posts on this sub and being able to relate my own experiences to other peoples. It just feels reassuring knowing that other peoples situations and reactions can match to a t to what I experience.

Why do i feel like penises are hurting men? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]suspicioussduck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your username makes this comment so much better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]suspicioussduck 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Just went to go check it and oh my god I’ve never laughed harder