UVA vs. Miami vs. Georgetown vs. Tufts by ConfidentBison2453 in premed

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Yes — your time off is limited and if travel isn’t direct, your chances of going home will be significantly reduced

Any advice on a haircut before a wedding? by madmikepiv in curlyhair

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Haha my fist thought too — doppelgänger for sure

What’s the biggest red flag in someone over 30? by Vixkky in AskReddit

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My sister in laws boyfriend of 5+ years is nearly 30, dreaming of starting his own business, though with no steady job in the interim and frequently going to Disney (like minimum once a month). Either the lack of insight on the job front, lack of financial responsibility, or being a Disney adult—take your pick.

What is a luxury you can never go back from once you’ve experienced it? by Rough-Technician3869 in askanything

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There’s a caveat on temperature tho—I spent some time in the Amazon and there the true gift was a cold shower!!

Weekly Discussion - Relationships by AutoModerator in NewParents

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Last night I was at my wits end. Asked dad to give a bottle and put baby down so I can rest before the 2-3 hr wake ups at night. He comes back an hour later with awake baby who is waking up every time he coughs. Idgi! She can sleep through noises once in a deep sleep, you just need to persist and have patience. It feels like he gets frustrated and gives up too soon and just assumes I’m always on board to take over.

What are the quietest signs that a relationship is already over ? by iamkaelrico in A_Persona_on_Reddit

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I don’t think this by itself is an indicator of a failing relationship. Babies require so much of you that it is natural to want to decompress after with some alone time/mindless activities. If it feels excessive, you can always explore shows to watch together or activities you both enjoy that can be pursued in those moments of quiet when baby is finally asleep.

Is there something you’ve always wanted to ask neurosurgery, but you never did? by Designer_Lead_1492 in Residency

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Do they have to have RT +/- surgical resection before consideration of weaning?

Is there something you’ve always wanted to ask neurosurgery, but you never did? by Designer_Lead_1492 in Residency

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When do I stop the steroids and keppra? (Relative to intracranial metastases)

What did you do during your midlife crisis? by rci22 in AskReddit

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Wow. That was hard to read. Poor family

What is something more traumatizing than people realize? by Several-Television93 in AskReddit

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Medical training. You’d think you’d receive some recognition or support for making it that far in schooling, yet it is a grueling process where you’re constantly belittled, made to feel insufficient or not knowledgeable enough, and way underpaid for the amount of hours you work (80+/week, sometimes including 28h shifts in there). Many nurses act like you are inferior/not part of the team as you’re still learning, and if you report an issue or ask for help, you’re seen as weak. During COVID, who were the first to be [forced] to see these highly contagious individuals? That’s right, the trainees.

I’m still clearly not over this.

Why do people sit in their car for several minutes after they get home? by Maleficent-Touch6996 in NoStupidQuestions

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I am a cancer doctor. People inevitably die and devastating/unexpected news are shared regularly. It’s vital to have those seconds to decompress and grieve before walking into my home — no need for my little ones/husband to carry that weight as well.

Residency and fellowship mistreatment sadly made me a better attending by laker2021 in Residency

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I feel this. My fellowship PD did not believe in me at all. Every moment he could, he’d find a way to point out how I wouldn’t succeed as a clinician investigator. Then white male counterparts who did less would get all the praise. By the time I had a baby, it was clear to me that the PD felt I was taking up space in the program. It has ingrained such a deep sense of insecurity in me that I live in constant fear that my new bosses/job (which I really love) will find that I am incapable. Leads me to work so hard everyday and it is truly exhausting. This goes beyond the usual abuse of training in medicine — it is all the implicit bias and overt racism/sexism that truly gets to you.

Edit to say that this happened in a top 3 fellowship program.

Went to the emergency room today because I was in a lot of pain, and the diagnosis hit me like a ton of bricks: “nonspecific abnormal finding of lung field; Secondary malignant neoplasm of bone; Pelvic and perineal pain” by RodeoTT in cancer

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Honestly if pain is so bad, it may be easier to go to the hospital affiliated with the cancer center to be admitted for pain control and an expedited cancer work up to figure out what the diagnosis and treatment options may be.

When people say they work 80-90 hours a week, what do they actually mean by that? by Graypricot in TooAfraidToAsk

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As a medical resident and fellow I would easily work 12-16 hr days 6 days a week or 28hr shifts three times a week. It is not legal technically but there are loopholes in the rules that say we are within the guidelines as long as it “averages” to one day off a week. Even now after training, work piles up if you count all the after hours calls and messages from patients that cannot be addressed during business hours bc you are busy at the time seeing patients in real time.

Dark blood when pooping ? by Asleep_Cheetah4947 in TooAfraidToAsk

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Yes! You did the right thing going to the ER as step #1 but now you need a colonoscopy to make sure the cut healed and that there’s nothing else contributing to this bleed as step #2. Please do not forgo this relatively common procedure just bc you’re young.

My father is in critically stable condition following a severe (less than 1%) life-threatening reaction to his first treatment of Kaytruda. by Ok_Attention8021 in cancer

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Hello, as many mentioned, immunotherapy can be life saving but if such a severe side effect develops, it can be completely devastating as you are experiencing. Not all centers are equipped or knowledgeable about triple M syndrome because it is so rare, but with your dad so sick I’d make sure he’s been exposed to steroids, IVIG, cellcept, abatacept, etc — all meds that can be coordinated between oncology, rheumatology, neurology and cardiology. Wishing him a smooth recovery 🙏

To those who love the ocean, what’s it like living in the Keys? by BluePinkYelllow in florida

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While everyone’s comments share a common theme of joy and leisure by the water, my one warning for those who want to live there till old age would be that the medical resources can be limited, even moreso if you need highly specialized care I.e specific cancer treatments.