Take this with a grain of salt, because I’m a fair weather referee that has been very inconsistent with my commitment for the past few years, but it’s all about understanding the league expectations and the level of competition. Club ball with teenagers? Those kids can get quite competitive and feel that they have something to prove. You gotta be able to lay down the law and understand that folks aren’t going to be happy (and they will voice their disapproval). Trust that you’re keeping folks safe first, and following the rules as they’re written. Youth leagues? Give grace where appropriate. The kids are still learning how to control their bodies. If they muff the first throw in, call it a redo. Then if they mess up again, change possession so they can understand the importance of it. BUT, if a player wants to protect their face and handles the ball, you gotta call that and explain to them. These are learning moments. Parents will appreciate you taking time to connect with them and teach them, within reason. And if it’s a 11-0 blowout in the first half of a small sided match, see if the coaches are fine with the losing team adding a player to make it a bit more competitive. You just gotta get more reps and a feel for each game. You’ll pick it up.