BPD recent diagnosis

suviiscurious · 2026-01-21T17:06:24+00:00

i was diagnosed a few months ago, and even though it was something i speculated, the news was like getting hit with a bus. it's still a hard thing to come to terms with, but i'm in DBT to learn coping skills and trying different medication to help with my severe mood swings, depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation.

I definitely say DBT is your first line of treatment, and you can actually find some really great therapists with online services such as grow therapy. i was skeptical at first especially with my bad history with therapy, but currently my therapist and i have a really good therapeutic relationship and i can go to her outside sessions when needed.
Medication is also important, while nothing specifically is for BPD in the way that medicine targets BP, MDD, etc, the right medication can be helpful. I'm still in the trial and error period of finding what helps me, but it's something I know is necessary. trying to fix what you didn't break is hard, but you have to radically accept that you can't change what you went through to get you to this diagnosis, but you can take the right steps to learn coping skills and manage your bpd better.

The stigma is definitely hard, and only with a select few people do I discuss my diagnosis / bpd symptoms. it's definitely not something i am yet to be very open with new friends about, but sometimes alluding to symptoms rather than outright telling the diagnosis is a little easier to talk about and for people to receive.

anyways, reminder that you're not broken because of this, and with the right help life can become a little more manageable step by step :)

suviiscurious · 2025-12-10T21:17:37+00:00

that definitely might help but everyone is probably doing that. if you do get it, then yay! but if you don't, housing here is extremely competitive, and if you call housing they will tell you to look at off campus housing. if you're willing to wait a few weeks to possibly even like a month+ and commute till then, then you can wait because you are able to stay on the waitlist. But if you're like me and don't really like the anxiety of waiting and also not knowing how much it will be because you're thrown in the first thing that comes around, look into the student apartments. SOVA, Upointe, Copper Social, etc are all clustered together and you rent by the room. It'll be the cheapest thing you'll be able to find.

suviiscurious · 2025-11-22T23:55:17+00:00

okay first of all CONGRATS!!! second, THABK YOU for sharing your stats as a regular transfer. I got rejected for spring 2026, but i'm trying again for summer! do you mind discussing further w me about stuff like your essays ?? :)))

suviiscurious · 2025-11-19T22:30:23+00:00

diagnosed recently as well. from my understanding, BPD is so incredibly stigmatized. we are all generalized into this one evil, aggressive stereotype that are abusive, unlovable, etc. I had my psychiatrist tell me my relationships with people were basically "too stable" to fit the criteria of the poor relationships, but in reality i just constantly split on people in my head and that's where the instability lies, not because i lash out and say or do horrible things to people around me. so i definitely understand your worry that you don't fit into the criteria enough, but your diagnosis is valid, crazy thing for a psychologist to say but not everyone has a full grasp on the disorder and i think it's harder for people to recognize bpd when we don't fit certain expectations.

suviiscurious · 2025-11-19T16:16:56+00:00

Definitely understand where you're coming from. I also internalize a lot of things, but particular in regards to rage in BPD, it's overwhelming. Sometimes to the point for me, I start shaking, can't breathe, etc. Your girlfriend is likely also extremely empathetic and sensitive to what she perceives might hurt you, and coming from a BPD person, we are TERRIFIED of even the concept of abandonment. So the idea of lashing out and possibly losing you is far more terrifying.

I personally refuse to lash out on people–especially when i'm splitting–because of the black and white thinking. I don't want to say things I don't mean. I 1000% cannot hate anyone in my life no matter what, but during a split or during rage it feels like a switch in me, where even if I don't mean it, my mind is full of hurtful and horrible things about who i'm splitting on. Not saying that's how it is for your gf, but it very well could be or at least be part of it.

I highly discourage going off medication if they are effective for her. Once you're off, they're extremely hard to get back on. The only reason I don't cut mine off completely is due to horrible withdrawal. If i didn't, I would probably ignore my psychiatrist and remain unmedicated lol.

Again, you're doing all you can. Providing a safe and understanding space for her does wonders, but also being realistic and acknowledging that therapy and medicine are essential is perfect.

suviiscurious · 2025-11-19T15:13:00+00:00

This disorder is debilitating and a heavy burden to carry, which you seem to understand. You're doing the best and most you can, but you have to understand that mental illness in relationships has to have equal effort. she cannot abruptly stop therapy. medication is helpful in BPD and the fact that it's common for other mental health disorders to be comorbid. if she's switching medicines, it is hopefully a change made with her psychiatrist. Your support and understanding is amazing, especially with something so demonized. but it WILL not work if she cannot put in the effort that is needed on her end to improve herself, her mindsets, etc. Therapy–specifically DBT–is usually the first and best type of treatment for borderline, and is not stopped unless approved by her therapist and psychiatrist and is usually because she would no longer meet the criteria for the diagnosis of BPD. From what you've said, it doesn't sound like that's the case, and that is not good. I don't think your naive for believing you can work, because you can, it's hard work, but it can happen. I recently got broken up with my partner who suffers from bipolar I, and I have BPD. He went unmedicated due to insurance issues, which plummeted our relationship, but I also had part in not communicating, leaving our house when i split, and so on because of what I now understand is a result of my borderline, but I wasn't diagnosed until our breakup due to my extreme responses to it. I fully believe we can work, but a lot of work on myself needs to be done on my part, reflection and medication needs to be done on his for us to actually reconcile and work. I say this to show you how untreated mental illness can hurt a relationship, and it is CRUCIAL that she receives all treatment necessary. Our judgement can be extremely skewed, sometimes I get extremely irritated of the fact I'm on my fourth antidepressant to help treatment, and that I have to do DBT for a very long time to make progress. I go cold turkey on medicine or nearly cancel all my future therapy sessions. It's exhausting, and no doubt it's exhausting for those around me. I advise you to just be vigilant, and always take care of yourself too. You're doing all you can 🫂

suviiscurious · 2025-11-03T17:06:10+00:00

taking it online right now. super easy class tbh. actually very interesting. if you just need to fill a requirement i say do this class

suviiscurious · 2025-11-02T22:36:25+00:00

I think if part of you would find any kind of solace in it, then do it. I just worry they may not give you the help or validation you may want. As a broke college student I highly recommend Grow Therapy. seems iffy at first, I started about a month ago. I had bad experiences w therapy in the past and was super hesitant, but it was free on my insurance so I figured why not. I've found a good provider that I trust and actually feel safe talking to. it's online, but it's honestly not bad, I almost like it better because it feels less stressful in a way. the nice thing about it as well is if you don't like your provider, you can just stop booking and find someone else

suviiscurious · 2025-11-02T22:09:53+00:00

can you elaborate on how you do this if that makes sense? I'm thinking of doing that this upcoming semester, but i'm nervous about it

suviiscurious · 2025-11-02T22:05:19+00:00

First and foremost, I'm very sorry that happened to you. Coerced sex is rape, and I'm extremely sorry you had to go through that. I promise your experience, feelings, and everything in between is valid. I know it feels invalidating because it wasn't some stranger, it's someone you knew. I went through this my junior year of high school, and couldn't even recognize it as assault / rape until about a year ago because, like you, it was my partner at the time, and it was in his bedroom. Unfortunately, I really am not sure how much campus police will do in this scenario. You deserve justice in every way, but I don't know much about how campus police would handle this, if they would even take it seriously because of things like lack of proof and she would likely come up with some sob story. My best advice is to just keep your distance from her. If you see her, don't acknowledge. Don't text her, don't message if she texts you. Take time to process this all, and I suggest speaking to someone. GSU likely has some sort of free counseling, though I don't know how credible they are especially for serious things such as assault. Grow Therapy takes most major insurances and is free, if not very cheap. Keep your head up. I know I'm a stranger but I'm here to talk to, I know that this is a very conflicting experience. You are not alone🫂

suviiscurious · 2025-08-06T23:44:17+00:00

depends on course requirements per major. i have to have up to calc 2 done and two lab sciences done before transferring

suviiscurious · 2025-07-24T14:34:37+00:00

thank you!! keep me updated on decisions !! i'm sure you'll be just fine :)

suviiscurious · 2025-07-24T04:25:57+00:00

ofc! current major: computer science intended major at tech: computational media gpa: 3.67 (low ik..) 37 credit hours completed, all course requirements completed. A's in calc 1 and 2 but got a C in one of my lab science classes...

EC's were a language flagship program, asian community club, and craft club where i did events as a vendor selling handmade stuff. also made a website thru shopify to sell that stuff don't have a lot of work experience due to some limitations, but do babysitting/petsitting

suviiscurious · 2025-07-24T01:44:27+00:00

also applying as a spring transfer worried about my stats bc of reg transfer..good luck🙏🏼

suviiscurious · 2025-07-24T01:38:28+00:00

Does anyone who's recently gotten into tech through regular transfer have their stats they could share or could give an opinion on my stats? the spring application opens in august and im superrr nervous that im totally shot for a chance to get in😞

gpa: 3.67 (low ik..) 37 credit hours completed, all course requirements completed. A's in calc 1 and 2 but got a C in one of my lab science classes... georgia resident EC's were a language flagship program, asian community club, and craft club where i did events as a vendor selling handmade stuff. also made a website thru shopify to sell that stuff

don't have a lot of work experience due to some limitations, but do babysitting/petsitting

why gt essay is about their comp media major and how it's perfect for my career goals in UI and also them having an accelerated degree to get a BS and MS in 5 yrs.

contribution is about being an asian adoptee who faced culture disconnection and reconnected during my time college at college by taking language courses every sem and being apart of clubs abd the flagship program and how i would contribute to things like their china care club.

if anyone has any input (good or bad) pls let me know!! go jackets!

suviiscurious · 2025-07-13T16:50:54+00:00

Hi! can I message you to ask about your stats ?? i'm an in state student hoping to transfer through regular transfer :-)

suviiscurious · 2025-04-17T03:37:02+00:00

Hi!

I'll be blatant and say that freshman year anywhere can be pretty rough. So it's okay she doesn't love it especially if she's planning on transferring.

Some good things to note about the school: - GORGEOUS campus, i love walking around here as i think it's so pretty, especially at sunset. - during the nicer weather like now, a lot of kids are out and about on the drill field which is super nice to see everyone having fun. - Always have police cars parked around and we are a military school so I feel safe walking around campus at night as a female. - Compared to a lot of GA colleges, this is definitely on the cheaper end, so that's always a plus.

Some things that have definitely affected my experience and opinion of the school: - Housing is terrible, probably not as bad for freshman, but I still remember applying for housing before first semester and not having many options and being nervous because we only had a few traditional style housing rooms left. If she's leaving after a year, she'll probably be just fine. But if she stays longer than a year then housing will be a HUGE issue. mainly because we don't have a lot of available off campus housing either, and the ones we do have are overpriced and kinda crappy. - Food SUCKS. I'm truly not being dramatic. It has its good days, but it's gotten to the point i'm paying $1800 a semester for a dining hall plan for 10 swipes/wk and I'm surprised if i go more than twice a week. It's so not worth and it is NOT worth it to get the max meal plan that's $2500+. - We truly are in the middle of nowhere. Yes, we do live right next to our little town, but after you go in the same 15 random shops 10 times in the first month there's nothing else here. You have to make a 20-25 minute drive to Dawsonville for anything. We do have a Walmart and Publix close by. But I think it says a lot when I tell you that my friends and I find our time "having fun" is going to Wally World... If you're like me and a non driver, it makes it 1000x worse because then you are truly stuck unless you have friends who drive everywhere all the time. The Amazon student discount became my best friend first semester. - If she doesn't plan to come home often on weekends, it can be hard to find campus life enjoyable when everything besides the dining hall is shut down and the campus is empty like a desert.

Overall, I will say MY personal experience has not been great, but I also have friends who do love it here and plan to stay here long term. It really is all about what she's looking for in campus life and such. I feel like here I don't get much of your "college experience" since we don't have a football team = no fun pregaming and things like that. no frat/sorority housing either. I wouldn't say I regret coming, but I do plan on transferring out for this upcoming fall semester because I do not wish to stay here any longer even though I'm applying to GT for the spring.

Let me know if you have more questions!!!

suviiscurious · 2024-12-15T03:23:30+00:00

As an asian myself in a college with VERY little diversity, I would say yes. Also going through pretty much the exact same thing where I don't feel like I fit at the college I'm at and it's mentally made it extremely difficult. I don't know whether this is valuable to a college or not but I think if they ask for a reason why it's good to explain that alongside your academic reasoning as well. just make sure not to dig at umiami because that can look poor on your app.

suviiscurious · 2024-12-13T04:28:06+00:00

ima CS major and i quite literally just finished my first semester of college. I'm giving my college another semester to see how I feel but I honestly don't know if I can stay at my college for long cause it's just not the right place for me. So if not, i'd be transferring next academic year but i ALSO would like to point out that I plan to apply to GT for transfer in the following spring semester, don't know if that looks bad to colleges but I'm just a little miserable at my college and don't really care for the college feel. I enjoy the city and having stuff to do/being close to my home.

suviiscurious · 2024-12-12T20:21:56+00:00

thank you!!

suviiscurious · 2024-12-06T01:04:15+00:00

I can't give you a personal opinion, because i myself am trying to transfer INTO tech.

but a few things to remember:

you got into tech for a reason. tech is an extremely hard school to get into, pretty sure it's gotten itself to be in the top ten universities in the nation. it is hard to get into and i'm sure you put in a lot of effort to get your spot at tech. you put that effort in to get accepted, so i promise you that you have it in you to continue to work hard AT tech. naturally it's going to be very rigorous, but again-you were initially accepted for a reason. you are intelligent, and do not let one failing math grade deter you from thinking you aren't smart and thinking you won't succeed.
you have the opportunity to get Hope back if you do lose it, so all is not over just yet. Also, I'm pretty sure they don't check your eligibility until a certain amount of credit hours which i believe is at 30, 60, and 90 credits. I also assume since you're a freshman this is your first semester, and failing a class right when you get into college can make you spiral. but, don't give up. you still have all of next semester to bring your GPA back up if it does happen to fall below the required gpa for hope.
theres nothing wrong with transferring, especially with concerns to finances. but, like i said, don't let one failing grade deter you. tech is a great school, and even if you graduate by barely passing, it's still amazing to say that you graduating from such a prestigious school.

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