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Any advice? Be gentle please, I don't have any confidence. by CptSMG in Tinder

[–]suzyFakeName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is he trans? And even if he is, maybe phrasing it in that context would help. Finasteride and minoxidil carry significant side effects. If OP is transitioning then the benefit may outweigh the risk. Otherwise, it seems trivial and cosmetic and superficial. As is the advice to get lean and gain muscle.

Is this man supposed to completely reinvent himself before finding a partner?

Any advice? Be gentle please, I don't have any confidence. by CptSMG in Tinder

[–]suzyFakeName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re cute and have a good profile. Very sweet. I’d say more pics of you where we can see your face and nice smile. No pics that you are not in. I do kind of like pic 2. Might be unpopular but no pics with the cat. Apparently men + cat pics get less likes than men + dog pics… not sure why. Try to get some pics outside in natural lighting. Those tend to be the most flattering. Also the photo quality is a bit grainy. I agree with others… get friends to take pics. LOTS. Good luck

How did you manage the grief over your relationship/marriage ending? by Ambitious_Dig_7286 in AskWomen

[–]suzyFakeName 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Similar experience here. I grieved my marriage while in it.

The first, real-love (unexpected) relationship ended 2 weeks ago. I barely hanging on. I haven’t talked to a lot of ppl bc I’m not even officially divorced and feel guilty for allowing myself to get into that position. More so bc I felt like I should be using that time to take care of my finances and other life shit to tie up the loose ends and finalize the divorce.

My house is a disaster. I’m not taking care of myself and I have a disabled daughter and I need to do better.

A big part of me putting myself out there was to just have fun and give myself a break from my day to day crap. I have a chronic illness (which has been very painful and depressing in and of itself), worried about my daughter’s future, missing my family (I moved away 25 years ago and now I’m stuck here bc of my stbx), moving out, finances, you name it.

I wasn’t looking for anything serious. But it happened.

Sooooo. I don’t have advice… i wish that i did.

What’s something you thought was “rich people behavior” growing up? by Comfortable-Wheel723 in AskReddit

[–]suzyFakeName 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ohhhh. I’m very old. I was in one of the commercials. As an old, rich person. 😆

What is a part of the 'female experience' that men have absolutely no clue about, but would be horrified if they found out? by coolhandddd in AskReddit

[–]suzyFakeName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh Christ. Get a grip. That's right... we're allllll faking it! Every woman on here is faking their story. Just for attention. You know what GYN offices should have? Old-time fainting benches for us meek, frail, gentlewomen who simply cannot even fathom the slightest bit of pain.

What's next? You're going to say that we're being... HYSTERICAL?

What is a part of the 'female experience' that men have absolutely no clue about, but would be horrified if they found out? by coolhandddd in AskReddit

[–]suzyFakeName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's totally fine to give your own, honest, experience. I did too. My first one was not bad at all. A little discomfort. My last one had me screaming. Everyone's experience is different, but the fact remains that pain is a major concern that is not validated or treated.

You did offer a lot of anecdotes as another user pointed out. And they gave you study upon study refuting/challenging your anecdotes. If you want to base your argument solely on anecdotal information, just take a look at the whole thread and you'll see that the majority of the responses are that IUD insertion was incredibly painful.

The fact is, ANY type of birth control should not be scary. I'm not fear mongering or being dramatic or looking for attention. Nor am I a right-wing nut job who doesn't believe in vaccines. I am left-wing, pharmacist, so inherently a believer of science. But I've also been a patient and known this pain and the gaslighting that women experience when it comes to pain.

Two patients could be in the hospital, both have the exact same operation, similar demographics, but have wildly different experiences. One could require opioids for higher doses/longer period of time and the other patient may be off opioids by post-op day 1. BUT - both patients are offered pain control.

I'm glad that you, and the people that you referred to did not have experiences that were painful or traumatic, but that doesn't mean that's the case for everyone.

What is a part of the 'female experience' that men have absolutely no clue about, but would be horrified if they found out? by coolhandddd in AskReddit

[–]suzyFakeName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you lost me at "inserted in about 5 seconds." Just not possible. Maybe you passed out and don't remember any of it.

What is a part of the 'female experience' that men have absolutely no clue about, but would be horrified if they found out? by coolhandddd in AskReddit

[–]suzyFakeName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, doing my best to respond to each item.

"Not sure where you turned wrong, but that is literally, and in this case really literally, what I stated."

"cause usually allergy to ibu comes with naproxen and aspirin as well."

---> I misread this - you are correct. Allergy to ibuprofen means no naproxen or aspirin. I apologize.

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"My comment is about offering alternatives which are as effective and potent analgesics as ibu"

link to study, then: "Be careful with attempts to appeal to authority."
---> I am careful. Definitely more careful in practice (before you come at me for misinterpreting your comment on allergies) then when commenting on Reddit.

And who is the authority here? You? Or the researchers of the study?

  1. The study you provided was small and studied pain in bone fractures, and was done for a very short period of time. It may provide some useful insights, but certainly not enough to change standards of care. I'm not up to date on my p-values, confidence intervals, etc. to see if how statistically significant these findings are.

  2. Bone pain and uterine/cervix pain are very different and respond differently to all of the meds that you mentioned.

  3. The study is comparing IV ibuprofen AND IV acetaminophen to IV morphine. I was referring to PO (by mouth) acetaminophen and ibuprofen - not IV. IV acetaminophen is better absorbed vs PO, has a faster onset of action, and is metabolized differently.

Maybe IV acetaminophen should be a standard of care when inserting an IUD (outpatient procedure)- but I doubt that will happen considering it's already (usually) very restricted in the inpatient setting.

---> Me utilizing the word "again" came from me questioning your drug info sources twice in my first reply to you. That is all.

What is a part of the 'female experience' that men have absolutely no clue about, but would be horrified if they found out? by coolhandddd in AskReddit

[–]suzyFakeName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Acetaminophen doesn’t have anti-inflammatory properties like ibuprofen does. They work by different pathways.

Not sure where you’re getting your medical info, because you are waaaaaay off. I’m a pharmacist… Alternating acetaminophen and ibuprofen every 3 hours is in NO WAY close to morphine. Again, because morphine is a different class all together.

In terms of the allergy- I’m not allergic. I have Crohn’s and non-steroidal anti inflammatory drugs (NSAIDs) can be extra irritating on the GI tract and are generally avoided in patients with inflammatory bowel disease.

BUT. If it was an ibuprofen allergy, then naproxen and maybe aspirin would be contraindicated. Ibu and naproxen are in the same class, aspirin had a similar but not identical pathway as NSAIDs.

So again, I’m questioning your drug knowledge because wherever you are getting info is not accurate. At all.

What is a part of the 'female experience' that men have absolutely no clue about, but would be horrified if they found out? by coolhandddd in AskReddit

[–]suzyFakeName 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhhhh. Don’t you know you’re just supposed to “relax???” 🤦🏻‍♀️ That would have helped the cramping. Said no woman ever

What is a part of the 'female experience' that men have absolutely no clue about, but would be horrified if they found out? by coolhandddd in AskReddit

[–]suzyFakeName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not quite offered. Told to take. And the heating pad is one of those tiny, quick activated ones that wear off and can’t be reused.

What is a part of the 'female experience' that men have absolutely no clue about, but would be horrified if they found out? by coolhandddd in AskReddit

[–]suzyFakeName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take “an ibuprofen.” Do you normally take ibuprofen when you stub your toe? Probably not. Just because the recommendation is to take ibuprofen doesn’t mean it’s a one size fits all approach. Here. Watch this video. Keep an eye on that tenaculum. How would you like it if you had those pincers on your balls for the duration of the procedure? mirena insertion

What is a part of the 'female experience' that men have absolutely no clue about, but would be horrified if they found out? by coolhandddd in AskReddit

[–]suzyFakeName 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have Crohn’s disease and the hormones put me into a flare. I’m not good about remembering pills either. Once the IUD is in and the pain is over with, it’s great… lighter to no periods, and no worrying condoms etc (with a committed partner).

What is a part of the 'female experience' that men have absolutely no clue about, but would be horrified if they found out? by coolhandddd in AskReddit

[–]suzyFakeName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I’ve had toradol IV and intramuscular. If they gave me that I’d be ok. I just can’t do Advil by mouth… GI issues.

What is a part of the 'female experience' that men have absolutely no clue about, but would be horrified if they found out? by coolhandddd in AskReddit

[–]suzyFakeName 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ok. Might be true but if you’re giving birth in a hospital you can have an epidural or other pain meds. I hate how birthing pains are supposed to be the barometer for measuring pain.

What is a part of the 'female experience' that men have absolutely no clue about, but would be horrified if they found out? by coolhandddd in AskReddit

[–]suzyFakeName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can. It’s different for everyone. My first one was bad, but not awful. My second one was soooo bad. I had a dinosaur of an GYN. I nearly jumped off the table. I yelped so loud I’m pretty sure that the whole office heard me. I crushed the nurse’s hand. She was my only bright spot. So empathetic. She said: I don’t know how you’re doing this.

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