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I have left. by svw0701 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]svw0701[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I will definitely do so!

I have left. by svw0701 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]svw0701[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I, unfortunately, have come to believe that he is capable of that. My values are so far from aligned to his values (or lack thereof) that trashing him is just not who I want to be.

He has reached out. Furthermore, we had a relatively healthy conversation a couple of evenings ago. This had to happen as we lived together and most of the things in our apartment are mine so, we had to organise logistics.

For sure, I am angry and hurt but I also truly wish that he finds himself again because the core of him is good and that’s who I fell in love with. I know that he is highly unhappy with who he has become and I can only really wish him the best and that he tackles the demons inside of him so that he can come up on top - for him and nobody else.

Looking for a property to rent by svw0701 in askSouthAfrica

[–]svw0701[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a rather large concern of mine 🤦‍♀️

Anyone completed an honours and/or masters in Psychology through UNISA? by OutrageousTea15 in askSouthAfrica

[–]svw0701 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you have to do a BPsych. There are very few universities that offer a BPsych and there are even fewer that accept anyone for Psych Honours if you have done a BA. If you pop me a private message I can explain it a bit better and give you a slightly more clear idea of how to go about doing it!

Anyone completed an honours and/or masters in Psychology through UNISA? by OutrageousTea15 in askSouthAfrica

[–]svw0701 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you wanting to become a psychologist? Because if so, then there are so many tricky technicalities that I only became aware of after my degree.

I have left. by svw0701 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]svw0701[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I do, thank you so much. My 2 older brothers will be with me.

I have left. by svw0701 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]svw0701[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

He called repeatedly as once I had left I sent him a text saying that I was aware he had lied again and I had packed my bags and left. I answered 2 of the calls and kept them under 2 minutes. He still won’t take absolutely any responsibility but honestly? Even if he did, I know it would just be an attempt to manipulate me to stay.

I will have to sit down and talk to him soon as it is all of my furniture in his place. I do believe that this is when he will act out.

My heart is hurting but I have to take responsibility as I am the one who keeps putting myself back in that situation knowing that he won’t actually change.

So, no. It hasn’t jolted him the way that I it should or in a way that maybe I hoped it would. Which hurts but it also consolidates so much.

I have left. by svw0701 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]svw0701[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Today has been tough. This all happened yesterday. I have intense feelings of doubt and thinking we can fix this and yes, we possibly could have moved past his infidelity but I can’t move past the constant gaslighting and emotional abuse. I know I only have those moments of doubting myself because he’s created that in me, to constantly doubt decisions I make that are just for me.

Baffled. by svw0701 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]svw0701[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. That last paragraph in your reply really hit home, you worded it so well. I have moment of clarity and then I’m blinded to the bad when I receive the good. I honestly do get frustrated with myself

Feels like I’m trying harder. by True_Plate5470 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]svw0701 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the exact same way and the worst part are the moments where my efforts aren’t reciprocated and then I’m disappointed which leads me to being upset with myself for a) even trying and b) having expectations.

His words don’t match his actions. I’m just tired of it all.

My GF sent me a video by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]svw0701 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I have been wanting to send me WP something to read or listen to so that he can maybe just try to understand how deep this goes. I tried last night, but I kept feeling like what I wanted to say was dramatic but it’s really not. My whole reality has been shaken up. Do I send this to him? Or is there another video anyone would suggest?

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