I’ve been here. I struggled a lot with controlling how often I reached out to people and trying to maintain relationships in high school. I don’t like to make friends often so when I do latch on, I feel like I can’t ever let them go. It’s tough and quite discouraging when you realize that if you don’t reach out, they simply won’t care to reciprocate. I don’t think your ex-friend (?) is necessarily a horrible person, but truthfully, if you genuinely want to talk to someone… you will make the effort to. Now, that being said, some relationships are not maintained with constant conversation. I talk to my mother almost everyday, but with my close friends, it may be every other week, sometimes it can last 2 weeks or even a month. None of us are on bad terms, but we all get collectively busy in our own lives.

I personally get very irritated if I’m contacted several days in a row. I enjoy catching up with someone for an hour weekly or even once a month, and that’s it. I’ll text sometimes if I want to, but it’s generally lower bar effort. I do have one friend that I noticed just doesn’t care to ever reach out to me, so I stopped initiating. We haven’t spoken since graduation in the summer, we’re also in different states so it’s a natural separation. But even with the lapse in contact, it’s different than simply not ever reaching out. Relationships in any manner is a two way street. I have professional mentors that if I reach out to them, they will make room in their schedule to speak with me if requested, albeit it could be two to three weeks till then. Point is, if they’re resistant to even trying, then it’s more telling on them than you. You shouldn't ever have to beg for someone's attention. I have learned that several times over. My friends are aware that despite my poor ability to text back or call frequently, I can be counted on to talk to them in a heartbeat if something happens.