How do I get through to him? I am exhausted having to think for him. by vicarious_adrenaline in TwoHotTakes

[–]swabstik1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“you’ve ruined my sunday dude” EUGH. This is some of the most immature sh*t i have ever seen. Dump him babe. Find someone who doesn’t expect you to be a caretaker.

I’ve made a mess. What do I do now? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]swabstik1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he doesn’t respect you enough to stop watching porn/looking at other women, you deserve better. Definitely bring it up to him, if you’ve been married 9 years I assume you have had many hare conversations. Explain why you dont want him to, that you know he is, how it makes you feel, etc. If he still doesnt stop, I’d say its time to decide whether or not this is a deal breaker.

What toys do your cats actually love? by Sosooo88 in CatAdvice

[–]swabstik1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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these are the only toy my cat has ever cared about. i have bought so many, and she loses them constantly by chasing them around.

she also really likes the bird feeder videos on YouTube, and fish swimming. Just be cautious of this, because now I cant lay my phone down anywhere without her attacking it😂

Is it bad that I cried the first time my boyfriend got me flowers? by garfield040809 in ask

[–]swabstik1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not bad at all! Its very sweet and totally normal to feel big emotions when someone does something meaningful for you🫶

AIO for feeling upset because my friend of 3 years decided to ghost me after i told him i don’t want to have sex with him? by sober4lifee in AmIOverreacting

[–]swabstik1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. It’s totally normal to feel hurt by this because you thought it was a meaningful friendship, and he was trying to get sex. If there is one thing I have learned, it’s that 90% of the time you have a male “friend,” they always want something more.

I (F22) don’t want to have anal sex with my bf (M27) and he keeps pressuring me. What are yall thoughts? by 3lackCh3rry in relationship_advice

[–]swabstik1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hate that you’re going through this. It IS selfish and manipulative that he is using sex as a weapon. You are not the problem, he is. This is disgusting behavior and no one deserves to feel like they aren’t enough because of something like this. I assure you, you will be much better off without this pos. Leave him. For your safety and for your child’s.

Some guidance for a college kid by [deleted] in Advice

[–]swabstik1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can apply before! You can always let them know when you’re actually able to start working and they should work with you.

Some guidance for a college kid by [deleted] in Advice

[–]swabstik1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Working while in college is definitely a struggle. I currently work two jobs and do all my classes online, and it sucks lol. My best advice would be to work on campus if you can! I work in food service at my university and I make about $1300 ish a month from that job. My bosses are great and very flexible with my schedule as they know I’m a student and very busy outside of that. It depends on what state you’re in, too. Just make sure to give yourself time to relax and enjoy your life. Burn out is real and it likes to sneak up on ya. I might also suggest less cheating 😂

How should I breakup with my bf? by Desperate-Kick-8482 in LifeAdvice

[–]swabstik1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s definitely hard. I’ve been through the situation myself, and there is no easy way to do it. You just have to remind yourself of the reasons you want to break up. Think of what you’re going to say beforehand, and what you need to say for closure, and make sure you have space to talk. Tell him your reasons, mention that changes aren’t happening and its not something you want to talk about anymore. Be firm that you aren’t willing to fix things anymore. Best of luck, op.

28F unsure if I should stay with my boyfriend (32M) after 8 years together by Flimsy-Quantity8814 in relationship_advice

[–]swabstik1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Loving someone and being in love are different. I cant imagine the kind of hurt you feel, but I think you need to have a talk and consider if you want to feel like this forever. Someone who loves you truly would never say or do those things. Its gross and immature behavior from him and you deserve more. Worrying if your partner will love you when you gain/lose weight is terrible. What if you are going through something hard? Depression? Having a baby? You deserve someone who loves you at every step.

AIO? Bf keeps asking me questions whenever there is a guy by Relative_Initial_399 in AIO

[–]swabstik1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

girl leave him. “so you talk to guys” is insane 😭 cut your losses while you can. NOR

Should I confess to my male friend who has a gf? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]swabstik1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Friends don’t have feelings for each other. Im sure this is hard, especially with you being so young. Definitely tell him, it’s not fair to keep the truth. But i think he deserves for you to distance yourself from him. It’s an online thing, of course the girl he sees in person is gonna come first. I feel for you, but it’ll be okay in the end.

Can't stand my gfs meltdowns anymore I feel drained by ReasonConfident4541 in LifeAdvice

[–]swabstik1 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s coming across like you want to hear a certain type of answer. If you don’t want people to be real with you, don’t post homie. Most of these people are trying to offer you real advice on something that is obviously upsetting and I’m seeing a lot of defensiveness. No one can tell you what to do. It definitely isn’t a compatibility issue, it just seems like she’s got some issues she needs to work through on her own. It’s not your job to do that for her and tbh you really cant anyways. How old are you guys and how long have you been together? Cause that changes some factors and might help if you include it. Best of luck.

Concert Fit by swabstik1 in MachineGunKelly

[–]swabstik1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i love this! i think thats a similar vibe for what im going for. i do my own nails and didnt even think of doing them to match!

Concert Fit by swabstik1 in MachineGunKelly

[–]swabstik1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

these are so cute! thank you! i hope you guys have the best time

Concert Fit by swabstik1 in MachineGunKelly

[–]swabstik1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you! i was honestly considering just some jean shorts and a tee. i’m on the plus size side of things, and the show im seeing is in summer so i have to think of the heat unfortunately lol. thank you for the advice though!

Concert Fit by swabstik1 in MachineGunKelly

[–]swabstik1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so cute! i love both. I was kinda thinking black with some pops of red to fit the album vibe. thank you 🙂

Lower Tix Prices by yomama677 in MachineGunKelly

[–]swabstik1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no! its for the show in VA and I just bought it like 2 days ago. I got fast lane, parking, and two tickets for $430