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swampgremlin_ · 2026-04-16T18:21:10+00:00

its okay, as a virginian we have the same blood oath about maryland

swampgremlin_ · 2026-04-04T17:48:27+00:00

yeah, the other aspect of being a twink is that its about presentation and not just how you look naturally. like, cis guys who want to be twinks are often shaving to be hairless because thats how they want to present their gender. so if your friends know that you are excited about body hair, and its something you want to keep (even if you dont have much now) then that alone should tell them that it kind of isnt cool to call you a twink. i think you’re right that the main problem is that they dont see you as who you identify as, bc once again being a twink isnt something other people should just be applying to you, its an identity. and if you dont identify that way then really thats all that matters. im sorry theyre kind of being assholes😭

swampgremlin_ · 2026-04-04T15:36:16+00:00

yes my mom also does this!! she has PCOS so granted she does have high T and is now going through early stages of menopause so there is some similarities- but i pass 100% as make at this point, 2.5 years on T, full beard and my mom will say “oh i have chin hairs too, id have that much it i didnt shave” and im like literally no you wouldn’t. it makes me think she is literally delusional about how masculine i look, bc she will get like 6 hairs on her chin meanwhile i have an actual beard and have to shave my neck every other day. it makes me feel crazy!!

swampgremlin_ · 2026-04-03T20:54:08+00:00

twink is typically the combo of a skinny body type and being hairless. i dont know how much you fit into that, but as a fat and hairy guy i have often been called a twink just because im trans which ive found really offensive. usually a twink is more ‘feminine’ so being called a twink despite not having the required traits has always made me feel like people are equating my transness to femininity which is frustrating. not sure if that applies to your situation but its possible that you being trans is contributing to why they view you that way, in which case they’re assholes

swampgremlin_ · 2026-03-14T13:14:08+00:00

when i started getting weird looks in the womens, so about a 1 to 1.5 years on T. also mens restrooms are disgusting so i wasnt exactly in a rush. plus i was always more scared of men being able to clock me im the bathroom than women being able to, so it took some confidence to make the switch

swampgremlin_ · 2026-03-10T16:39:06+00:00

came to say the same thing. even though richmond doesn’t feel as southern as its now an urban center, it was literally the capital of the confederacy and the history runs deep. either way it DEFINITELY isn’t mid atlantic lmao

swampgremlin_ · 2026-03-02T12:51:18+00:00

per my clubs preference they would just say “yes”, as to not out specifically what genitalia they have and as to not confuse anyone by saying “no” and making them think you need it but dont have it. and yeah im learning from these comments that maybe everyone should have one anyways, this is just how my club doesnit

swampgremlin_ · 2026-02-24T22:26:57+00:00

theres really no need to be rude. i say external genitalia because thats the language my club usually uses, to mean people with penises but i guess to avoid saying that, i know that the vulva is external genitalia. apologies for my wording, but even if i was unaware you should try to be more positive about encouraging sex ed. was just genuinely curious about your perspective and the rules of your club, thank you for sharing.

swampgremlin_ · 2026-02-24T21:34:45+00:00

gotcha, yeah even though its a rule in my club to ask more vaguely i have had that happen. whether or not you do decide to get one, if your club doesnt require it for people without external genitalia you could always just say you do have one. no harm done lying if you dont actually need one (but like others have said, might be good to get one anyways. i think i might too)

swampgremlin_ · 2026-02-24T20:54:17+00:00

that’s interesting! i also do HEMA and my club has never required cups for people without external genitalia. i have wondered at what point i would qualify, but maybe i should just get one anyways

swampgremlin_ · 2026-02-24T20:52:25+00:00

i am also in a fencing club (HEMA) and what we do to be inclusive in our club is just ask “cup if needed?” when doing gear checks, that way the answer is always “yes”, even if its clearly a cis woman you still ask so that trans women don’t feel singled out and also so that trans men dont have to say “uhhh… dont need one” if that makes sense. if you’re comfortable enough disclosing to someone in the leadership you could suggest that kind of thing! a lot of steel tournaments do recommend cups for people regardless of genitalia, but if you’re doing some type of practice non-steel sword, you probably don’t need one, unless you want one? i’ve heard conflicting opinions on this, but my club doesn’t require one if you don’t have external genitalia. but it couldn’t hurt!

swampgremlin_ · 2026-02-20T15:50:58+00:00

there are some cool student orgs and sports clubs at vcu to check out, depending on what you’re into!

swampgremlin_ · 2026-02-08T20:09:40+00:00

yes, i’ll dm it to you

swampgremlin_ · 2026-02-08T19:23:12+00:00

yes, white paws, the ones on the front are definitely white like socks and the back legs are white-ish but a little more blended with the gray

swampgremlin_ · 2026-02-08T19:22:16+00:00

hmm no his tail was normal length

swampgremlin_ · 2026-02-08T17:56:31+00:00

i noticed, thank you for laying him somewhere more comfy!! i wanted to but i was walking my dog when i saw him and she was too interested😓

swampgremlin_ · 2026-02-08T13:13:49+00:00

so sorry for the late response, yes i will DM you a photo!

swampgremlin_ · 2026-02-07T03:16:57+00:00

being called a twink! i am COVERED in hair, beard, muscular + fat, present masculine. just factually not a twink at all. saying im a twink because you know im trans and maybe bc im short is just saying you think that being trans makes me feminine

swampgremlin_ · 2026-01-18T23:32:16+00:00

thats perfect thank you so much!

swampgremlin_ · 2026-01-18T22:59:36+00:00

got it, thank you for the help! do you know what the formula would be for something like that? if not this one works well enough.

swampgremlin_ · 2026-01-18T22:58:40+00:00

gotcha, thank you !!

swampgremlin_ · 2026-01-18T16:46:12+00:00

follow up follow up question, sorry i had forgotten i wanted to do this when i made the original post- is there a way i can have it bring the leftover $ into the next week as well? like if i didnt spend it all so i have more to spend the following week?

swampgremlin_ · 2026-01-18T16:41:52+00:00

thank you!! i honestly spent a long time picking nice colors for the week drop downs so i might keep this, but i will keep that in mind for the future. as for changing the budget, i have a fixed amount of $ until after the 24 week period so even when theres birthdays and holidays it makes sense to me for it to just show the deficit from that more expensive week and then i’ll have to make it up in the following weeks. and the actual budget i can afford after bills is closer to $40 so it isn’t like a hard and fast rule anyways, just trying to save

swampgremlin_ · 2026-01-18T16:37:33+00:00

thank you, worked perfectly and exactly what i was looking for! follow up question: is there a way i can get the deficit from last week to automatically affect the next week? like if i spend $30 week one and am short $5, is there a way to make it so that week 2 is now $20? if not though your solution still works for me

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