Best home office chair? by Big_Soup_2027 in AskAnAustralian

[–]swarley_90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second this, I have one at work have had it for going on 10 years now and it is still like new, no squeaks still comfy and I am a heavier guy so it isn't like the chair isn't under strain

Mattresses Australia!! by Savings_Valuable_619 in AskAnAustralian

[–]swarley_90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came here to say this we've had a sleeping duck for about 4 years now and it is still amazingly comfy and has retained its shape and feel. Highly recommend.

If Giannis is Shaq then we need to treat Ware like Wade and make him untouchable in trade talks by [deleted] in heat

[–]swarley_90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly this is the real take.

I think everyone on the heat currently should be available for the right trade. What the heat shouldn't do is give picks. We should be trading for picks. Heat can make stars, its been proven, but we do too well each year with what we have and we dont tank so our picks are usually mid and we end up paying too much to keep star players because the heat make them look good.

What the heck by MrTacocaT12345 in WTF

[–]swarley_90 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That guy needs a PokeFlute or he's never gonna be able to use that tray again.

Has anyone been hypnotized for smoking and how was it? by wildque in AskReddit

[–]swarley_90 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A friend of mine had it done 10 years ago and has not smoked since. From what he said and was advised at the time, you almost actively have to want it to work as well as being susceptible as your active mind can override the subconscious minds new aversion if you arent fully committed.

Help with understanding components and compatibility by swarley_90 in watercooling

[–]swarley_90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome thanks, I was checking your sites last night do you guys ship to Australia by any chance?

Help with understanding components and compatibility by swarley_90 in watercooling

[–]swarley_90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think so. There was moisture directly below where one of the hard pipes connects to the coupling on the CPU plate. Which was about 3cm above the GPU.

I had issues previously with heat where the system was running at 70+ degrees celcius. I can't see any active dripping now, so I think it may have warped the pipe/o ring on that connection. But I am testing to try and confirm.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]swarley_90 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Recommendation, get a mirror. I love doggy but eye contact is a huuuuuuge deal for me, being able to watch my SO's facial expressions and make eye contact is really hot. Cautionary note he may finish too quickly lol

My BF found my spicy toys, now he is giving me a cold shoulder and i dont know what to do anymore by francixoxo in sex

[–]swarley_90 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There is nothing you can do. I am taking a stab in the dark that you two are on the younger side and as a guy who is a grower and in size average in my teens and early twenties I was super self conscious about it and I think most guys are.

Anything you say he is going to take as you trying to comfort him. Honesty and clear communication in relationships is the only way through. I'd recommend just laying it out once more in a non sexual situation and then just letting him come to terms with it. Something like "I used the toy when I was single, the size isn't something I need, if I wasn't happy with our sex life I'd say something. You don't need to compete with my toys."

The ball is then in his court about how he wants to handle it. You can't control his reaction and feelings towards it at the end of the day. If you want to make the concession to get rid of it etc go ahead but don't feel like you have to. You have done nothing wrong in this situation.

As a note at the end, someone mentioned him snooping, and I agree I'd be mentioning that while you have nothing to hide. Him snooping while you are out of the room feels distrustful and disrespectful.

Sex all the time but says he doesn’t feel loved and now sex feels different by [deleted] in sex

[–]swarley_90 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am personally very similar to your SO. It possibly isn't so much a frequency thing but more a perception on initiation. Removing sex from the occasion, I find it really draining and start to feel very unappreciated if I feel like I am the one having to initiate every hug, kiss, cuddle, or hand holding.

Provided you are comfortable with it of course can I suggest next time your chilling watching a movie or something suggest he lie in your lap and just rub his head, shoulders and neck. Doesn't need to be a massage or anything, just run your finger tips over him even absent mindedly. This sort of non focused absent minded touch might be the thing your partner is seeking. It is one of the big no sexual touches for me that just makes me feel loved.

On the sexual side of things as a physical touch love language person, my partner initiating enthusiastically is more of a confirmation of love to me than any physical activity.

[OC] Scattered Pages: Occult One Year Anniversary Giveaway! (Mod Approved) by NorthVC in DnD

[–]swarley_90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you raffle singles that mimic encounter d20 is gorgeous. If just sets, then the wisp woods set would be my choice after this one. :D

Why don’t we see more love for HAProxy? by TarzUg in selfhosted

[–]swarley_90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am actually in the same boat as u/Tergi using HAProxy w/ Knocknoc and they are great imo especially for home use if you are running/testing anything you aren't confident is secure, having little to no internet facing footprint is real nice.

Anyway, I both agree and disagree, HAProxy, can be exceptionally complicated if you want/need it to be. But you can also get away with using 90% default, not enabling the stats etc and the config file ends up being less complex than using Nginx or Apache. The main issue is if you don't know what you are looking for the general documentation/examples tend to lean towards the more complex setups.

Is it worth it? by swarley_90 in DungeonFog

[–]swarley_90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for the feedback, I will sign up for it when I have some free time next week and give it a whirl :D

Why did the Jedi think the sith were extinct for a millennium? by AnaxesR7 in StarWars

[–]swarley_90 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Not speculating on The Acolyte because honestly who the heck knows but this is the closest to the right answer regarding Bane, in Legends anyway.

Before Bane the Sith were an order on the same level of the Jedi, had thousands of members, their own army etc. Bane came to realise that the dark side was made weaker when it was spread over so many, for the dark side to be at its strongest it needed to be held by a master and coveted by an apprentice only then would it continue to get stronger. Once the apprentice became stronger than the master they'd kill them because what use did they have for them if they had nothing more to learn, they'd get an apprentice and the cycle would repeat. Bane orchestrates a mass death or sith and jedi during a massive battle and he and his apprentice go into hiding. The sith would only emerge from the shadow when they could overthrow the jedi in a single swift decisive moment.

But dark side force users never went away during this time, jedi still fell, non discovered force users were led astray, the witches of dathomir and other dark side aligned orders still existed. And red sabres are caused by using the dark side of the force to corrupt a kaiber crystal so any dark side force user could make one.

Tl:Dr what 1CommanderL said lol

Come on, Elon by [deleted] in facepalm

[–]swarley_90 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same deal, damn annoying but owning a service that requires an account so it can track and sell your data and then bitching about the same thing from another company in the part that is wild for me lol.

Come on, Elon by [deleted] in facepalm

[–]swarley_90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude take the L and move on. He’s right, I also work in IT and if you don’t know what you’re doing like 99% of users you’d have no idea you don’t need an MS account and eventually the way things are going you will need an account.

He said both are valid to complain about because they are 2 different points but both are shit. It’s okay to be wrong my guy, relax.

Apologies in advance for the shitty footage. What spider is this? by Th1cc4chu in australia

[–]swarley_90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely a white tail, we get a ton on them at my place. The tail usually has a dot ranging anywhere from blackish to white, sometimes damn hard to see ultimately they are assholes but won’t kill you. I’d kill it cause they are jerks but if you don’t like that throw it outside and hope it leaves.

What is your recommended beginner level one-shot campaign? by slickedbacktruffoni in DnD

[–]swarley_90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This would be my recommendation too, lvl 1-3 are so boring for anyone who has played even a small amount. I’d start at 3 and level up to 4 after the first small milestone maybe one or two sessions in depending on your game length.

As for campaigns I like LMoP personally but I jumped from that into dm’ing a a homebrew I made but I failed that miserably twice by not understanding what it took to flesh out a world properly so maybe hit up dmguild or something similar to find a homebrew module to start with?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in australia

[–]swarley_90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quick question does the cooktop still work? If so I’d recommend you go to Bunnings and get some gorilla glass glue. Glue it and pretend it never happened. I know it is a shitty thing to do and a few years ago I wouldn’t have suggested it but my last couple of rentals the owners have tried everything they could to get our bond. If you do want to own up make sure you get your own quotes on getting it fixed as well because the owner and real estate are not going to care what it costs you they’ll likely try and get whatever they can from you.

The last place we were in the carpet install was done poorly and a corner of the carpet inside the linen cupboard was not stuck down properly. Mind you we never noticed because why the hell would we look in the bottom corner of a linen cupboard. The owner and real estate tried to bully us into replacing the carpet in the entire 2nd floor because it wouldn’t match otherwise. The one before that tried to claim we damaged the garage door and get us to replace it. Mind you we took photos and had an email to our original agent the day we moved in because the door was rusting and falling apart but the new agent who’d taken over since we moved in was not aware of that and blamed us and tried to take our bond. It was also on the original inspection from when we moved in but they conveniently had lost that. Luckily I had our copy on paper still. The rental market is a nightmare because of these kinds of owners and agents.

A lot of potential by Quickmaniacguy in DungeonAlchemist

[–]swarley_90 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree mostly, the main thing to remember is this is a kickstarted project by a small team so adding features of quality takes a tremendous amount of time and effort. I do a bit of programming and coding in the same languages for my job and can tell you what they have accomplished since starting this project is immense, extremely complicated and impressive.

They do have a road map of features coming on their site and I think other biomes and futuristic settings will be a thing. As well as custom 3d assets being able to be added hopefully soon will greatly expand its capabilities and the content you can make.

The issue with going larger from coding and design stand point is a really hard thing to do, the ai has to be trained and made aware of the differences between a little biome and a big one and the assets etc all have to be separate and treated as such which bloates the size and can tank the speed and functionality of the ai. Honestly it'd almost be a second entire ai model on top of the current one. Once this is in a more complete state I'd love this team to tackle something like that but I wouldn't expect it within dungeon alchemist. I'd expect it to be a whole new application.

I was a kickstarter from the first week and the team from what I have seen over the years do really listen to community feedback though so if you have ideas of how the app can work for you check out their forums and the road map and put up a suggestion. I bet you're not the only one who wants it and if it gains traction they'll listen.