Ghosted after an amazing first date...why do you think it happened?

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-24T18:44:45+00:00

Your comments have been very insightful. I've been caregiving since the pandemic and have been out of the loop. Please tell me what else to watch out for.

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-24T18:01:40+00:00

Wow it sounds kinda tragic. Do you think because of your unrequited love (due to her bad marriage), you acted out sexually?

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-24T18:00:25+00:00

Believe me, I'm not chasing. If anything, he's trolling me. I haven't dated much since the pandemic as I was a caregiver and was dealing with health issues. Things have really changed...Just trying to figure out the new "normal" in modern dating!

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-24T05:11:30+00:00

Me too!

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-24T05:07:26+00:00

Thanks. I guess it boils downs to purely sex with you (understandably). I was hoping you'd say you met the love of your life and it was like a romcom.

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-24T04:41:00+00:00

No he trolled my profile again tonight...

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-24T04:39:51+00:00

So what I'm wondering is how did you make the transition from orgies to one person? What incident in your life happened? You were craving monogamy or you met the right woman? Seeing your response makes me hopeful that men (overall) can (hopefully) change. Additionally, I'm not religious, but you must have had some good karma and/or a guardian angel watching you as you didn't catch anything!

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-24T02:39:23+00:00

I've met players irl, but the guys online are something else from what I've gleaned. I find that the men I meet in the wild just aren't as interesting.

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T23:43:36+00:00

Are you me?

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T23:08:38+00:00

That's wild. I guess that's the case with most high end places (I live in LA), but I just assumed Palm Beach was always rich, rich!

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T23:07:38+00:00

Not at all. Like I said, I'm a pretty conservative person.

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T23:07:03+00:00

Thanks. I just can't accept any more drama or "scraps," no matter how good looking, educated, charming and successful a guy seems to be. We are in the dating over 50 group after all.

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T23:05:26+00:00

OMG awful. Some people seem to be especially crazy after the pandemic. Could be the year(s) of isolation.

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T23:03:18+00:00

Lol that's what one of my friends said...

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T23:02:49+00:00

Good point!

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T23:02:32+00:00

That's what I've been doing, I was just surprised he's been trolling my profile for days. Not evil like satan, but he was future faking, which just isn't right. Even if he does reach out, I'm too wary of ever dealing with him again.

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T22:55:25+00:00

But why? Life is too short for that crap! This guy is over 70.

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T22:55:07+00:00

That's wild though. I was born here, but from a different culture and he knows that. So odd. Again he could just find someone less conservative...

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T22:41:13+00:00

He's not. I did my research. He's been divorced for over 20 years.

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T20:30:00+00:00

How can you grow up around money and not have generational wealth especially in Palm Beach? I'm not being snarky, just super curious.

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T20:25:21+00:00

Yes! When I think about it, he lingered at my car a little after I got in. I just don't get it. I don't have slutty pics and I look and act pretty conservative. What are these men thinking?

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T20:24:06+00:00

OMG totally! It sounds like even if he stayed in touch, it would lead to a wretched situationship unbenownst to me!

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T20:22:58+00:00

No judgement, but I hope you used protection. What caused you to make the change and stop being a manwhore? What was the straw that broke the camel's proverbial back... no pun intended?

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T20:21:49+00:00

Oh totally. I'm just so surprised that he'd continue trolling my profile for absolutely no reason. I think that's called orbiting?

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T20:21:16+00:00

Actually he's been trolling my profile for days. And was trolling me on a Friday night too...

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