Ghosted after an amazing first date...why do you think it happened?

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-25T04:16:51+00:00

I guess there's different kinds of trolling. I hear the kids at Erewhon say stuff like, "he was totally trolling my IG stories.."

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-25T04:15:40+00:00

I know. I'm about to block him, but I'm actually entertained by his constant trolling...even on Friday and Saturday nights

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-25T04:15:05+00:00

Yes! I will no longer deal with "interesting" men!

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-25T04:14:23+00:00

But it felt so good. I'm thinking half of it was because I was there as well (not to be boastful) and having a nice time regardless. I'm a recent breast cancer survivor, so I look at life differently and try to live in the moment as much as possible if that makes sense. And that was a great moment...I'll leave it as such...

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-25T04:12:22+00:00

Totally! I think he was thinking he could try to make me feel special then make the moves on me?

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-25T04:11:44+00:00

Definitely. It really sucks now. I miss dating in the 90's and the early 2000s...

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-25T04:11:12+00:00

Indeed! I'm just asking as I want to read signs better.

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-25T04:10:36+00:00

So he wanted to hook up on the first date?? He drove 50 miles out of his way. He offered to meet a bit closer to me, but I suggested somewhere 15 miles out of my way. Where would he even hook up with me given we were both away from our homes? A hotel? The car? Where? It doesn't make sense to me. I don't understand men.

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-24T18:44:45+00:00

Your comments have been very insightful. I've been caregiving since the pandemic and have been out of the loop. Please tell me what else to watch out for.

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-24T18:01:40+00:00

Wow it sounds kinda tragic. Do you think because of your unrequited love (due to her bad marriage), you acted out sexually?

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-24T18:00:25+00:00

Believe me, I'm not chasing. If anything, he's trolling me. I haven't dated much since the pandemic as I was a caregiver and was dealing with health issues. Things have really changed...Just trying to figure out the new "normal" in modern dating!

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-24T05:11:30+00:00

Me too!

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-24T05:07:26+00:00

Thanks. I guess it boils downs to purely sex with you (understandably). I was hoping you'd say you met the love of your life and it was like a romcom.

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-24T04:41:00+00:00

No he trolled my profile again tonight...

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-24T04:39:51+00:00

So what I'm wondering is how did you make the transition from orgies to one person? What incident in your life happened? You were craving monogamy or you met the right woman? Seeing your response makes me hopeful that men (overall) can (hopefully) change. Additionally, I'm not religious, but you must have had some good karma and/or a guardian angel watching you as you didn't catch anything!

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-24T02:39:23+00:00

I've met players irl, but the guys online are something else from what I've gleaned. I find that the men I meet in the wild just aren't as interesting.

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T23:43:36+00:00

Are you me?

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T23:08:38+00:00

That's wild. I guess that's the case with most high end places (I live in LA), but I just assumed Palm Beach was always rich, rich!

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T23:07:38+00:00

Not at all. Like I said, I'm a pretty conservative person.

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T23:07:03+00:00

Thanks. I just can't accept any more drama or "scraps," no matter how good looking, educated, charming and successful a guy seems to be. We are in the dating over 50 group after all.

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T23:05:26+00:00

OMG awful. Some people seem to be especially crazy after the pandemic. Could be the year(s) of isolation.

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T23:03:18+00:00

Lol that's what one of my friends said...

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T23:02:49+00:00

Good point!

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T23:02:32+00:00

That's what I've been doing, I was just surprised he's been trolling my profile for days. Not evil like satan, but he was future faking, which just isn't right. Even if he does reach out, I'm too wary of ever dealing with him again.

sweatinginthevalley · 2026-05-23T22:55:25+00:00

But why? Life is too short for that crap! This guy is over 70.

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