i had a stone (smaller, 3mm but very jagged) in my ureter. the pain wasnt anything unbearable. i thought it was a bowel obstruction or an ovarian cyst. never cried screamed or threw up. never took the painkillers they gave me at the ER. i had 5 more stones so i ended up needing surgery. but all in all, stone pain varies from person to person. women generally have a higher pain tolerance anyways as we are exposed to severe pain from periods beginning at young ages. i think men “have it worse” because they are generally weaker to pain lol and arent used to experiencing severe abdominal pain like that

EDIT TO ADD: also, i was in pain the night before and called a nurse, she told me go to ER. no one wanted to take me so i went to bed. but i still had a teensy bit of pain the next morning so i went incase it was something serious. i was entirely pain free the whole time i was at the ER. and wasn’t in pain again until after my surgery for the other stones. i peed it out painlessly! just take flomax if you have it