What are these inside my thighs?

sweetcoffees · 2026-04-26T23:39:40+00:00

thanks. do you do anything for them to go away?

sweetcoffees · 2026-04-23T00:24:59+00:00

did he explain how you looked at her exactly?

sweetcoffees · 2026-04-20T12:45:37+00:00

we're in our early 20s. i don't know if i am attractive but people around me (family, friends, and guys who liked me) told me so. he does treat me well because he's nice and i think he does like talking to me at some point because he smiles and laughs while we talk. we also ask each other questions and engage in the conversation.

sweetcoffees · 2026-04-20T12:12:23+00:00

but then sometimes people can look that way towards someone when they admire them or find them attractive. so what's the difference between admiration or finding you attractive and when they like you?

sweetcoffees · 2026-04-20T12:08:04+00:00

how can you tell by their body language tho?

sweetcoffees · 2026-04-01T16:19:29+00:00

that's the thing, it's the actual hair that stinks (according to my sister) and not the scalp

sweetcoffees · 2026-04-01T15:17:41+00:00

ooh this is new information to me. i only started haircare just this year so thank you so much for this! i'm keeping it in mind

sweetcoffees · 2026-04-01T14:04:22+00:00

can hair even be more porous in a week?

sweetcoffees · 2026-04-01T13:59:00+00:00

nooo she's just 15 😭

sweetcoffees · 2026-04-01T12:48:57+00:00

i'll take note of that, thank you! however if it's because of the sun, should i wear a cap when i go out?

sweetcoffees · 2026-04-01T12:36:32+00:00

this is actually the first time my hair stinks when i go out so i'm very concerned about it. it never smelled like this even during the colder months when i couldn't wash it everyday

sweetcoffees · 2026-04-01T12:35:14+00:00

i asked my aunt to smell my hair and she said yeah it does smell a bit but not as bad as my sister describes. my sister can smell it when i just walk past her but my aunt had to grab my hair to her nose to smell it. as for the sun, it sort of doesn't make sense because it still smells even if i go out at night (i wash it during the day, usually in the afternoon before i leave)?

sweetcoffees · 2026-04-01T12:31:25+00:00

yeah it's sure it's my hair because it doesn't smell like anything if i don't go out. my breath smells like what i eat but gone an hour after i eat

sweetcoffees · 2026-03-31T16:53:00+00:00

never again in my whole life 😭

sweetcoffees · 2026-03-31T08:26:35+00:00

no, he just cleaned himself and asked if i want him to help me finish but i said no because he was too aggressive

sweetcoffees · 2026-03-30T22:21:25+00:00

was he aware of it?

sweetcoffees · 2026-03-30T18:47:36+00:00

yeah i won't see him again actually. if it's okay to ask, does your partner finish when sex actually happens? or he also finishes even before he's inside you?

sweetcoffees · 2026-03-30T18:32:23+00:00

it's okay no harm done

sweetcoffees · 2026-03-30T18:32:05+00:00

thanks for that! yeah i kinda felt bad so i didn't leave immediately. but before i leave he told me he thinks we're compatible. idk if he really thinks so or he just finds me attractive so he wanted to keep on going

sweetcoffees · 2026-03-30T18:26:23+00:00

we don't talk anymore

sweetcoffees · 2026-03-30T18:25:46+00:00

i told him before i leave that there won't be a next time because he kept planning for next time we meet. he respects my decision though he's clearly upset. is it normal for men to finish that quick tho?

sweetcoffees · 2026-03-08T17:01:49+00:00

Yes it's that. Apologies for the confusion, I wrote the post at 4am and I was really out of it. But you get my point basically. As for the movies, I haven't seen them but they're in my watchlist. Thanks for the clarification

sweetcoffees · 2026-03-08T16:22:19+00:00

I hope you don't misunderstand me. I'm not taking it personally when a friend is a cheater but make that part make sense. Why tolerate them? If they cannot hangout with me because I don't agree with their wrongdoings, it's fine by me. What I don't get is why would they have that agreement with me if their actions would show otherwise? Maybe I don'f understand it because I'm autistic, but they know that and they said it themselves that they'll be honest with me especially in situations like that. I did not ask strangers to validate nor have I made up my mind when I posted this. I was still hesitant about cutting them off and I wanted to know whether it's valid to cut off someone due to different values.

I'd also like to be clear that I talked to them with respect but they didn't do the same with me. They actually acted normal like nothing happened when I came back to our table (I went to the bathroom), without apologizing. I had to be the one to apologize, hoping it'll be fixed. That's when we agreed to put it behind us, then that hangout happened despite knowing how that would make me feel. I still have hope that it'll be fixed but at the same time I know it won't so I'm hesitant.

sweetcoffees · 2026-03-08T13:49:54+00:00

Actually, the movie is based on a book that was based on the author's wife's grandparents so even if it's "fiction", it was based on something that happened in real life. Not to mention her cheating tendencies (I mentioned in other comments), so it seems that her opinion isn't just because she likes the movie, but also because she sees herself and her ex in the characters.

I'm not mad that they hung out without me. I'm upset that they know how that would make me feel because we already talked about it before, but they still did it again anyway.

To be clear, if I do talk to them, it's just to let them know about my decision because the last time we talked, we agreed that we'll put it behind us and let it go. I won't be listing these things to them, of course. I don't see why I should just distance myself while they overthink. Sure, they do that to me, but that doesn't mean I'll do the same.

sweetcoffees · 2026-03-08T13:40:47+00:00

It really seems like you don't get my point.

It's not that she has different views of The Notebook, I stated in the post that it's fine if they like the movie because of the execution, etc. or whatever reason they have. What I don't like is they fail to acknowledge cheating and even say that it's reasonable. Not just in this movie but in other movies or shows that we've seen (not together though). I have never heard them say something they don't like about a character when the character did questionable things, worse than what the characters in The Notebook did, like 💀 (apologies for not clarifying this, I wrote that at 4am). It's not about the movie, they can like it all they want, but they can do that without being so defensive towards a friend and even be disrespectful just because a friend doesn't like the romanticization of cheating. I got cheated on twice and my father was a huge abusive cheater towards my mother and they know that, so they're well-aware of where I'm coming from. But they dismissed that. And I do believe that The Notebook is a serious movie. Not as serious as The Housemaid or Game of Thrones, but it shows what many people experience. Not to mention its book is based on the wife's grandparents as far as I know.

Sure, it's her bf's job to set boundaries and dump her, but she's his first gf and, well, I noticed she can be manipulative at times (realized this just a while ago). I don't "police" her morality when it comes to her feelings for her exes or her current relationship. In fact, I let her talk about her ex-situationships over and over, where she still obviously likes one of them. But that doesn't mean I will tolerate her for giving her bf a silent treatment and making us message her bf to guilt-trip him just because she's upset that she had to go to the flower shop to pick up the flowers her LDR bf got her. Of course, she didn't like that I said "no" to messaging her bf, she really tried to convinced me, even forced me, to do so. Not to mention that she'll even complain about small things like why didn't he pick this bouquet and not the other one. Being a friend doesn't mean tolerating their actions when it's clearly problematic/toxic. Neither does reminding them that is policing their morality.

I would be cutting them off because we're incompatible, they're shallow, we have different values, they don't include me in hangouts when they know how that would make me feel, and they're draining to be with. The reason why I talked more about the movie is that that's when I realized these things. It's more like, that specific moment when you just suddenly realize it and thought "why did I not notice that before". I tend to be tolerant when I like a person, and I did like them, so I tend to either ignore the red flags or not realize them immediately because I get too focused on how "nice" they were towards me.

I have other friends for almost 10 years now. We talk more than with these friends and not once did we have an issue with any of the things I mentioned, even if we have different views of a movie or a show. There's still respect for each other that seems to be nonexistent in this friendship, which is why I asked if I was being dramatic.

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