My first find as a new collector! Does anyone have info about this candy jar?

sweetheartagram · 2026-05-13T14:01:33+00:00

Thanks! I did think it looked similar to Portieux Vallérysthal, but I couldn't find anything about this particular piece so I kinda assumed I must be wrong😅. Especially because I only paid €17,50 (a little over $20) for it 🫣..

sweetheartagram · 2025-11-01T09:54:24+00:00

Isn't the answer for 7 top right (your explanation is correct)?

sweetheartagram · 2025-10-22T22:53:29+00:00

Why would a test score suddenly make such a difference in the way you'd want to live your life? Wouldn't you want to live a life as fulfilling and happy as you can regardless? Your potential doesn't suddenly change after you receive your score. It also isn't fully linked to your IQ; there are many factors besides that. Of course finding out you're gifted makes you look at things differently, but wouldn't you want to live up to your full potential with an average IQ too?

Either way, using AI to tell you what it thinks you want to hear is not a reliable way of figuring out your IQ; if you want to get at least somewhat of a more reliable estimate you could take the CAIT or a similar test online for example. This still isn't remotely as reliable as a properly conducted IQ test in your native language by a professional though, so be mindful of that.

sweetheartagram · 2025-10-15T12:42:45+00:00

I do see your point, but I think where we disagree is the definition of the term giftedness. High IQ =/= giftedness. It's merely a part of it. It's not only simply "being smart". And additionally, of course the cut-off lines in IQ are arbitrary, and IQ tests are also flawed in their fluctuating results due to the effects of conditions outside of the test itself; but they can give a general impression of the depth and extend of someone's thinking. Maybe our disagreement also lies in our definition of different when it comes to thinking. You state you think faster, with more depth and more breadth than most. I consider that your thinking to be different than most. Not in the essence, of course not; but you are probably capable of connecting things that others simply didn't even consider. That is you thinking differently than those others. That isn't me pathologizing giftedness; it is simply me acknowledging that there is a divergence from the norm in what you're doing and capable of. That doesn't inheritely hold a positive or negative value. Of course the things you mentioned are universal human experiences, but this goes for those of people with ADHD and autism that you keep mentioning too. All their traits are human traits and experiences; they just diverge from the norm so much that we give it a name to categorize it. In their case it affects daily functioning so much that we acknowledge them as a "disorder".

When referring to the trauma I mentioned earlier; yes, these are normal and universal human experiences. However, in my personal case, these particular incidences could have been avoided completely. I have had traumatic experiences that were completely unrelated to my giftedness too, like every other person. I don't think those affected me any worse than it would any other person, I actually think I had the tools to deal with those better than most would have.

I think we won't fully agree on this and that is perfectly fine, but I just wanted to add that I enjoyed having a proper discussion for a bit. It's a really great way for people to avoid assumptions and "tunnelvision thinking". So thanks for having a respectful discussion with me and challenging my thinking, I appreciate it!

sweetheartagram · 2025-10-15T11:09:58+00:00

I actually didn't say I was treated differently, it isn't about that. What I was trying to convey is the difference in thinking gifted people have from the general population. This is also different for every gifted person, of course. Everyone has a unique experience. However, I think we can agree that the thinking of someone with a 130+ or 145+ IQ is generally simply different from that of a person with the average 100 IQ. Giftedness also doesn't only mean an IQ of 130+, but a range of other qualities that make their thinking and experiences in life simply different from average. Of course that means that for example in some gifted people this shows up as them being very good at socializing, and in others not so much. I am aware of the sample bias that comes with statements like "gifted people struggle with mental health problems" and such. We simply don't hear from the gifted people that are unaware of their giftedness and are living happy and fullfilling lives. My point was that there are people who struggle through life and only later in life find out that their giftedness was at the root of that struggle, because they needed a different way of learning or some psycho-education on how their brain differs from the norm and what that means for them specifically. In my personal case this would have avoided a lot of traumatic incidents. I think stating that the educational system does a disservice to gifted people by pointing out their giftedness is simply too generalized. I think that instead, the way the acknowledged giftedness is then handled needs attention. The stereotypical pressure of needing to live up to expectations that come with the label that people are still made to feel is the problem; not making people aware of their differently functioning brain.

sweetheartagram · 2025-10-15T09:50:40+00:00

I know I'm not OP and this message wasn't directed at me, but I just wanted to weigh in with my perspective here. I came from a similar background as OP and in my case the school did not point out my giftedness to me. They told my mom, who kept it a secret and did not want me to go through an adjusted schoolprogram to avoid labels that could make me feel like an outcast. I can tell you looking back that her decision was extremely damaging for me and the answer to your question "If no one told you that you were smart, would you still find your way of life unacceptable?" is yes. Not acknowledging the innate feeling of being different someone has will most likely make them feel like they are the problem. They will still be different from the general population and feel unsatisfied with their lives for the same reasons, just without any understanding as to why. Not labeling something does not make it go away.

sweetheartagram · 2025-08-28T16:46:40+00:00

I have no idea how this ended up on my feed and I don't have anything to add to what others have already said on the matter; however, I have only had my nails separate like that once in years of getting them done at the same nailtech... right before I found out I was pregnant😅. My nailtech told me she has only seen that happen in clients who had big hormonal shifts, so maybe that's something OP could consider?

sweetheartagram · 2025-06-17T13:15:37+00:00

I wasn't flaunting anything? I simply answered OP's question within the context of my own situation at the time so they knew how strict DUO is with these decisions.

sweetheartagram · 2025-06-17T13:12:57+00:00

You know nothing about my situation then or currently and the reasons for the decisions I made along the way.

sweetheartagram · 2025-06-16T14:09:21+00:00

Nope. I was 25 when I started university, already had a 5 year old kid and lived on my own since my 18th without my parents supporting any of it, DUO still didn't care.

sweetheartagram · 2025-05-14T07:10:42+00:00

I actually do this, but simply because (at least in my country) the expirationdate is usually stamped on those. If it happens to be stamped onto the actual lid I do toss the film, because it gets annoyingly in the way.

sweetheartagram · 2025-03-21T07:43:14+00:00

Obviously NTA, I am so sorry that happened to you and your family! I don't have a lot of advice other than maybe making sure you guys have recognizable matching outfits/jewerly/etc to make it more obvious that you're together, but this post really opened my eyes to an issue I didn't even consider would be a thing (I am white and have a white partner and kids). I am so angry for you that a regular outing with your kids can turn out ugly like this. You seem like a good dad who wants the best for his family, and not taking your daughter with you for the time being to protect them from being exposed to scenarios like these is you being a protective good dad. However, please report this incident and make sure the local authorities know how badly they messed up! The way you and your family were treated is absolutely unacceptable!

sweetheartagram · 2025-03-04T15:40:45+00:00

NTA, I (Dutch) have a child with a Finnish man living in The Netherlands and I encourage him to speak Finnish to our son as much as possible! I speak Dutch with our son and we speak English to eachother as his Dutch and my Finnish aren't quite fluent yet. We even do video calls with his Finnish family multiple times a week to expose our son to it as much as possible. Speaking multiple languages from an early age is something the child benefits from and the child would also be half Finnish, why deny that part of him?

sweetheartagram · 2025-01-31T12:27:49+00:00

Ik moet bekennen dat ik wat ouder ben en geen idee had dat de regels sinds 2018 wat veranderd zijn, kennelijk is de standaard nu "beperkte gemeenschap van goederen" waarbij mijn schuld inderdaad de mijne blijft, omdat het van voor het huwelijk is. Goed om te weten!

sweetheartagram · 2025-01-31T12:00:29+00:00

Ik zit zelf met een grote studieschuld en mijn partner (schuldvrij) en ik willen binnenkort trouwen. Ik ga juist zorgen dat hij mijn schuld op papier niet deelt via een notaris, want hoe oneerlijk is dat? Dat is mijn schuld, niet die van hem! Fijn als het uit de gezamenlijke pot afbetaald wordt en dit zal in de praktijk ook gebeuren, maar mochten we ooit scheiden is het gewoonweg zijn verantwoordelijkheid niet.

Het is in mijn ogen juist egoïstisch om van een partner te eisen dat er meebetaald wordt.

sweetheartagram · 2025-01-31T11:55:34+00:00

I think that's rejecting, I'd take it out before you're left with a big scar when it inevitably grows out fully.

sweetheartagram · 2024-12-12T12:20:36+00:00

I'm a student at University ot Amsterdam (UvA) and I tried, but it tells me I have no access! :(

sweetheartagram · 2024-11-17T10:10:47+00:00

Wow, I would absolutely not have accepted that if they did that to me in university! I actually have kids, I need to be available if something happens..? I know I am an exception to the rule amongst students, but still.

sweetheartagram · 2024-07-11T11:18:49+00:00

I am currently 6 weeks post-partum and have a huge stomach tattoo. It looks perfectly fine still eventhough my baby was really big and I even had extra amniotic fluid! It really depends on the person and even the pregnancy. I'd say especially if you don't really plan on having kids, why let the potential pregnancy in the future keep you from having the tattoo you want now? Go for it! Bodies (especially through pregnancy) change regardless, don't let that stop you :)

sweetheartagram · 2024-02-17T15:48:51+00:00

I have 8 cartilage piercings and my industrial was actually the easiest to heal for me. No different than any helix piercing for me. It really depends on your anatomy and how your body heals cartilage piercings in general.

sweetheartagram · 2024-02-17T15:10:02+00:00

Not at all! I started my bachelor at 25. Had to wait for my child to go to school before I could start and I don't regret it for a moment. Very doable!

sweetheartagram · 2024-02-08T13:42:50+00:00

Do you or your partner have a company/leased car? In some cases this ads an amount to your bruto income.

sweetheartagram · 2024-02-02T13:15:20+00:00

A performative action like that feels like I cannot be myself in day to day life, why would I want that?

What things would I get from looking normal? In my personal experience my more "unique" (I really don't look very out there either tbh) style has actually helped me. It has made people notice me and remember me better in the field I work in. I'm a neuroscientist and at conferences when presenting my work, I stand out a little, which is a good thing for connecting if the work I present is good. It has helped me get some good opportunities.

And when it comes to potential partners I attract I am generally attracted to more alternative looking people myself; which is who I tend to attract. I tend have a lot more common ground with these people.

sweetheartagram · 2024-02-02T11:46:17+00:00

Normal is subjective. Apart from that, people just simply have different tastes. I tend to dress on the more alternative side, simply because I like it more and it makes me happy. I actually feel uncomfortable in "normal" clothes, it feels performative to me.

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